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Deciding To Be 1 and Done

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Hi all! I've never posted to this board before, but I have a question for those of you who are one and one by choice.

 Did you always plan to be one and done?  Or did you initially plan of trying for more LO's, but changed your mind after having the first?

 I'm curious because my H and I always discussed trying for two children, possibly even three, but I'm not so sure that I want to anymore.  

 I'm not sure if it's just the newness of motherhood overwhelming me or if this is a feeling that will last, but I wanted to get some insight from others.

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  • RoseypantsRoseypants member
    Honestly, I think we decided after we had our daughter. I think at this time we are 1 and done. That's not to say I will never change my mind. My husband has said he only wanted 1 several times and I would never push him to have another. The first couple of months are super stressful, and I had to return to work after 6 weeks off so I didn't get much time. I don't honestly think we could afford another one even if I wanted to. I love my daughter and for now she is all I need :)

     

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  • tifdaski84tifdaski84 member

    We had disussed being OAD before LO arrived due to my H's age but then agreed to talk about it more afterward.  Once LO got here and we saw how hard babies are and how much having him rattled us (and our relationship - things are better now), we decided that we would definitely be OAD.

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  • KL777KL777 member

    Pre-Mommy days I had no real idea what it took to parent a child.  So, probably like many, I originally said I wanted 2-3 kids.  Then DH and I had our first and I really enjoyed all the time I got to spend just with DS. 

     

     As DS got older I started looking at reality, how expensive and time consuming it would be to parent multiple children.  DS is a handful, some days I feel like I'm parenting multiple kids.  Then I went back to work after SAH for 3 years and there is no way in the world I would I want to add another child into the mix, mentally or financially.

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  • MomToNeenersMomToNeeners member
    I knew well before that I would be OAD. I have too many health issues.
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  • kristenndkristennd member

    We'd originally planned on two.

    There are many reasons that we changed our minds, but we did wait until LO was about 18 months old to start seriously talking about it. We made a point of not making actual decisions about *anything* while sleep deprived and otherwise overwhelmed by the new experience.

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