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I cannot wait until Monday morning because it will be SS first day of summer camp. He has been with us two weeks tomorrow and I hate to say it but he's driving me crazy. I have been off work since he has been here and while I have enjoyed some of the activities we have done (museums, monuments, Capitol) I haven't enjoyed his sh!t attitude. I know it is hard to adjust from one household to another especially since we have rules and guidelines in ours, but BM isn't making this any easier. For example she told him he didn't have to do chores at our house bc it sounded "tiring" and he doesn't have to eat his vegetables if he doesn't want to. While I was vacuuming I found him hiding in a closet and playing on his ipad. When I asked him to try a green bean and another night a cucumber, he fell to the floor and burst into tears. I just need a break. SS will be in camp for two weeks and then the rest of the time he is here DH will be off work.

BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012

BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013

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  • HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member

    My FFFC is that I never truly appreciated my dad and all his sacrifices throughout my life until I met my husband and saw things from a dad's point of view.

    My DH has two older daughters (that have pretty much no relationship with in the last 2 years) and the heartache it has caused my husband makes me A LOT more patient and appreciative of my own dad. I was never close with my dad and I come from an intact family.

     I am more of a hugger and talker with him than I ever was before.He laughs when I commiserate with him about things I did/said in my young. dumb and stupid days.

     

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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member
    My DD went out of town for 5 days and my SS is with his mom until today. Yesterday and last night we only had DS and other SS (13) and it was soooo nice. We have always had three kids so four was really no different but my gosh two is wonderful!!!!! I wish it was like that more often. 
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  • SigirSigir member
    Dh
    I am so annoyed that you constantly ask your parents for advice on things, and I often feel like their opinion outweighs my own. When you do this I wish I could have a one day break frm you like back when we were dating.
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    I guess this is a confession!
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    My FFFC - I am so effing glad that SS is taking two weeks to go see his mother this summer. 

    The first week is when I am going to NY, but the second week is right after that. I get to come home to a quiet house.  

    My second is to just reiterate my post from last week.  I will be handing over all responsibility of my 4yo to my mother for two glorious days. 

    Here is to peeing without an audience.  

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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    I was looking forward to a nice quiet Friday night and Saturday... then H told me that he is getting SD this weekend.  I was expecting him to have the kids on Sunday, but not the rest of the weekend.  Blah...

     

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  • AlohaloveAlohalove member
    My step-kids' mom has had them for most of the month because they're on summer vacation.  She usually has them 4 days a month, even though she lives less than 5 minutes away.  I wish the schedule was more balanced and she had them more often. I love the time I'm getting with my baby and my husband. I'm not sure how much more of the regular schedule I can take.  
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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    imageAlohalove:
    My step-kids' mom has had them for most of the month because they're on summer vacation.  She usually has them 4 days a month, even though she lives less than 5 minutes away.  I wish the schedule was more balanced and she had them more often. I love the time I'm getting with my baby and my husband. I'm not sure how much more of the regular schedule I can take.  

    I can't even imagine seeing my bio kids only 4 days a month when living this close. 

     

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  • twister22twister22 member
    I keep b!tching about being 20ish lbs overweight, but have done absolutely nothing to change it. I need to start eating healthy and exercising. I have been a lazy @ss and done neither. Really, I just want the weight to magically fall off.
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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    I wish I could just magically get on with life since the hearing. I have cried, I have beelat the pillow, I have just kept mouth shut and been quiet to avoid saying anything ugly to SD about her mom. I seriously am having a rough time with this. I am heartbroken, terrified, and really just depressed. I feel bad that I am taking this harder than DH. All of the advice I have ever received or given here is lost out the window right now.

    I want to become that spiteful, hateful, uncooperative SM that knows no boundaries. I want to make life as difficult as possible BM. I want to freaking follow her around everywhere just to catch her in something.

    Just knowing SD is thinking about BM again makes my teeth grind and my skin crawl. I hate feeling like this because I know eventually SD will be able to pick up on it. But we have made so much progress for it all to get screwed up now!

    I keep thinking, what if something worse happens? What if next time it is too late to fix things? I don't ever want to have to answer the question about why we didn't protect her.

    And I can't say this to anyone in real life. I feel like if I just came out and told BM exactly what I thought about her and told her she was a piece of excuse for a human being and that she should just walk away forever, I might feel better. And who knows, in her mental state, it just might make her give up and do SD a favor.

    Sorry this got long. I just really needed to get it out.
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  • hopankahopanka member
    Ambervan, I say DO IT! I'm so pissed with you. I'd say, find her and *** her out. Tell her she's a piece of shiit! I think she should hear it! She raped her kids!! She should hear you say it out loud what an screw up she is.
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  • whse13kittenswhse13kittens member

    My FFFC is this:

    I really do like BM, and I'd love for us to be back to where we were to be cordial, but her inability to meet halfway to help get the kids to us (45 mins away) or her asking for the boys during our weekends to "spend time as a family" with her and her boyfriend since her boyfriend has a rare weekend off, and then leaving them home alone while she and the boyfriend go out REALLY make me upset. 

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  • shelbisorrell9002shelbisorrell9002

    We have similar problems with his BM. SS is 4. I love him to death. Here we're big on manners, eating fruits and veggies, and picking up after yourself. His BM, not so much... 
    At first we had a lot of fights, but we stood strong on our rules. Luckily my SO and his family have major discipline in their household. It's like.... We love you. We provide for you. You do what we say when your at our house. That's it. Doesn't matter what mom does or what she says. We're never mean, we never yell, we never argue. We just state, "When you finish your veggies you can get up from the table." If they whine, yell, anything... we just repeat, "When you finish your plate completely you can leave the table." We play afterwards and everything goes back to normal. 

    It's a big deal that both of you are on the same page and always reinforce rules together. Never get frustrated, kid's can sense that.... and feed on it.

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