Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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My boys are just under 3 years apart and it's going really well. Some adjustments have had to be made, but it's pretty awesome.
I had DS1 when I was 35 and didn't really consider having a second until he was 2. DS1 made the adjustment to DS2 as a newborn pretty easily so it was actually easier at the beginning. Now that DS2 is moving around more and becoming more aware of *stuff* we're having issues with sharing and hitting/pushing, but nothing too bad. It's all something that I, as an only child, find fascinating.
Good luck with your decision.
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My girls are 21 months apart. We were aiming for around 2 years and got very lucky when trying for #2!!! I was told by many that with them this close in age, the 1st 18 months are the hardest and I 100% agree. I had 2 in diapers for a while which actually was pretty easy considering everything. DD#1 potty trained at 2 years 9 months. Each month, life got easier. Each stage the baby went through helped - I was not able to nurse her so my DH was able to help with night feedings and night waking. Once #2 started sleeping through the night at 4 months - life got much easier and then again, when she started on table food and when she gave up the bottle at 11 months. By 18 months, it really was way easier. Both girls were in twin beds, older DD was totally potty trained, both slept through the night, nap schedule was the same. The hardest thing for me was when the baby was taking 2-3 naps a day and they were at the opposite time of day as DD#1's 1 nap. At 10 months, DD#2 dropped to one nap and it was at the same time (after lunch) as DD#1 - life was good - we could all leave the house at the same time.
Not sure why 18 months was the magically age but it was, like clockwork. I just think at that point the baby was able to do more playing on her own and she was walking and just a bit less needy.
The issues now at ages 7 (on Sunday) and 5 - the girls love each other and are the best of friends but they also fight over many things like siblings do and since they are so close in age and close grade wise in school (going into kindy and 1st), they compete over many things and even have friends that over-lap. I love that they can share clothes and toys as they are close in size and have similiar interests. We do work hard to do things 1:1 with them and make sure they make decisions on what they want and not just what their sister is doing/choosing.
I would not do it any other way - I was over the diapers and sleepless nights in a very short amount of time. I have friends who have kids 2.5 to 3.5 or more years apart and I just can't imagine that for me. I have never been a huge infant fan and was the same way with my kids - so happy to have gotten that part over and done with and now that the girls are older, we are doing so many fun things - and since they are so close in age, we can do that without either feeling like the activity is for babies or too old for them.