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Too Attached?

fivefeetsmallfivefeetsmall member
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I'm back! It's been a long time since I last posted because I've been so bust being a new mommy. Some may remember me as the single mom living with my parents and struggling a bit. Things have gotten quite a bit better on that front. She's 11 weeks old tomorrow and I've been so gung ho about AP. So far we've successfully been breast feeding, bedsharing, and baby wearing some. I do put her in her bouncy seat or swing at times. She can go about 30 minutes on her own with my supervision. She will nap in the R and P as well. Here's the thing... She won't let anyone else hold her but my sister who is pregnant. The minute her Nana takes her she screams and cries huge tears. Have I done something wrong? Is there such a thing as too attached? What can I do? And why my prego sister?
P.S. I haven't updated my siggy so it's gonna look like I'm 11weeks past due lol.. Sorry
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  • nanabanana06nanabanana06
    It's normal. My son is 6 months old and cries whenever he gets held by people other than mommy or daddy. Eventually he naps and then he's happy to be held by other people. Also, at that age many babies don't want to be apart from mommy. It's normal. Things will change, they always do.
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  • thatoneredheadthatoneredhead member

    I dont think it's anything you've done. We figured out that LO only liked to be held by eh, "squishy" people. It kind of became a joke in our household.

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  • pitterpatter129pitterpatter129 member

    Mine isn't even a huge fan of my DH!  He likes to coo and smile and giggle at Daddy from my lap, but doesn't want other people holding him. He's beginning to tolerate it a little more though as he realizes he can grab things, etc.  DH says it's because I'm "The Food".  Maybe that's why your LO likes SIL too...she probably also smells like food! :)

     

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  • Emerald27Emerald27 member
    That is totally normal and she's not too attached. DS went through phases of the same thing and still is wary of relatives he doesn't see often.

    I don't force interaction with people he's uncomfortable with, because I want him to know he can trust me as a safe haven and that when he's ready he can interact on his terms. So if he needs a while to warm up to grandma, he gets it. If he cries when someone holds him, I take him back. It actually makes it better...if I try to force it, he gets too stressed and panics/melts down. And with good reason! He has no comfort zone if Mommy's going to push him into an uncomfortable place.

    Try not to worry! Your LO will love her grandparents. She just needs mama right now. :D
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    I raised both my kids the same way and one let everyone hold him while the other freaked out being away from me. Now that they're older my son is a social butterfly and my daughter is more reserved and shy until she really gets comfortable with someone. 
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member

    I'd guess that your sister looks/smells most like you so baby is more comfortable with her.

    Newborns are funny little people, and behave in odd ways but I don't believe a newborn baby can be too attached to it's mother.  Babies are meant to be close to Mom.

    My LO went through a time when it seemed like he always cried when H held him.  H still will joke, remember when he hated me????  They have a wonderful bond, and frequently LO will go to him and not want me. So behavior now isn't a life long trend.

    I don't think there's anything to do, outside of waiting it out. As LO gets older she will be more receptive to others. If your Mom wants to hold her, make sure it's a time she's been fed/changed/slept recently so that she's in her "best" mood. And outside that, it may just take LO getting older before she wants anyone but her mama. 



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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member
    At that age, I really wouldn't worry. You're not even out of the "4th trimester" yet Smile
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