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Kathy1013
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Disgusted
Kathy1013
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So I was with my ex for 8 years. We broke off our engagement when I was about 2 months pregnant I am now 5 months we just couldn't get along. Anyways he begged me to take him back about a month ago and thinking about all the years we spent together and giving my daughter a chance to be born into a family with mom and dad together. Well last week his phone was going nuts at 2:30am and I finally picked it up and there were texts from a girl he was obviously messing around with. He admitted to me he slept with her about 2 weeks before. I am so disgusted, upset and feel so betrayed. Why beg to come home and you cheat?! I obviously kicked him out again and am done for good and he keeps saying how sorry he is and blah blah blah but I just feel so dumb. I cried from Saturday night until Monday morning and actually made myself so sick I had to call into work today. I don't understand 8 years and a baby on the way and he threw it away. I know who the girl is and it's taking all of my power not to send a nasty message to her on Facebook, I know it wouldn't make anything any better if I did it but I want to so bad! Thanks for listening to my rant, I just don't really have anyone to talk to.
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Re: Disgusted
sorry to hear that,
Its gotta be super difficult! I don't understand why some ppl do what they do, But stay strong and do the best for you and the baby!
Oh and the fbook messaging thing.. Its so tempting but really not worth your energy! It usually makes things worse lol Just focus on you and the lil one
Whatever you do, DO NOT message that girl
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's an awful feeling when someone convinces you to let your guard down only to betray your trust and hurt you. It doesn't make sense, and just hurts. I'm sorry
I agree, not to contact her and I would also cut contact with him for now. He really needs to think about what he did and get his priorities straight! You all are having a baby together and sleeping next to you isn't going to fix anything so you both can be civil and have a decent relationship for your little one.
I would suggest you going to get some counseling. I say that because I had to while I was pregnant so I could learned to bring my anxiety levels down and learn better ways to deal without medication. Also he needs to go to counseling to pull his head out of his rear end. Not saying that you all will get back together, but it will be a good slap in the face for him. I would also make some rules and stipulations for him to follow, such as the counseling.
30 - Waiting to TTC#2
PCOS -Fibroids -Type 1 Diabetes
I am sorry you are going through all that. I know how painful infidelity is to deal with, and I am sure it is even harder on you right now when you are pregnant. If you do not have anyone you can talk to you might consider seeking counseling like another poster mentioned just to help deal with all the emotions. Don't focus on the other woman. Focus on staying healthy for yourself and your baby.
And do not take him back again. He obviously has some issues and it will continue to be a cycle until he chooses to stop it.
Vent as often as you need to, we are always here!
If you really want him to go to counseling, then you need to put your foot down. I wouldn't put up with that kind of stuff. It's for your child, not about him. I would tell him to his face he needs to grow up and be apart of this or not at all, but that is also how I was when I was pregnant. I'm a poo or get off the pot person.
30 - Waiting to TTC#2
PCOS -Fibroids -Type 1 Diabetes