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wtf appt and feeling blah

k10teachk10teach member
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We went to our wtf appointment yesterday and our RE does not really have the greatest bedside manner, so I was pretty much dreading the appt.  It went somewhat like I expected:  he said we have 3 options and in the order he recommends them:  1) donor eggs with a friend or family member  2) donor eggs using an anonymous donor 3) try a co-culture at Cornell

 It's a lot to swallow and my husband is pretty much done.  Aside from the fact that emotionally it is a lot to take, it is also a lot to take financially.  My sister has graciously offered to be a donor, (prior to going to the appt) but my husband isn't really sold on the fact that he would "be having a child with my sister".  So, that's where we stand.  Strangely, I did not burst into tears this time, there's this odd sense of calm.  I can't explain it, and I have no idea what it means, but at least I am not crying my eyes out! Just thought I'd share! Best of luck to all you ladies cycling now! Hoping you get your BFPs!

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Re: wtf appt and feeling blah

  • sorrellam30sorrellam30 member
    I'm so sorry. That is a lot to swallow. Give it a few days and hopefully you and DH can come up with a plan. IF more than sucks, my heart breaks for your frustration. I wish you success no matter what path you choose

     


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  • whoberrywhoberry member
    I'm really sorry.  That stinks.  I don't know your background other than what's in your sig, but I am unexplained too.  Do you mind me asking why your RE is suggesting using eggs other than yours?

     

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  • AustinAg03AustinAg03 member
    I'm so sorry. :(  Hope you can take some time to process everything and your DH comes around to whatever is best for you guys.  hugs!
    TTC #1 since November 2011
    Me 32, DH 32
    Dx: Unexplained IF
    RE consult October 2012 
    Clomid and IUI Nov 2012-March 2013 BFNs
    IVF#1 on CD10! April 2013 - ER (27 retrieved, 19 fertilized) 4/21 - ET cancelled due to OHSS. 10 frosties 
    FET#1 w/ one blast May 2013-BFN
    FET #2 w/ one blast July 2013-BFP!!! Beta 9dp5dt: 129 Beta 13dp5dt: 867 Beta 20dp5dt: 13621 Beta 27dp5dt: 53341 U/S #1: 7/31 heartbeat 127 measuring right on time EDD March 20th, 2014
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  • Sunny BSunny B member
    I'm so sorry :( I hope you both find a sense of clarity and direction.
    TTC since May 2012
    Me: 32 H: 31
    DX: MFI-Very Low Count, I have Hashimotos.
    IVF prep September 2013 cancelled due to Ovarian Cyst
    IVF #1 October 2013 Antagonistic Protocol with ICSI  ER 10/31/13 (18R 16M 11F- 6 blasts to freeze)
    ET delayed due to OHSS 
    FET scheduled for July 8. Delayed due to a crazy high TSH (it had been under control for YEARS!)
    FET #1 8/5/14 sET BFN 

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  • k10teachk10teach member
    Well, after this last cycle, they were able to more closely monitor the eggs because instead of a 3 day transfer, we did a 5 day transfer.  At retrieval I had 19 eggs, 11 mature and 10 fertilized.  By day 3 there were 5 (so it had cut in half- but was still enough to go ahead with a 5 day transfer) and then by day 5 there was only one viable  egg left.  So, it looks as though it is something to do with egg quality issue.  So, maybe I am not unexplained anymore.  Hope this answers your question :)
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