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Success after IF
Robeano
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Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
Dec 27- third miscarriage
May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
Argh- long
Robeano
member
Okay I know you ladies will understand my frustration. Here is my long story.
Okay my in-laws are legal guardian of this girl. She is now 19 so she is no longer under their guardianship. She currently lives with her grandma. Okay, she is a troubled child, grew up in an abusive family, her grandmother that she lives with is emotionally abusive. She is a habitual liar, only finished high school with a certificate, not a diploma (she felt she needed to be in the special needs program, even though she doesn't need to be in it) her on again off again boyfriend just got released from jail b/c "he didn't do it". Okay do you get the picture? She can't hold down a job, she feels everybody owes her something. She plans on going on welfare and I don't think she'll ever get a job.
Well she's pregnant b/c she was too dumb to take her birth control properly , or so she says. I wouldn't put it past her to get pregnant on purpose. Okay so the dad doesn't really want anything to do with her or the baby. His family wants a DNA test to prove the baby is his. She is planning on going on welfare, and moving into a place called Hannah house, (which is a home for young mom's who don't have anywhere else to go.)
It hurt me to hear about this situation. It just seems so unfair. I know she will most likely be a terrible mom, that the child will grow up in a bad environment, the mom can't even afford to take care of herself, or not even capable of taking care of herself. *sigh* I just needed a place to vent to women who understand how precious babies are!
Diagonsed PCOS TTC since May 2009
First M/C December 2010 Second M/C August 2011 Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
Dec 27- third miscarriage
May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
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Re: Argh- long
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
TTC #1 since 3/2011
DX: anovulatory and severe MFI
DH is a testicular cancer survivor
IVF#1 w/ICSI lupron, gonal f, ovidrel
ER 6/15/12 6R 6M 6F! ET 6/20/12
Beta #1: 154 Beta #2: 509 Beta #3: 7326
Baby Boy born 3/1/2013
TTC#2: 6/2014 all testing came back normal
IVF#2 (#1 for LO#2) 9/2014 - 17R 10M 10F 4 blasts frozen on day 6.
FET #1 10/15/14 - Beta #1: 216 Beta #2: 823
Baby Boy born 7/10/2015
Yup. The worst story I ever heard was about a heroine-addicted prostitute who came into the hospital thinking she was having labor pains...she wasn't. She actually called her drug dealer from the phone in her hospital room and staff overheard her making plans to buy drugs as soon as she was released. When the hospital staff tried to tell her that she could harm the baby through her drug use, she just said, "I don't care. I'll just have another. I already have 4." Of course, she didn't have custody of any of them...her sister was raising all 4.
DH used to joke that fertility was directly disproportionate to ability to raise a child. Clearly, that isn't true in most cases...but it sure seems like it is true some of the time!
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2
After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
That is horrible! A friend IRL has had two adoptions fall through from similar situations. She and her hubby married somewhat late, they got b!tchslapped with IF. The child would have had a wonderful, privileged like with my friend and her DH. Now the child will be *statistically* doomed to poverty, abuse, and likely a teen pregnancy. Sigh.
(note, not all teen parents will be poor, or abuse their kids, but the statistics indicate it is more likely than older, more prepared parents).
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!!
What a tragic situation. Maybe I will be flamed for this but I feel really badly for the young woman as well as the baby she is carrying. She never had a chance at life and now, unfortunately, neither does her baby.
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
Why would you be flamed? Not only is it a completely valid viewpoint, but it is also a kind viewpoint. If nothing else, IF has taught me that you never really know what demons someone else might be battling. I feel badly for them both also.
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!