I need to vent ... might be a little long

tamararachel2 · June 2013

My MIL lives in Puerto Vallarta. She and her husband retired there about 3 years ago as it has always been their dream. My FIL passed away last year and after contemplating about moving back to the states or staying in Mexico, she decided to stay in Mexico. Problem is, she has no job. They were living off of my FIL's disabled and military retirement and now she is having trouble getting that money, but she's really not trying very hard. She sold a house she owned in Cali to have money to live off of and somehow she is already out of money (or close to it!) DH and I cannot help her as we were stuck in limbo the past 2 months due to the sequestration and DH is just now starting things back up with his federal job. He's told her that she needs to just leave Mexico and we've offered to let her stay with us. He told her we can't help her unless she comes back because we don't have the funds to give her. She says she just doesn't know. I get more and more pissed when she calls and tells us about the places she goes and mini-vacations she's taking with my SIL and I'm like WTF?! You have money that is going away very quickly and asking for our help and you're doing that?!?! DH and I don't do ANYTHING because we need to have the money to move halfway across the states again. I don't know where I'm allowed to stand in this situation. I've told DH that she has to move back and I refuse to let him give her money, but I'm afraid if I say anything else, it will cause a fight.

tamararachel2 · June 2013

I should add that she needs a lawyer to help her get her husband's money each month, but she just plays instead of trying to contact a lawyer. I've even contacted lawyer's for her, but they need to talk to her. I give her the info and she says she'll do it, but never does

lady dixneuf · June 2013

don't give her a dime

and this is worth a fight.

Mrs.G123 · June 2013

lady dixneuf:
don't give her a dimeand this is worth a fight.nbsp;

This.

Heater2010 · June 2013

I agree with pp. You're doing a lot just by offering for her to live with you. And it is worth a fight if you think he's leaning towards helping her. Why help someone with money when they use it for unnecessary things like vacations when they need to live? Yes, it's very sad she lost her husband, but like someone said, the dream has to change. She should be happy she lived it for as long as she did.

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