So stressed - WWYD??

jensahokie · June 2013

So my friend is an OBGYN and put in a beta for me today (8dp5dt) because I've been getting BFNs at home. I just did it about 1.5 hours ago and it was less than 5 - she said that is considered a definitive negative. I called the RE's office, and they were adamant that I keep using the meds until next Wednesday. I feel like that is just the CYA/standard answer. I basically did it at 8.5dp5dt...why drag it out? Why not just save the meds and start my period sooner...I know I need to update my siggy, but we have 2 more embryos waiting.

WWYD? Continue meds anyway? I hate that my friend is certain it is negative and yet the nurse from the RE is saying it's too early. Isn't 9dp5dt normal? I keep finding blogs where someone got a BFP ridiculously late, but I just don't feel like this one is going to turn out that way. There was not even a squint of a line this morning, and the beta < 5 seems to confirm. BTW, we are military, this is why I'm having the beta done elsewhere - it's free that way.

Thanks and sorry to be so crazy about this!

itsmevkb · June 2013

You're basically the equivalent of 13dpo. I always had my betas done at 14dpo and my RE wanted it to be around 100. So sadly, I agree that a beta under 5 at 13dpo means this cycle didn't work. I would stop using the meds and move on.

I'm sorry it wasn't better news.

kmc84 · June 2013

I'm sorry you didn't get a better number. I would need to go a little farther myself. Would your friend order another beta on Monday and then you could make a final decision about meds? Sorry, this sucks.

Dragonfly1226 · June 2013

I agree that today's result doesn't look good. I am so sorry for that. But I am also a rule follower so if it was me I would listen to the RE and continue my meds until my real beta. Even if you are 99.9% sure it is a BFN, isn't that .1% chance enough to stick it out until Wednesday just to be sure?

kbeach82 · June 2013

While I am sorry to say that I agree with PPs that a negative beta at this DPO does not look promising, I would follow the advice of your RE. My RE doesn't even order a beta until the equivalent of 18dpo. Good luck.

jensahokie · June 2013

Thanks for the input! Today is 9pd5dt...BFN this morning. We are OOP and I feel like I might as well be throwing meds away. I did the progesterone last night and the Estrace and I will change my Vivelle patches this morning, but I have to say I just don't know that I can keep doing it if I get another BFN tomorrow morning. Especially given my 3 successful pregnancies (beyond blessed!), I feel like it's pretty obvious that it's time to move on to another cycle. Part of me is angry and wondering where my $3600 went... it doesn't seem like I've been given much info...nothing on the embryo other than "Exp. blast" and 2 days before the transfer, they never called with my labs (I asked during the transfer and he said, "If you didn't get a call, they were fine" and that makes me wonder if he even looked at them.) It really bothers me that the nurse said at 8.5dp5dt a beta would not be accurate since it seems like I've found several references that say otherwise. I guess I am just frustrated and it doesn't help that my ILs are visiting

itsmevkb · June 2013

I'm so sorry. It's hard wanting something so badly and having it slip through your fingers. Not to mention the financial aspect of it. And yea, I heard you on the in-law thing. Mine are in town for the next two weeks and I'm already tired of them!

Huge hugs.

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