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February 2012 Moms
MrMrsandBaby
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MrMrsandBaby
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I liked our board better before I knew everyone personally! It was easier to get a good UO or FFFC thread going! Now I feel like fighting with a friend if I disagree - so I've resorted to lurking other boards to voice my opinions!
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Re: FFTC
I think all the sh!t storms that have errupted in the past are what's keeping UO and FFFC from being anything! I don't mind arguing with "friends"...it keeps things interesting. We're all going to have difference of opinions on things, that's how I see it anyways, and heated discussions will occur. I personally think if everything is always puppies and rainbows, life gets boring. I don't think we need to start something just for the sake of arguing or stirring the pot, but if you have an opinion/confession, bring it to the table!
Personally, I have such a boring life, I've not had anything to confess in a long time! Maybe I'll come up with something by Friday...
Ah!! I'm SO the same way, and I HATE it about myself!! I have no idea where it comes from!!! I'm generally a really fortunate person, so I have absolutely NO idea why I wish bad things on friends!! It's like this horrible part of me that I can't manage to stifle!!! It's on totally irrational things too!! Things that have absolutely no baring on my life or anything I'm doing! What is that about?!
Totally agree!! I guess my FFTC is that I like when there is a little drama going on over here! I like the controversy and the heated discussions. I miss them.
If I could ever figure out how to do a poll, I would be curious to see if I was alone in that thought. I sort of think people do like the drama a bit. I imagine people would be more honest if it was a poll.
Hahaha, yes! They are things that have zero impact on my life.... I don't know why it's so hard for me to be genuinely happy for someone else. Glad I am not alone!!
I am the same way and I don't know why!!! I hope I don't pass the trait along to Nolan!
Addy had her 15 month appointment today (a little late) and her pedi is concerned about her speech development. She doesn't have any real words. She says the "da" sound a lot, at random times and for different things although we think she sometimes says "dada" for "Papa" (what we call DH) but not 100% off the time so we don't know if we're supposed to count that. She can do the sign for "more" if you remind her and show her. She also "talks" quite a lot, ya'll probably know what I mean. Her pedi wanted her to have at least a small number of words at this point. I asked her when she would be very concerned about it and she said at her 18 month appointment. I asked what she would do at that point (already knowing the answer) and she said she would refer her to speech therapy. *sigh*
So. My FFTC is that my gut instinct is that my child is FINE, and NORMAL and that this woman can shove it. Can you tell I'm not in love with her pedi in the first place? Some kids just talk later and I don't see how that has to be so concerning (I know there are other LOs on this board who are also not really talking). Addy has never been "ahead" or even right on time with most milestones. She is super tiny (5% for weight and 2% for height) and is just a late bloomer in general. If I really thought that her speech was a problem, I would be OK with the therapy, but right now I believe my child is fine and I just want to give it more time if her pedi decides to refer her at her 18 month appointment. She said we should be trying to get her to say things instead of gesturing for them, etc. We already do this most of the time. Like she will reach for the crackers on the table and I will say "say 'more please'" and then give her another. But it's not like I can just not give her a cracker until she says what I am asking her because I honestly don't think she has the ability to say it. Ugh... I'm just frustrated. And not at Addy. Mostly at her pedi and a little bit at myself because I wonder if we haven't done a good job with her as far as the speech, which is crazy since I always thought we've been really good at "working with her" or whatever you want to call it in that area.
UO and FFFC are so boring, I don't evensee the point anymore.
So it isn't just me? I always think it is a bd move when someone makes a big decision...even when I'm considering the exact same one! i also hate when things work out for other people and I'm still struggling to make something work (like a new house!).
Whew...I'm not alone...
OOOOO MMMMMM GGGGG....I'm going to puke!!!! Confesion....I HAVE ONE!
So, my ex is stupid and didn't change his email password. Ok, fine, I stalk it. There's usually nothing there. Well, I've not looked in a while. AND GUESS FREAKING WHAT? He's emailing his exGF...the one he was with before me! She's supposedly married(her last name is different). There's a lot of history/BS with this girl. When they were dating she called me? Accused me of a bunch of BS. Kept calling after they'd been split for like a year. UGH! He's telling her he's seeing now that leaving her was the biggest mistake of his life...blah, blah, blah!!! I'M PISSED! Can you tell? And I really want to throw up now!!!
I HATE this. I make jokes about parenting being hard but I NEVER make it sound like my kid is making me miserable. A lady at the grocery store did this to me when I was buying baby food for Colton last year. I'm like WTF dude, I'm not even on solids yet. I want to punch these people.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
My FFTC. I think I'm sabotaging my career. I work for a new company now (my old company was bought out) and I have no interest in learning their jargon or programs. I've been really bad about answering emails, doing the online training required, etc. They're very techy and our old company was not.
My ideal job would be helping my husband with his company 3 days a week and staying home with the kids 2 days.
Thing is. We need my job. I carry the family's health insurance.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
Another FFTC that will make me sound like an ungrateful b*tch of a wife. It pisses me off that DH is building this massive (read:excessive) house that is a ton of money when we could have built a modest house 1/2 the size and I could have easily done the above FFTC without blinking.
Now I feel like if I ever quit my job I will be burdening him.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
mkarns, I hate to say it but it makes me irrationally happy to see you post this...this 100% relates to my post earlier about being irrationally mad at people for makeing big moves/changes. I love the pics of your new house but it makes me sad/jealous that we can't do the same thing. I am NOT happy you are upset about the cost/etc, but I think it helps my own ego that you struggle with it too.
So yeah, I'm a super b!tch
Don't worry we can still be friends, hater. I kid! I kid!
I think your FFC is just you feeling guilty for playing devil's advocate internally. There is NOTHING wrong with considering what could go wrong.
Usually when people tell you they are experiencing big life events they don't tell you the agony that went into making the decision. It's the practical part of the human brain is all. Not jealousy. I just happened to verbalize that "other" side of things rather than keep you guys thinking our grass is always green on my side. KWIM? That's what FB is for. Perfect liiiiives.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
So no quitting your job after #2 comes?? We're in the same position but we're going to go on an independent plan after this one is born. I hate my job and it adds so much extra stress onto our relationship....buuuut insurance is super important.
Thank you for taking an ugly trait and giving it a positive spin!
Getting help is NOT a sign of weakness or something being "wrong" with your child... It's empowering them from an early age and empowering YOU to be the best mom you can be. Sorry that DH and MIL don't see it from your point of view. Why not help her and prevent the frustration of not being able to communicate???
Just to help ease your mind, speech therapy shouldn't be stressful at all! It's just a little extra help, and these days lots of kids do it when
they are young. Both of my nephews (second children) were in it when they were toddlers, and for them it was just someone coming to their house and playing games with them. Good for their speech, good exposure to other adults, and fun. And I
it's not about something being wrong with kids because they are a little behind. It's about helping them early, when it is often an easy fix, instead of waiting to see who keeps falling further behind and having a hard time helping them catch up. It really can only be helpful to expose any child to speaking games.
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
Just throwing this out there--I think 18 months is at the extreme edge of the curve to start saying 2-3 "understandable" words (that always apply to one thing--not that can be used interchangeably in normal baby babbling). I think that is why, even though they say they like to see "one word by one" and "2-3 words by 15 months," they don't recommend therapy until 18 months--because almost all normally developing kids who are receiving appropriate sensory input are going to have 2-3 words at that point. If you think of the "curve" being 50%, the kids they are screening at 18 months are maybe in the bottom 5-7% for word acquisition.
Now, even at that point, there is not reason to "worry," it is just smart to get some experts involved who will differentiate whether it is a "stubborn" thing, a "needs already being preemptively met" thing, a hearing thing, some other sort of sensory input/output issue, etc.
My parents looked in my baby book, and at 18 months, I had one word "ga," which I used for everything I wanted. Our pediatrician back then suggested my mom put me in a mother's day out program due to the whole "needs preemptively being met" issue that is so common with first borns. Sure enough, a year later, I was talking just fine. But that doesn't change the fact that I was on the very edge of the entire bell curve. My 2.5 year younger brother, on the other hand, could talk in completely articulated complex sentences at 18 months (seriously, our baby books could not be more different!) He was at the complete opposite end of the bell curve. Both of us have done fine academically, in life, etc. So, placement on those curves isn't everything--but it is a good indicator that further follow-up is needed.
And early intervention is amazingly useful--because there are some things that can be done when baby brains are so very plastic and changeable that can't be done when kids get older. Why not avail yourself of every single resource available to ensure that your child is getting off to the best start possible?