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twinkletoes3126 · June 2013

mypeanut12 · June 2013

Oh the lovely unsolicited advice!!!! I work with my mil and bring B to work once a week. I get to hear constantly how to do things or "that's not how we use to do it" (she had my husband 30 years ago) I finally got to the point I couldn't take it anymore. I blew up and told her B is my child I will raise her the way DH and I want to. We do not need your advice. Now when she makes comments I always say " I got this" if she continues I tell her I don't need her advice.

I would just tell her thanks for the advice and continue doing what you want. If she continues have DH tell her to back off. If she still continues and doesn't get the hint, tell her she has already raised her children now its your turn to raise yours.

I am so sorry you have to listen to her crap. Best of luck hun!!!

mben1119 · June 2013

My standard response to bullshit advice is : Thanks, I'll take that into consideration. Then go on doing what you know is best for your LO.

smileybabyboy · June 2013

I get it from an older lady who has two grown children (not a family member). I just smile and say "oh ok, oh that's a good idea, maybe I should try that," and then ignore it all. She is constantly trying to shove her parenting skills down my throat and acts like she knows everything there is to know about child rearing. It is quite annoying.

Ms. Lisi · June 2013

I get this kind of stuff from my SIL. And we have two completely different parenting styles. She is completely AP, and while there are things about AP that I respect, I am not an attachment parent. Well, except the baby wearing, I wear DD all the time. In my heart I know it is coming from a good place, that she just wants DD to be happy, but I feel like saying "Raise your own kids, let me handle mine". I have to keep reminding myself that she doesn't mean any harm. I did finally have to let DH tell her to ease off. He actually told her she was being offensive. Now we just kinda take whatever advice is given and shrug it off. We all do what works best for us.

twinkletoes3126 · June 2013

I think I am going to have to find a way to nicely say something. I can generally shrug it off but with 5 days straight with her, I worry I may lose it.

BootsyLou · June 2013

I used the "I'll take that into consideration" when my SIL repeatedly gave me unsolicited advice.

beccalee721 · June 2013

There's only so many times I would be able to use the "thanks for the advice" or "I'll take that into consideration" if I'm stuck with the person for 5 straight days. Lucky for me, my MIL lives on the other side of the country so that's one person I haven't had to deal with the advice from, but when it comes from other people and theire criticizing something I'm doing with MY child. I tell them that this is what works for us, and she's fine. AKA I know what I'm doing and I obviously haven't killed or permanently damaged her yet, so back off. So no, I'm not going to give my LO jello if I don't want and her face is always a mess and I'm not going to constantly try to clean it because within 5 minutes she's going to be a mess again. Thanks anyway MIL! lol If nothing else, that's when it's time for your DH to step in and try to nicely talk to her. If it were your mother irritating him you'd be the one to handle it right?

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