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January 2014 Moms
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Like you said, the chances of them hearing the HB would be better if you can wait a week. My doctor won't even attempt the Doppler until 11-12 weeks.
I know it's hard to wait, but its probably for the best!
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I would totally call - believe me I'm sure your doctors receptionist hears from WAYYYY more crazy pregnant ladies (and just crazies in general) than someone asking to be notified of any cancellations... that is a really tame and perfectly legitimate request.
Don't feel crazy... it's your doctor's job to make sure you aren't stressed and worried. It would definitely be helpful to get peace of mind before your trip too I think.
Good luck
Totally off topic, but that's an interesting statement. I don't think I totally agree with it, but I'm still processing it. Do you really think it's a doctor's job to do those things? I'm kind of thinking it's their job to help us stay as healthy as possible, and that can sometimes help ease stress and worry. But actually making sure we aren't stressed and worried isn't really part of the job description. It's just a bonus if it happens. Just thinking "out loud" here, don't mind me... (ETA: I took a college course that had a lengthy section on a doctor's responsibility to a dying patient. I found it extremely enlightening. So these types of things cause me to pause.)
Anyway, to answer your question OP, I would probably call - but if they don't have any readily available appts, I would just (impatiently) wait until next week. Waiting sucks, but if you're not actively cramping or bleeding, there's probably not anything to worry about.
While I tend to agree with you, and lean more to the side of "'my self induced anxiety os my deal"....For the sake of argument....if a doctor's job is "to help us stay as healthy as possible" shouldn't that also include attending to various mental health issues? Even if it is just a peace of mind thing?
To OP, having that said, if you are really nervous or unsettled, I'd call. Like a pp said, the receptionist probably hears from nervous nellys all day. If nothing else maybe they will connect you to a nurse who can talk you through your concerns and give you some piece of mind. GL!
BFP 5/19/2013. MC 7/2/2013 (9w6d) with est. loss at 8w. Miso 7/3/2013 and emergency D & C 7/6/2013.
BFP#2 11/6/2013. CP 11/14/2013.
BFP #3 12/13/2013. Beta #1 @ 15dpo- 239. Progesterone 27. Beta #2 @17dpo - 90. CP 12/21/2013
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. -Philippians 4:6-7
All PgAL and PAL welcome.
Haha I don't mind, its an interesting question (sorry to hijack the thread OP). In the strict sense no you are right it's not their job. And even if they try of course they can only do so much, you have the ultimate responsibility for your own mental health.
Overall I would say of course it's not their primary job but I think it is in their interests to try to promote calmness, not to mention if they can give you info to reduce stress then that can only be healthier for the baby too. My doctor did comfort me by telling me about how infrequently he personally has seen repeated miscarriages which was SO reassuring and definitely not something he had to share.
Despite the fact that doctors don't HAVE to be super reassuring, I would say I have dealt with some spectacular doctors and also some that had NO bedside manner whatsoever. While I guess you can do your job adequately without it, I think it is something that should be strongly emphasized as much as possible in med school etc because it can really make a difference.
I respectfully disagree with this. It's your doctor's job to make sure that you and your baby are treated medically for whatever issues might come up and to ensure that the kiddo is healthy and growing appropriately. It's NOT your OB's job to be a therapist or make sure you aren't stressed.
Maybe that could be taken with a grain of salt. I see a team of high risk perinatologists, and I have to say that their bedside manners are sometimes lacking. But I've never doubted the care that I've been given, and I trust them implicitly. Our relationship is based on medical advice and treatment, though, not on my PGAL craziness. :-)
Not to be a butthead, because I've had a loss before and I TOTALLY understand the paranoia and fears of the first trimester. It's about done me in this time, and I'm just 9 weeks so I still have a while to go. But trying to move your appointment up, when there's really no reason except you have a "feeling" something might be wrong, is kinda silly. Try to be patient and hang in there for another week!
It certainly can't hurt to ask for an earlier appointment. I agree that its very early to be able to find a HB on a doppler so I would try not to let that stress you out but I know that its hard not to worry about the worst.
Hopefully they can fit you in, but if not just try to be patient.
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Ah, but she didn't say "it's a doctor's job to treat mental health issues." That would be decidedly different. I mean, a doctor can certainly treat true mental health issues. And can also provide peace of mind as a by product of making sure that you and the baby are healthy. But that still doesn't answer the question -- is it really his or her job to make sure that you aren't stressed or worried? That's a lofty demand for any doctor, for sure!
Anyway, it's not really important to the OP's question. It was just an interesting thing to think about. I think I have a different feeling toward doctors than most people anyway.
I absolutely agree with all of this. The doctors who ease our fears and make us feel comfortable are the ones that we tend to love, while the ones who treat us like numbers are the ones we despise.
And you shouldn't apologize for highjacking the thread. That was totally my fault!
It's interesting how different the opinions are on this topic.
I certainly wasn't considering pushing for an appointment if they were full or had no openings. I just figured it's pretty much the same amount of time away from when my original appointment was for as next Friday, so if it wasn't inconvenient to them it might make me feel better. Not sure if that made sense...
Anyway, I think I have talked myself out of it. If there is going to be a bad outcome, there would be one tomorrow or next Friday. There isn't anything I can do about it. I will be really busy and hopefully that will keep my mind off things. I will try to enjoy not having any symptoms rather than worry about it and tell myself that the women on youtube who found the HB so early are freaks of nature (no offense to any who did- just making myself feel better).
And maybe I should get rid of the stupid doppler for a while.
Just don't bring it with you on your work trip -- that should help a little!
Yeah, that is definitely staying at home. I am going to try not to use it until after the appointment.
I have a medical history of anxiety and because of that, my doctor takes extra steps to make sure I know that, if I'm on the verge of a panic attack, better to come in and "waste their time" if I really need to see/hear something to calm down.
I've rarely had to take advantage of it, and I wouldn't "expect" that from them nor do I think it's necessarily their responsibility. I do think it's good practice, though.
I do think that bedside manner is more important and appreciated in high-emotion specialties like obstetrics.