Ppl sharing my u/s pic?..

ScarlettV · June 2013

Mobile: people sharing my u/s pic?

I legit need someone to tell me if this is strange or I'm just being crazy.

I posted my u/s pic on fb yesterday. I have a small friends list that is very private of exclusively fam and close friends. I wanted to share the pic with the out of town ones, so I posted it.

This am my cousin 'shared' the pic on her page and for whatever reason it kind of weirded me out. She is 23 and has like 500 friends. I honestly don't want strangers looking at it. Is that weird I feel that way? There is no one she is friends with fam wise that I'm not so there really isn't any reason to share it on her page.

In reality it's kind of dumb, I mean I'm glad she's happy and its just an u/s, but still...it's kind of personal. I guess I would never do that so I didn't even think to ask ppl not to share it. Am I nuts?... I don't want to hurt her feelings by asking her to delete it but its kind of bugging me.

Nattie24 · June 2013

This is why I don't post my U/S pics, I only text to a small amount of friends and family.

You can change your settings on your pictures that only your friends can see the pictures.

I would ask her to take it down, just tell her that you are glad she is excited but this is a photo that is too personal for her to share with people you don't know. Hopefully she understands.

mplesset23 · June 2013

I think that's kind of weird, then again the whole idea of posting an U/S pic on facebook in general kind of creeps me out. I won't make any formal announcement on FB about my pregnancy either. People will just figure it out on their when I'm tagged in pics as I get bigger and bigger.

BootsOrHearts · June 2013

This is reason #4583 why I closed by FB account :-)

krislee17 · June 2013

That seems pretty strange to me. I can understand her posting something like "I'm so excited... my cousin is having a baby!" but not actually sharing your U/S pic with a bunch of strangers.

If it's bothering you, I would send her a private message/call her and ask her to take it down. Explaining that you would like to keep it within your close knit group of friends/family.

laurenmorris1 · June 2013

Nope, I'm totally with you! I would NOT like that at all... I didn't even want my husband texting the pic to his sisters... They will show everyone.. I guess I'm already possessive over this little bean.

ScarlettV · June 2013

Soozerella:
I think on facebook if your settings are private that only people also on your list can see it.. Does that make sense?nbsp;Here is a story to cheer you up:nbsp;I once got my hair done took a picture to send to my mom for how cute it was.. When I took the picture, I was topless because I was still getting ready and that's just how I do that. Well I didn't realize that you could totally see my nipple in the bottom corner of the picture and I guess my mom didn't either, because she sent it to like the entire family. Everyone else noticed.nbsp;

Lol...so sorry about your public nip, haha..

For pp: thanks for the advice; I think that the pic is only private when its on my page, but as soon as she shares it I think her entire friends list can see it, regardless of what settings I have?

F47 · June 2013

Depending on your privacy settings, her friends may not be able to see it. For instance, if my brother posts a picture of my nephew and I share it on my page, only people who are Facebook friends with my brother can see the photo.

I know this because I've asked people at work if they saw the cute photo of my nephew and they hadn't. They go to my page and the post doesn't exist for them. Because they aren't friends with my brother.

I know that's dependent on settings, so if it's bothering you I don't think it's rude at all to ask her to take it down. I'm sure she won't mind.

golfingdarwinfish · June 2013

Soozerella:
I think on facebook if your settings are private that only people also on your list can see it.. Does that make sense?nbsp;Here is a story to cheer you up:nbsp;I once got my hair done took a picture to send to my mom for how cute it was.. When I took the picture, I was topless because I was still getting ready and that's just how I do that. Well I didn't realize that you could totally see my nipple in the bottom corner of the picture and I guess my mom didn't either, because she sent it to like the entire family. Everyone else noticed.

On the plus side, at least the nip slip didn't make it onto a Christmas card! (for anyone that doesn't get this, it's a seinfeld reference!)

sportsmomma · June 2013

ScarlettV:
Soozerella:
I think on facebook if your settings are private that only people also on your list can see it.. Does that make sense?nbsp;Here is a story to cheer you up:nbsp;I once got my hair done took a picture to send to my mom for how cute it was.. When I took the picture, I was topless because I was still getting ready and that's just how I do that. Well I didn't realize that you could totally see my nipple in the bottom corner of the picture and I guess my mom didn't either, because she sent it to like the entire family. Everyone else noticed.nbsp;

Lol...so sorry about your public nip, haha..

For pp: thanks for the advice; I think that the pic is only private when its on my page, but as soon as she shares it I think her entire friends list can see it, regardless of what settings I have?

Yup you can make it so only friends can see it BUT they can still share it and then it's subject to whatever their security settings are. This is exactly why I never post pics of DS on FB anymore. People give me a ton of crap for it, but people were sharing then and had public profiles. I don't want the whole world seein my kid on the Internet.

S90Hudd · June 2013

I don't think you can really blame her. It's called a social network for a reason. I would take the photo down yourself. Everyone has seen it so just deleting it from your photos instead of making her feel bad would be the better choice in my opinion. It is strange that she shared it but its Facebook and that's what many people do.

ScarlettV · June 2013

S90Hudd:
I don't think you can really blame her. It's called a social network for a reason. I would take the photo down yourself. Everyone has seen it so just deleting it from your photos instead of making her feel bad would be the better choice in my opinion. It is strange that she shared it but its Facebook and that's what many people do.

I was honestly considering doing this actually; just deleting it solves the problem and you're right, everyone has seen it.

More in reference to one of the other pp above, I still believe in etiquette though, whether it's the internet or not. It's like, I can mail my cousin a picture of the u/s to have, and she can then opt to show it to the handyman who comes to the door. Does she have the right to do that because I sent her the pic in the first place? Yes. Does it make it any less weird? No.

JL1993 · June 2013

Maybe it's because I'm around her age but I don't actually think its a big deal.. I would consider it a compliment that she thought my ultrasound was cute enough and was excited enough to want to share my miracle. If you don't want everyone seeing photos of your baby then maybe in the future not post them on Facebook or choose to not allow sharing. After all Facebook is part of the World Wide Web and anything you post, deleted or not can be tracked down by just about anyone given they know what they are looking for.. It's probably safer to show family through birth announcements rather than Facebook if you want to keep it private.

PinkinProvence · June 2013

One of the many reasons I would never post an U/S picture on FB.

Although it may be annoying, once you put anything on the internet, it is available for public consumption to be used in any way and all ways possible. Not only can everything you post be shared, it can simply be "saved" on to someone's computer and re-posted, which would extinguish all of the original privacy settings.

I don't see the harm in asking your cousin to remove it, but keep in mind "internet etiquette" is constantly evolving and different for each generation/age group. I might never have thougt to take or post pictures of me with just my bra on, but younger teenagers and 20-somethings do and it is their "norm." She might be confused as to why this is a big deal to you since you posted it first.

Red_Dahlia · June 2013

ScarlettV:
S90Hudd:
I don't think you can really blame her. It's called a social network for a reason. I would take the photo down yourself. Everyone has seen it so just deleting it from your photos instead of making her feel bad would be the better choice in my opinion. It is strange that she shared it but its Facebook and that's what many people do.
I was honestly considering doing this actually; just deleting it solves the problem and you're right, everyone has seen it.
More in reference to one of the other pp above, I still believe in etiquette though, whether it's the internet or not. It's like, I can mail my cousin a picture of the u/s to have, and she can then opt to show it to the handyman who comes to the door. Does she have the right to do that because I sent her the pic in the first place? Yes. Does it make it any less weird? No.

I agree with you. I'd just delete it. It will come down from her wall when you delete the pic. One of my friends teenage daughters shared one of the videos I posted of my DD. She has 1000's of friends (and obviously doesn't know them all). So, I deleted the pic and it came down from her wall as well.

JL1993 · June 2013

PinkinProvence:
One of the many reasons I would never post an U/S picture on FB.
Although it may be annoying, once you put anything on the internet, it is available for public consumption to be used in any way and all ways possible.nbsp; Not only can everything you post be shared, it can simply be "saved"nbsp;on to someone's computer and reposted, which would extinguish all ofnbsp;the originalnbsp;privacy settings.
I don't see the harm in asking your cousin to remove it, butnbsp;keep in mind "internet etiquette" is constantly evolving and different for each generation/age group.nbsp; I might never have thougt to take or post pictures of me withnbsp;just my bra on, but younger teenagers and 20somethings do and it is their "norm."nbsp; She might be confused as to why this is a big deal to you since you posted it first.nbsp;

I'm a 20something and I don't even understand why girls post pictures in their bras! Haha I don't think that is a "norm" by any means..

backoffunicorn · June 2013

I agree that it's a little strange but at the same time, you shouldn't post things on Facebook that you don't want the whole world to see. Regardless of your security settings, I'm careful of what I post there.

kittyh8r · June 2013

ScarlettV:
Soozerella:
I think on facebook if your settings are private that only people also on your list can see it.. Does that make sense?nbsp;Here is a story to cheer you up:nbsp;I once got my hair done took a picture to send to my mom for how cute it was.. When I took the picture, I was topless because I was still getting ready and that's just how I do that. Well I didn't realize that you could totally see my nipple in the bottom corner of the picture and I guess my mom didn't either, because she sent it to like the entire family. Everyone else noticed.nbsp;
Lol...so sorry about your public nip, haha.. For pp: thanks for the advice; I think that the pic is only private when its on my page, but as soon as she shares it I think her entire friends list can see it, regardless of what settings I have?

Noo. OMG. I cannot imagine this happening to me. You poor soul.

RNmommyof2 · June 2013

You can change your privacy settings so only people *you* are friends with can see your pics, even if one of your friends shares it.

MEP923 · June 2013

Soozerella:
I think on facebook if your settings are private that only people also on your list can see it.. Does that make sense?

Here is a story to cheer you up:
I once got my hair done took a picture to send to my mom for how cute it was.. When I took the picture, I was topless because I was still getting ready and that's just how I do that. Well I didn't realize that you could totally see my nipple in the bottom corner of the picture and I guess my mom didn't either, because she sent it to like the entire family. Everyone else noticed.

OMG this is the funniest thing I've heard all day. Too funny.

It is weird that she shared it. It is a private thing and I don't see why her friends that don't know you want to see your uterus. A little eye opening. I didn't announce my pregnancy or do U/S pics with my son because I had over 500 friends. Now I've deleted most and only have 100. I posted U/S pics today because I was thinking I only have family and close friends now. If it is really bothering you I would call her and just tell her you are so happy she is so excited but you feel uncomfortable with her sharing a picture of your uterus with 500 of her closest friends. I would say it in a somewhat joking manner so you guys can laugh it off but so she also gets the point.

champhe · June 2013

It is definitely weird but I don't think I would go as far as asking her to take it down. It wouldn't be rude to, but I would be afraid of hurting her feelings. That's just me though!! I agree with PPs that said deleting the photo would easily resolve the issue, however if you wanted to share it with those people closest to you I don't think you should have to take it down. Sorry, that wasn't really great advice!

kate4776 · June 2013

I would feel the way you do. But I never really thought about this. I can really see my cousin doing the same thing, so I really appreciate the warning!

This morning I posted a picture of my most recent u/s in a private fb group of my friends, since I shared my news last night but not everyone was at our gathering. And all day I've been a little uncomfortable with having it there, so I think I most likely will not post another u/s photo.

Manda~Mae · June 2013

My husband's cousin does this to me all the time he will either share a picture of my daughter or he'll tag himself in it

It drives me crazy because i then get people i don't know commenting on my daughters photo and i don't like it. I haven't said anything to him yet because we live in different states and i know he is just excited about her and loves to share about his cousin with his friends but it bugs me because i have my page locked down for a reason. I feel for you i am somewhat in the same boat and have no idea how to handle it either. I hope you find the right answer for you

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