Is scheduling wrong?

TJ1979 · June 2013

So we are going to TTC the old fashioned way this month. I don't have high hopes as I have never ovulated on my own before. But hey, miracles happen right?

So I'm always thinking we should "do it" more often, but the next thing I know it's Friday and we haven't done it all week. Is it wrong to schedule it in my head? For example tell myself we will DTD every Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday and Sunday? I wouldn't tell MH that it is scheduled and I doubt he would pick up on the pattern. I don't want him to think I don't WANT to do it, but you know how life gets in the way.

What does SAIF say? Brilliant plan? Or ruining what should be a beautiful thing? Any other suggestions?

queenbone · June 2013

We're so tired and lazy that a schedule would be a good idea for us.

Will you be charting? That is really when I focus in on when to do it, but I understand if you aren't ovulating it might not be worth the effort to temp.

OceanBreeze1 · June 2013

Sigh. That's what I do lately. Don't worry, pretty sure yh won't notice, lol. Good luck!

mnj05 · June 2013

We aren't even TTC and I schedule it in my mind. I shoot for a couple of days a week but it doesn't always work out that way. DH doesn't even know and wouldn't notice a pattern at all. He'd just be happy to have sex at all since I have no drive at all.

Robeano · June 2013

Not wrong at all. Lots of marriage books that I've read recommend scheduling sex b/c for a guy if he knows when he's going to get it, it helps him relax and not pressure so much.

Talk to him, see if he's up for scheduling. At the very least I think women need to "preplan" b/c we need to get the slow cooker warming up earlier Wink

mdiblasi10 · June 2013

We (sometimes just in my head) schedule it too. We get so busy and tired that we have to. I love that DH now asks me too! Now that we have Grayson, he is so excited for #2 Smile

Cwhitaker27 · June 2013

Mrs.AmyDylan:
Do it!! I. Laughing also because one cycle back when we thought sex could result in pregnancy, we had been unsuccessful with OpKs. I propsed to DH that we have sex ever.single.day from period to period. Being a guy he hopped right on that train. By the end of the month he was crying uncle. DH does not like waking up before work for nookie, and some days that was all we could do.nbsp;

Haha this really made me laugh! Anyone who can go everyday for a month deserves an award, seriously

TJ1979 · June 2013

Cwhitaker27:
Mrs.AmyDylan:
Do it!! I. Laughing also because one cycle back when we thought sex could result in pregnancy, we had been unsuccessful with OpKs. I propsed to DH that we have sex ever.single.day from period to period. Being a guy he hopped right on that train. By the end of the month he was crying uncle. DH does not like waking up before work for nookie, and some days that was all we could do.nbsp;

Haha this really made me laugh! Anyone who can go everyday for a month deserves an award, seriously

We tried this before we knew about my IF. It was rough! We were both exhausted by the end.

Saraevh · June 2013

I would scheduled sex around my temps/OPKs every month so I def don't think it's crazy. We aren't allowed to have sex while I'm pregnant because of my cervix issues in the past, but I have a once a week policy for 'sexy time' ... if it's not Sunday, don't bother me. Sometimes my husband and I will make deals midweek - like if he orders pizza from my fav place or soemthing I'll let him join me in the shower that night

BAHAHA. Poor guy.

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