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Toddlers: 24 Months+
kerrbear72
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Sleep separation anxiety?
kerrbear72
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Hi ladies, I need some help. This is my first post over here so I apologize for just jumping right in with a question.
About a month ago, fairly suddenly, my 23m DS refused to sleep in his crib. It was pure screams of terror as soon as I tried to put him down for the night. He eventually threw himself out of the crib to chase me. At the time, I assumed he was afraid of his crib, his room, whatever. I switched to a toddler bed the following day, made a huge deal out of the awesome change and he was thrilled. Until bed time of course. I am now beyond convinced its separation anxiety.
Long story short, he refuses to sleep unless I am in sight. He's now sleeping on the floor next to my side of the bed at night. He's also dropped naps simultaneously, which he desperately needs. Though, if he does nap, he will be up until 10pm instead of 7:30pm. Still, with no nap, life is miserable for all post 4pm.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how to ease the anxiety, get him back in his room, etc. From what I gather, it will just work itself out but man, that is a depressing thought.
I'm desperate. Any thoughts are welcome!
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Re: Sleep separation anxiety?
While I am sorry you're going through this too, I am really glad I am not alone because frankly, this is really screwing with me. Especially the lack of sleep/miserable child part.
Absolutely nothing in our life changed either to spark it. I'm just at such a loss.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
How much time do you spend in his presence during the day? And how much time do you spend hugging/cuddling/loving on each other?
I know if there's a day I have a meeting after work and don't make it home until bedtime, LO won't sleep unless he's in bed with me because he misses me. Or if we're together but he hasn't gotten enough cuddle time (even if it's because he was busy playing and running around) he gets clingy.
I've never experienced anything like your LO screaming though -- that sounds miserable, I hope he outgrows it soon!
I hope that is not the case because I SAH so we are together all day, every day. Which in the end may be part of the problem, IDK. Maybe I should XP to the SAHM board and see if there is a link.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
This is us also!
It started about 4 months ago for us. At the time I would get so frustrated with DD. I wanted my alone time and time with DH. But due to recent events I am just enjoying the time to cuddle at bedtime. I figure it's a phase though and it will pass. (Hopefully or we are in for it!)
**OP-Love your siggy!!**
I'm so sorry for your loss.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
TTC#2
My Lack of Ovulation Chart
We have been going through the exact same thing for a month, and I also think that it is sleep separation anxiety, and even though she is a big time Daddy's girl, she will not let him handle bed time. It HAS TO be Mommy. I have had to rock her to sleep like when she was little, which can take 30 minutes or 2.5 hrs. I tried to sleep re-train her, and it was awful. High pitched blood curdling screams until she made herself gag. So not worth it. She was also waking up in the middle of the night screaming, and she would NOT go back to sleep unless I took her to bed with me. Now, the past 2 nights, she has STTN but I've still had to rock her to sleep. I'm praying it ends soon.
I am a believer in the 2 year sleep regression.