TTC Check-In

healz413 · June 2013

This is the weekly check-in for anyone who is in the pre-pregnancy period--> whether you are actively trying to conceive, on a break from trying, waiting for the chance you get to try, planning, or trying to come up with a plan!

You just give us your update--what's going on for you in the TTC or pre-TTC world. And you answer the Question of the Day/Week. If you haven't intro'd on the board before, make your post a bit longer and tell us what's going on with you and TTC.

Unfortunately this seems to have been a bad news week for many in our TTC community. Too many BFNs and bad surgery outcomes. But we have at least one member who just did their first IUI. So there is some exciting stuff, too! Give us your updates folks so we can celebrate with you or offer you support.

QOTW: What is your favorite rainy day activity? When you have children (if the one you're trying for will be your first) what activities do you look forward to doing with them on rainy days?

healz413 · June 2013

As many of you know from the surgery update I posted a week ago, Manada and I got bad news from my surgery. Both of my fallopian tubes had to be removed, which leaves IVF as our only option right now. (M has diminished ovarian reserve and after 4 IUIs with her this spring, we decided to move on to my eggs for a first pregnancy.)

We are going to have to really scrimp, save, and steal (ok, maybe not that one) to pull together the money for our IVF, even with the discount we get from partial provincial health insurance coverage as a result of me having both tubes out. (The difference in the cost is not as large as we'd thought.)

The earliest we would start an IVF cycle is in August, but we have to figure out if we can afford that. Assuming things work out, we will be having me carry the first pregnancy because M is our primary income-earner, and I have more time flexibility since I'm doing my PhD.

We're meeting the RE tomorrow to discuss next steps. She's going to start me on birth control to try to keep my endo under control. (I've never taken birth control in my life and think it's amusing that in order to get my non-sperm-producing partner to knock me up, I've gotta go on birth control.)

QOTW: I love reading a novel on the couch under a blanket on a rainy day. And I love playing board/card games with tea and baked goods on a rainy day. (Even if I hardly ever get to do those things because there is always work or something else to be done.) I look forward to crafting on rainy days and making pillow/blanket forts for reading under or having tea parties.

KH826 · June 2013

Today is CD4 for me. Started my Femara this morning (5mg dose - they upped it from 2.5mg last cycle). That's about it for me... not feeling great this AM, but I know that I WAY over did it with yard work yesterday and I am super sore from that. Also, my periods have just gotten weird since starting TTC -- this month my period GUSHED (sorry TMI) on CD1 and the AM of CD2 and then was pretty much totally gone by early evening on CD2, but I have had cramps yesterday and today (CD3 and 4), but no flow. I just don't get it. I used to be so regular and predictable...

QOTW: Rainy days are good for lots of things -- puzzles, movie days, staying in your PJs and snuggling on the couch with blankets, tomato soup, hot cocoa... I look forward to some fun, relaxing days bumming around inside with my little family some day when it is gross and rainy out and we all just want to hide away inside.

YBnormal85 · June 2013

I am still awaiting the arrival of my period after our loss.We plan to try in two cycles,so for now we wait.In the mean time we are planning some summer weekend trips to keep us busy.

I love to watch movies with my DW on rainy days.I also enjoy going to a cafe to enjoy a latte on dreary days!

AmandaG47 · June 2013

J and I are waiting for a + opk. Before our loss, J's cycles were SO SO normal and predictable. Opk's were easy, and I could pinpoint ovulation down to about +/- 6 hours, perfect for TTC at home. This cycle is totally wonky for no good reason! (well, she was sick last week, which maybe pushed ovulation back??). For instance, we are on CD20 and have had about 5 days of *almost* positives on OPK (which I have her do at LEAST 3 times a day just in case). No temp increase yet, so I don't think we have missed it, but seriously, WTF is going on. Her usual cycle is only 28-29 days with a 12 day LP. The only time this happened was right after the loss, which was expected.

Sorry for the rant, it's just so frustrating not knowing what is going on and have over $1000 worth of swimmers just chillin in my bedroom.

As for the QOTD, I love being wrapped in a blanket, cuddling on the couch and watching movies with a nice cup of coffee on a rainy day That, or playing outside in some rain boots.

candimc26 · June 2013

Well... I'm pregnant! Took the test yesterday (day AF was due), after having a few days of pretty undeniable symptoms. Of course the first test read "error" erg! But the 2nd test said "pregnant!" (my symptoms, in case you are curious, were sore boobs, slight nausea, and fatigue for the last 3 days, and implantation cramping at 7dpo).

My wife and I are both super calm about it... not sure if it's sunk in at all. The first pregnancy was so life changing- we called our parents 20 minutes after the positive test! This time I feel like keeping it to myself for awhile. We've been talking about whether or not to have #2 for years, and now, here we are. Surreal.

I'll keep reading the TTC threads to watch your successes, because I know they will happen soon.

Q: rainy days are for splashing in puddles with my two year old!

MaryanneN · June 2013

So we are CD13. I went in CD9 and CD11 for monitoring and now have to return tomorrow morning for another monitoring. I was at 12mm last appointment. I am hoping to do IUI#2 sometime this week. I am much more hopeful. Last month my lead folicle was on the left. It seems like it is happening that way again. Is that supposed to happen? I thought it was supposed to alternate. Well I am going to ask tomorrow during my appt., but have any of you experienced this?

We are hoping that this cycle will be it. Money does not grow on trees as many of you know. Good luck in your journeys this week. I look forward to reading where everyone is at!

QOTD: Rainy days make me want to relax and stay inside wearing PJ's and watching movies. I think that maybe on rainy days we may do crafts or even arrange a play date with my nieces so that the adults and the kids can have a fun day.

2MamazInSeattle · June 2013

Well I can't seem to win...

I had some really bad pain on my right side last Thursday night that was almost ER level pain. I've had some problems with my right hip for a long time due to sciatica; and also have had kidney stones on the right side in the past. So pain there isn't new except this had some serious groin pain in the past few weeks which is new. I've been going to the chiro, and a PT wanting to fix it before our FET. Then J says, after offering to take me to the ER, "honey, what if it's your ovary..." I took meds and used a heating pad and was ok.

You know where this is going.

As luck would have it, I had a repeat blood draw on Friday at my RE due to them messing one up; so I asked to have a quick u/s to look at my right ovary. It came up on the screen and it was the size of a *baseball* riddled with some hearty looking cyst. Eff me. They had said "The doc will call you later this afternoon..." - well the phone rang within an hour.

They had me come back in later that day and did a pelvic to rule out infection from my recent surgery, and that was all clear. But, I do have a massively enlarged ovary on the right side, and it's big enough to cause pain. Options may include investigative lap surgery, ovary removal (!!!), or it could subside on its own.

Not sure how this impacts my cycle, but the pain is pretty bad if I don't take advil/Tylenol which I obviously cannot do pregnant. So I have to talk to my RE this week - it was CD14 so potentially was just ovulation pain, since I've been on BCPs or pregnant for the last 6 months, I've only ovulated 1 time before this since last year...but the idea of another surgery, another hold up, more of my lady parts gone...:( boo.

And we're still waiting for genetics to clear our egg donor after our post-loss report of a small chromosomal deletion on our baby. So we're not even sure we'll be 'allowed' to use our embryos.

For the first time in all this I am starting to feel hopeless. But I'm trying to stay chin-up and wait for real information before I get too bummed out.

Oh and I turn 42 tomorrow. Old. Ug. Sorry to be a bummer-outer today.

healz413 · June 2013

2MamazInSeattle:
Well I can't seem to win...
I had some really bad pain on my right side last Thursday night that was almost ER level pain. I've had some problems with my right hip for a long time due to sciatica; and also have had kidney stones on the right side in the past. So pain there isn't new except this had some serious groin pain in the past few weeks which is new. I've been going to the chiro, and a PT wanting to fix it before our FET. Then J says, after offering to take me to the ER, "honey, what if it's your ovary..." I took meds and used a heating pad and was ok.
You know where this is going.
As luck would have it, I had a repeat blood draw on Friday at my RE due to them messing one up; so I asked to have a quick u/s to look at my right ovary. It came up on the screen and it was the size of a *baseball* riddled with some hearty looking cyst. Eff me. They had said "The doc will call you later this afternoon..." - well the phone rang within an hour.
They had me come back in later that day and did a pelvic to rule out infection from my recent surgery, and that was all clear. But, I do have a massively enlarged ovary on the right side, and it's big enough to cause pain. Options may include investigative lap surgery, ovary removal (!!!), or it could subside on its own.
Not sure how this impacts my cycle, but the pain is pretty bad if I don't take advil/Tylenol which I obviously cannot do pregnant. So I have to talk to my RE this week - it was CD14 so potentially was just ovulation pain, since I've been on BCPs or pregnant for the last 6 months, I've only ovulated 1 time before this since last year...but the idea of another surgery, another hold up, more of my lady parts gone...:( boo.
And we're still waiting for genetics to clear our egg donor after our post-loss report of a small chromosomal deletion on our baby. So we're not even sure we'll be 'allowed' to use our embryos.
For the first time in all this I am starting to feel hopeless. But I'm trying to stay chin-up and wait for real information before I get too bummed out.
Oh and I turn 42 tomorrow. Old. Ug. Sorry to be a bummer-outer today.

No, no, no, no, no! This is not fair. You've already been through too much. I hope that everything that can work out now does and that you're out of pain soon and on with your FET plan.

(Sent you an email with more sympathies.)

ball.and.chain · June 2013

ETA: DUH...this was supposed to quote 2Mamaz...

You have every right to feel discouraged, but please don't feel hopeless. I do believe you'll get there eventually.

And, not that you need my permission, but I personally think you're entitled to put that chin way DOWN and be grumpy and frustrated and angry and sad and worried and all of those things. You've been amazingly resilient over the last few months, and while I am majorly impressed by that, I hope you are also giving yourself the right to mourn when you need to.

Cause DAMN lady. Your run of bad luck needs to be over.

shelly2314 · June 2013

Well, as stated in the earlier post, I just had my IUI on Sunday (1dpiui...augh!). So we have just started the TWW...good times.

QOTD: I love rainy days as long as I can stay in bed or my house. I love cuddling under the covers or reading a good book. If the wife has to work, then cuddling with the furrbabies will suffice. For my first child (and any others that might come later on) I look forward to reading in a makeshift tent and other crafts (if it is not lightening maybe even playing in the rain!)

StacyLH24 · June 2013

C and I are continuing to iron out details for a September start. From what I have charted so far, our first try will coincide with our one year marriage anniversary. Hopefully that is extra special good luck.

I'm excited and looking forward to it, but am also trying to be realistic as to what a rough road it could potentially be.

QOTW: We are a very active couple and are hardly home for long. On a rainy day we are usually visiting her family.

songbird31 · June 2013

ball.and.chain:
ETA: DUH...this was supposed to quote 2Mamaz...You have every right to feel discouraged, but please don't feel hopeless.nbsp; I do believe you'll get there eventually.And, not that you need my permission, but I personally think you're entitled to put that chin way DOWN and be grumpy and frustrated and angry and sad and worried and all of those things.nbsp; You've been amazingly resilient over the last few months, and while I am majorly impressed by that, I hope you are also giving yourself the right to mourn when you need to.Cause DAMN lady.nbsp; Your run of bad luck needs to be over.

2mamaz
This exactly! I hate seeing this news SO much!!!! I hope despite all this that you have an amazing birthday and still feel good about all the possibilities that are ahead for you. ... And you definitely don't look a day over 32 from those wedding pics. But yeah, you have every right to your feelings.

Jazibel · June 2013

I feel like I can finally count myself into the TTC ring. YAY!! We got confirmation from our Donor that he's able to fly out in August or September which is great. So now I wait to see how this cycle goes. It's CD 11 and no positive OPK yet, which is normal for my post-baby cycles. This is only the 2nd cycle since getting pregnant in October 2011 so... The first cycle was really long, 39 days total with a long luteal phase of 25 days. I'm hoping things even out so that we can plan for our August or September try.

QOTD: Hmmmm... Pre-baby, books, laying in bed and movies would have been perfect. Now it's about listening to music and playing music together, singing, reading books, playing of the floor - pretty much the same as any other day :-)

KH826 · June 2013

2MamazInSeattle:
For the first time in all this I am starting to feel hopeless. But I'm trying to stay chin-up and wait for real information before I get too bummed out.
Oh and I turn 42 tomorrow. Old. Ug. Sorry to be a bummer-outer today.

First of all, you have every right to feel down right now -- you have been through so much, and it certainly does not seem fair that you seemingly just can't catch a break. With that being said, please don't feel hopeless, because I am certain that you will have your family one day based on how much you want this. Where there is a will there is a way, and your home will have a child when it is meant to be. I know that is easy for me to say, but sometimes in this roller coaster journey, you just have to believe that things are destined a certain way and the seet backs and disappointments are only setting the stage for the way your journey is supposed to go. Sending you tons of support!!!

Also, sending you a great big HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

kristi&p · June 2013

CD1 for me over here. I am pretty bummed about it. Called the dr today need to know what the game plan will be, back on clomid 150mg or trying a new med. I also placed a call to order more sperm. Thats that part that I hate the money it cost for sperm is too much. I know this cycle I do not want to have any HPTs in the house too tempting and makes me nutty.

Rainy days are always the best PJ days. I love curling up on the couch, reading, wathcing movies, or a craft. My niece lives right around the corner so when I have her on rainy dayswe do crafts, games, and movies... She loves it so I hope to do that with my own children.

koshercrunchymommies · June 2013

I posted a "hi, we're new here post," but I wanted to pop in here as well. Technically we're still "thinking" about ttc, but we're totally on this. Ready. Actually, K is ovulating today and is...ahem, emotional and hormonal and all that jazz. Assuming all goes well at her check up in a couple weeks, we will be on our way. She's starting prenatals, we already eat pretty well...so we're hoping that our good health luck translates to good fertility luck. K is worried (she always is, about something hehe) mostly about her age (she will be 35 in 6 months).....but I have hope. And faith.

-sigh-

lyricsongbird82 · June 2013

My first iui last month ended as a BFN. I am now on CD15 of my second cycle. I went in on CD12 for an ultrasound and had 1 follicle on LO at only 13mm. Went in today CD15 and follicle is now 17mm. RE wants me to trigger at 10am tomorrow morning and then come in for IUI #2 on monday morning. It is only 24hours post trigger. Has anyone experienced this instead of the usual IUI 36 hours post trigger?

OAN: On rainy days my wife and I like to lay around and enjoy each others company. We both work so much that we dont have a lot of time to spend together. We usually spend the time watching movies or catching up on our favorite tv shows.

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