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• 4luvof2boys

  June 2013

  twister22:

  I'm sorry you're missing your boys! When do they come back from BM's?
  
  Things to do with DH:
  -Comedy Club/Dinner Theatre/Movie Theatre/Theatre
  -Free Wine Tasting Events
  -Sporting Events
  -Road trip/Mini Weekend Getaway
  -Take a class together (pottery, cooking, archery, whatever)
  -Volunteer together (food kitchen, animal shelter, etc.)
  -Go grocery shopping together and cook a meal together
  -Do something "adventurous" Go Carting, Rock Climbing, Zip-lining, etc.
  -Play a game together (cards, Monopoly, etc.) 

  They come back on the 25th.  They are having a great time and I've been enjoying having some peace as well.  It is just really hard going from 90 miles an hour to 10.  I didn't think it would be this much of an adjustment.  Thank you for your suggestions.  We talked about it last night and decided to try walking in the evenings right after work.  The exercise wouldn't hurt us, it gives me something to do with all this nervous energy and we can still talk and spend time together.

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• 4luvof2boys

  June 2013

  xmaryrickx:

  I think this is a good wake up call that you need to make a concerted effort to maintain the health of your marriage outside of the kids. I have seen the ravages of empty nest syndrome, and all of those couples were married 25 years, and were picture perfect before the kids grew up and left. Seeing the ZOMG what do we do with each other without kids now is good, bc later it might not be fixable. Date each other. Go out to dinner. Go to a movie, go for hikes, couples massages, maybe take up a hobby like golf or bike riding. It's so important to stay connected. Sure drifts happen, but overall work to see that they stay minimal. Flirting and sessytime are also important. There is nothing wrong with needlepoint on one couch and the paper on the other though, not every minute alone will be full of excitement.

  I honestly never thought about it before now.  When DH and I met it was always busy and naturally revolved around the kids.  Six years later, this is the first time I've looked up.  I agree that staying connected is important.  I asked him last night how he was doing with it.  He said he is bored and going crazy.  So as I mentioned above, we are going to walk in the evenings - its something to do, it doesn't cost anything, and we will be spending time together.  I agree that we need to date each other again.  I jokingly told him if he didn't romance me this weekend he wasn't getting any.  He laughed and said he would be happy to take on the challenge.  Now, I'm really looking forward to the weekend.  Thanks for the feedback!

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• 4luvof2boys

  June 2013

  MrsHetzel:

  There's definitely an adjustment curve with all your new found down time. Take your time to "slow down" so to speak. Maybe dive into a tv series you both like and have a marathon. Go food shopping together and make a nice dinner. Discover all the things you had in common before sports and activities took up your every day. And simply try to enjoy each other!

  We started watching Game of Thrones last night after we talked.  Yeah..I'm hooked.  Between walking and this, I think we'll have something to entertain us for another week and a half before life ramps back up to 90 miles an hour.  Thank you for the response! 

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• 4luvof2boys

  June 2013

  Littlejen22:

  Well if you like shooting pool then do it! But you find something you both like like traveling or visiting the nearest city.

  We tried shooting pool last weekend and it was a bust lol.  The music was too loud, the bar too smokey, and we left after two games (those took us 45 min each because we both suck at it).  I told DH we were going to have to start playing BINGO at the local old folks home since we are so boring.  I used to have a lot of fun in my single days.  Who knew being a parent would suck the personality right out of me?  Thanks for your response! 

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