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jessalynn521 · June 2013

lady_tytah · June 2013

Cost of vacation, needing a bigger vehicle, cost of extra curriculars for each kid, college expenses, time with each kids, our adult quality time, needing a bigger house, special circumstance: if both kids are in TAG the extra expense for that program....those are our main factors

piphigirl · June 2013

Reasons we are one and done:

1. Money. DH is self-employed and will probably never make heaps of money, I am a teacher. If we want to enjoy a middle-class lifestyle, pay for Charlotte to participate in activities, save for college, and travel, we just can't afford it.

2. We're not that into kids. I mean, we love DD, but we're not really kid people.

3. Neither of us feels that we benefited hugely from having a sibling. We like my sister and my BIL, but we don't feel like being a sibling defined us.

4. There are things we want to do that would be difficult with more than one child. We really, really want to take her out of school for a year or two for an extended trip. That would be logistically challenging with multiples.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

We are done. We decided to stop because we can comfortably provide for the children we have, but not very well realistically if we have more. Carson's hospital bills and lack of interest in sleeping through the night reassure me that he is DEFINITELY our last baby. Oh, dh's age too.

cedenton · June 2013

Our schedules (he works 12 hr shifts and I have to travel work fairly frequently). Cost of daycare. No family in the area. PPD/PPA. Wanting to travel.

JayandEmm · June 2013

We're done with one.

1. I have some IF issues, and I don't want to struggle with TTC again.

2. We're not "big family" type of people. The thought of being out numbered by my children makes me have anxiety.

3. It's easy to just pack up and go with one, like for vacations or even moving.

4. It's cheaper. I will never need to buy larger of what I already have; car, house, etc.

allardr · June 2013

I consider cost of vacations, traveling to see family, car we'd need, and mostly activities/experiences I want my kids to have. I enjoy being a SAHM, but with more kids I dont' think we could afford it.

2 and Threw for us

mollyxcate · June 2013

DH just wanted one because hes still active duty til Chloe is 13 and his job always works long hours and he'll likely be deploying every year to year and a half still after we finish in England, and possibly while we're in England too. He wanted to make sure he could devote his time to Chloe while hes home rather than having to split it and risk missing things.

For me I know that I'm simply not mom enough to have more than one. I LOVE being a mom, but I know how much energy I put into taking care of Chloe and everything I want to do for her, I couldn't do it for two. I know tons of moms who can, but I'm not like them. I know the amount I'd be able to give her would diminish with the addition of more kids. And selfishly I still need time to be me.

And then I read an article that said for every child you have it adds 120 hours of house work per year. I don't need to add more than I have. I can't keep up.

Also the cost of college scares me. We don't plan to pay for Chloe's whole college education if she wants to go. I think paying student loans are an important teaching tool and a great way to build credit and responsibility. But we'd like to pay half!

BluepointToasted · June 2013

I look at some families I know that have multiple children and life just seems so hectic. Every day after school is consumed with shuttling the kids back and forth between activities, dinner on the run, etc. That is just not something I can handle. My husband already works two demanding jobs, and I will always work. I know my kid will be involved in stuff, and I don't mind a few nights a week, but I can't stand being so busy that we don't have time to enjoy each other and unwind.

ks3pink · June 2013

I said I wanted three, DH only wanted two. We had twins and I got my wish. TBH is have one more. But I know that DH is already over his kid limit and it would be unfair and unreasonable to have more knowing he wouldn't be happy. We also have more than we can afford now. Of all three had come separately we would have been fine financially but God blessed us with twins and we are doing the best we can with what we have.

mrs mosby · June 2013

It was a tough call. I always thought we would have more than 2 but the spacing of our girls (15 months) solidified our decision to have a family of 4. If we wanted a third we would have to wait 3 years until DD1 is in kindergarten. Paying for 3 in daycare just isn't worth it. Also, the timing of everything. 3 years from now (hopefully) both girls will be potty trained, communicating with us, sleeping well, etc. I can't imagine going back to the newborn stage after we finally get to that point.

My boss, who is in her 50s, has 2 kids. She said right now she wishes they would've had more. But looking back to when they were little she knew just having the 2 was the most she could handle. Any more then that she wouldn't have been as good of a mom. I think that is such a great way to look at it. My girls are so spirited and I know the 3rd could be different but I don't think I'm willing to risk it

Hope that helps.

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