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October 2013 Moms
jennlin
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STMs: how have your L&D room attendance preference changed?
jennlin
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mobile: STMs: how have your L&D room attendance preference changed?
my dad laughed as he was asking me if my mom would be in the room again with me (because i've teased my mom that her faces were probably worse than mine. as she wasn't handling my pain well).
i had only my mom and h in the labor/delivery room and this time i do plan on keeping delivery room the same, but i think i will allow people in during not-as-intense labor, this time, since i feel kinda bad that i left my dad and inlaws literally in the waiting room w/o seeing me for 13 hours. plus i'll have a LO that i would want to see on occasion i think..............are LO's allowed in laboring rooms? she'll be almost 2.
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Re: STMs: how have your L&D room attendance preference changed?
With #1 we had an induction, they hung out for a little bit and it was a long induction, like 3 days so they ended up leaving then we had a csection and they were all there right after that. I liked that the 1st time because I needed some extra help with some things, so it was nice to have my mom there.
With #2 it was a repeat csection, there was like 7 of them in the room hanging out before the csection, then it got pushed back 2 hrs and I kinda was freaking out. After I got done it was a little overwhelming having them all there as they had taken DS to the NICU and I had alot of my mind I guess.
With #3 this one we were just talking about it. I would prefer to have some one on one time but that will not happen without hurt feelings and making people upset, its not worth it as I will have plenty of time shortly after and noone will try to hold the baby until I get a chance. I just want to make sure everything goes well and I am in a good place before my 2 older kids come in to meet the baby, so I assume we will have siblings/parents waiting for us and then see the baby and leave shortly after thats what happened with the first two.
Last time we had a doula, this time we won't. I labored for a looooong time at home with DS, this time will be a VBAC so I won't be able to stay home as long. While in labor in the hospital my mom, MIL and dad all came in the room just to say hi (this was mostly after things were going downhill) but the plan was for it to be only me and DH for the delivery, which of course it was since it was a section. This time I wouldn't be opposed to people coming in during early labor and maybe even full-on labor (we'll see how I feel at the time) but it will just be me and DH for the delivery.
Actually I'm not even sure yet who will be at the hospital and who will be at home with DS, or if DS will be at the hospital... I guess that partly depends on the time of day.
eek. this is what i'm afraid of.
No change for us. Just MH, midwife and some random nurse.
But I also labor at home for as long as possible. During that time I usually hang out at my inlaws house for a distraction and so we can leave the kids. Last time was perfect for me, I delivered DD2 2 hours after getting to the hospital.
My original plan was to have DH and my mom in the delivery room. I ended up with a c/s so it was only DH. But while I was in labor they were in there with me. They were both so annoying. LOL I was in so much pain and needed it quiet and they were chatting & texting, etc. ANd my mom kept looking at the monitor and telling me when a contraction was coming which i did NOT want to know. And DH looked like he was gonna cry every time I moaned. But, if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change it
This time I'll prob have a c/s again, but if I go into labor on my own before the scheduled c/s I'd like to try a vbac. And then yes it will be DH and my mom.
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It will be the same this time. While I am laboring I don't mind immediate family in the room. It helped make the time go faster.
They left after the doc reported that we were ready to deliver. They left the room for each check prior to that.
I don't think we'll change anything on that this time, except to have DS there too.
We'll do the same thing - just me and DH and call family once baby arrives. I was induced, so much of the day was "just wait and see" and even then it was just DH and I. But, no one asked to be there either.
I think it's weird that people want to wait in the waiting room, but if someone wanted to, go right ahead. My family has better things to do with their time and luckily, they live local so that they can do that.
I'll have an 18 month old and I don't need him seeing me in the hospital. He can wait at my sister's house!
DH and I lightly spoke about this today.
My mom promised to watch DD while I am in labor and will bring her to the hospital asap after she is born. My whole family (mom, dad, and two brothers) hung out in the waiting room like champs my entire labor. My mom was in and out of my L&D room a lot and stuck around for the birth. I absolutely loved having her there, she is my rock. It makes me really sad that she won't be there this time. TBH, I have cried because I know she won't be there (thanks, hormones). I know DD will need her more than I will because she is so attached to her and if I can't be with her for hours on end my mom will be a huge comfort for her. We will also ask my parents to watch DD over night so DH can stay at the hospital with me and the new baby. I can cry again just thinking about it.
I do not think my hospital allows children in L&D. At least not during active labor. They also do not allow them to stay overnight in the recovery rooms, either (which makes me sad, even though I completely understand why).