I need to vent

HFrizzle · June 2013

So a mutual friend of several of my girlfriends had twins (one boy/one girl) within in the last 8 months. Between me and my bff we gave her all our baby clothes, toys, & gear WITH the understanding that when I got pregnant again, depending on what we had, she would give us the gender specific stuff back. I had all girls, so I gave her all my girl stuff and my bff had a boy, so she gave her all her boy stuff. All the big stuff was practically brand new. My bff's son hated his swing and barely used it, the play mat was only used for a few months, the bouncer was only used for a couple weeks and was in excellent shape.

Well, we revealed today to everyone what we were having and immediately I get a message from her saying I just wanted you to know that I gave almost all of the baby stuff away, but I kept some of the girls clothes for you, because that is what I thought you were having. We NEVER once gave her any indication that we were having a girl, she was just going off our track record. I told her from the get go, when you have stuff they grow out of or don't use, let me know and instead of storing it at your house indefinitely, I will take it and store it at mine. She had gotten rid of everything they haven't used or grown out of....from the swings, to the bouncers, the play mats, clothes etc. I am so annoyed! We were really betting on getting this stuff back and really being set, especially clothes wise. I literally gave her my youngest daughters complete wardrobe from birth to 2yrs, as did my bff with all her boy stuff. Her excuse for all of this, well I didn't think it was going to happen right away and I just figured you would have a girl again.

Gee thanks!

Gwyneddlesliegrace · June 2013

Wow that really sucks. Maybe you and your bff need to ask for a reimbursement???

Brookej610 · June 2013

I would have snapped! I'm pissed for you! Geez!! Some people have no couth!

Mmhodges07 · June 2013

This happened to someone I knew as well. It's terrible and selfish!! I would be very upset.

jwthoms1 · June 2013

I get why you are mad but that's a risk you take when you give away your stuff. We didn't give any clothes away until we found out what we were having this time. We only gave away our swing and luckily we got that back but when we gave it away we knew we may never see it again and we were fine with that. I guess it's time to go shopping

sleepy33 · June 2013

This is why I would never give away stuff until I knew I was done having kids.

beccabrad · June 2013

I would absolutely have a conversation with her reminding her the stuff you gave her to use was on a loan and not hers to get rid of and that she needs to replace it if she can't get it back. That is ridiculous.

lalalalalola · June 2013

Honestly,some people have nerve! You were nice enough to lend her all of your stuff,you never gave it to her with the intention of not having any more children. I would ask her to get it back from the people she gave it to,or if she gave it to an organization to repay you. You shouldn't be stuck with out because you are a kind person. I really hope she feels terrible,and you get your stuff back.

allieb543 · June 2013

That is awful! I have borrowed maternity clothes, a bassinet, and a glider, with the understanding that when/if they have another kid, it's all going back. I know exactly what I borrowed and it will go back in good condition or I will replace it. I would be upset for sure.

yesthisiskim0401 · June 2013

So she sold/gave away ALL the things you guys loaned her??

Yeah, I'd demand reimbursement from her punkass asap. What a biitch.

JuneBug86 · June 2013

That sucks, but it goes along the same lines as the "don't lend money you can't afford to get back" rule. I don't lend anything unless I don't mind never seeing it again.

Wino0920 · June 2013

Omg! She needs to replace all of that stuff!

Please please please don't just shut your mouth and roll your eyes behind her back, this needs to be dealt with.

pandaglitter · June 2013

Yea I'd demand reimbursement. I can't believe some people would give away other people's things! I have so many people giving us stuff, but it they got pregnant I'd be offering it all back once I was done! Or at least asking if they wanted it back before I donate it.

sleepy33 · June 2013

carriet2018:
I would be so pissed, I am sorry. I think you should give her a piece of your mind though!
anyways on a happy note: I am having a girl, if I was having a boy I would be set with clothes because I have nephews up the wazoo. The people I know who have girls already gave their stuff away/still need them. Anyways, I was having a panic attack about this. but I cannot tell you, the most random people are giving me things I never would have thought/expects....my sister's friends, a lady from church. I am sure you know this from having your own kids....but don't lose hope!

I too, am amazed by how many people want to just give me stuff. Mostly clothes, so far, but there's a family down the street that I practically hide from every time I walk by their house b/c they are like SO glad we are joining the kid cult and whenever we see them they are like WE HAVE STUFF FOR YOUUUUU!!!!!! It's kind of overwhelming.

norbert5 · June 2013

I would let her know she needs to try her best to get the stuff back, especially if she just passed it on. If she sold it then it obviously won't work.

People are awful. Before she got rid of anything she should have double checked with you, especially since you were very clear you wanted the stuff back.

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