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October 2013 Moms
AshlynBlake
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Monday MIL Gem of the Week
AshlynBlake
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Do we do this? I see it on other boards and if we don't.....
Can we start? Please?
It can be Mom/FIL/Crazy person moment of the week.
I obviously need to do it after dealing with what happened last week 
My MIL said to another person in front of me (purposely so I could hear, she likes to do this ALL the time) That I tell her what she can and can't wear..... then proceeded to say that I do not sugar coat things and that me and my DH make her cry. This was all said when this guy, a cousin who is 28, made a comment that she had on some nice shoes.
I have never ever told her what she can or can't wear. I could care less what she wears. I have never given my opinion regarding anything clothing related unless asked, and then I am honest but not rude. (she likes to wear things that are found in the junior sections, think pre-teen, but to each their own) I have never seen my MIL cry regarding anything me or my husband have said or done. I have never been told she has cried when we had left, nor do I believe it to be true. And I had NEVER even seen those dang shoes.
I had no clue where it was coming from, it was upsetting, so I addressed the situation on our 6 hour car ride home the next day. She denied it at first, then admitted it and then said that I took it out of context, but I was simply repeating what was said. I asked if she remembered it going differently then I stated, she said no. I asked her why she does that (this happens frequently when others are around. I believe its attention based but honestly have no clue) She had no reasoning.
The conversation ended without her acknowledging she was in the wrong or apologizing even after I expressed how upset I was that she does this over and over. I am hurt and frustrated with her and haven't spoken to her since which was over a week ago now.
They live 5 minutes away, are very involved in our kids lives (her and FIL), FIL and DH agree with me, but its "the way she is". My kids adore her, and she is great to us and my kids (if we need anything, she is already there and she is a great grandparent)
I am leaning towards I am going to have to let it go, as much as I am upset with her, we have a vacation coming up in 2 weeks and I either let it go or ruin it for all. She obviously has some issues, and little respect for me as a person or she wouldn't of done that and once she knew I was upset, she would of tried to make it right/worked through the issue or apologized.
Ugh. MIL's.... Blah. So that's mine, if you advice for me I would love to hear it!
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Re: Monday MIL Gem of the Week
The best part is that his parents divorced 27 years ago. His dad and step mom just celebrated their 22 wedding anniversary and his mom and step dad just celebrated their 18th anniversary.
My MIL isn't that bad either. We've come a long way. But this weekend we were at my SIL's and MIL was playing with PJ who is almost two years old. She "suddenly" had to do something else and - LOOKING RIGHT PAST ME, HIS MOTHER - called to my SIL who was in the middle of moving some furniture, "I'm going to X, you need to watch PJ."
My answer? "[Her Name], his MOTHER is standing RIGHT HERE."
She has done this often in the past, we spoke to her about it. Essentially saying, it is not appropriate to 'pass off' PJ from your care to your daughter's care when his mother is RIGHT THERE. She doesn't do it because she doesn't like me or something but because she is just so use to telling her grown daughter what to do. Its habit but it isn't okay.
It stopped for a while but this type of stuff always comes up if we see them more than once a week.