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Who can and can't come visit in the hospital?

SilentSymphonySilentSymphony member
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My SO asked me the other day who all is coming to visit after my csection and I told him truthfully a couple of people I already knew were planning on coming. He told me thatt he had already told his mother that she was not allowed to come, but I have no problem with her coming to see her grand-daughter. His mother and I are on good terms, we've had a rocky relationship, but pulled through. And then I told him that his two friends who are our first childs god-parents are coming and hes says theyre not allowed to come see me at the hospital because theyre fighting and are no longer friends with eachother..... I will be in the hospital for 4 days and he will only be there with me for 2 days before he has to go back to work (he works 3 hours away). Should I respect the fact he doesnt want them there, tell him too bad, or just wait until he leaves?
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Re: Who can and can't come visit in the hospital?

  • mben1119mben1119 member

    If my husband didn't want someone at the hospital for the birth of our child, I'd respect that fact fully. He's just as much of a parent as you are, and gets to make those decisions too.

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  • SilentSymphonySilentSymphony member
    imagemabenner1:

    If my husband didn't want someone at the hospital for the birth of our child, I'd respect that fact fully. He's just as much of a parent as you are, and gets to make those decisions too.

    The only reason why I ask is because he's saying they all can't come due to his own personal problems with them. Its not like they are a hazard to me or the baby...they just want to show their support :/ 

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  • annabelle.27annabelle.27 member
    imagemabenner1:
    If my husband didn't want someone at the hospital for the birth of our child, I'd respect that fact fully. He's just as much of a parent as you are, and gets to make those decisions too.


    I disagree with this. Yes he is an equal coparent, but the OP is the one who is the patient in a hospital. I say she can have whoever she wants come and visit her.
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    imageSilentSymphony:
    imagemabenner1:

    If my husband didn't want someone at the hospital for the birth of our child, I'd respect that fact fully. He's just as much of a parent as you are, and gets to make those decisions too.

    The only reason why I ask is because he's saying they all can't come due to his own personal problems with them. Its not like they are a hazard to me or the baby...they just want to show their support :/ 

    If there was someone in our lives who DH absolutely did not want around our newborn child, for whatever reason, I would respect that 100%. I think sneaking them into the hospital to see your LO when he's not around is deceitful and disrespectful.

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  • mysticlmysticl member
    Is his issue with the godparents that he doesn't want them to be part of your lives at all or he just doesn't want them fighting in front of you and the baby?  If its just because of the fighting maybe they could visit at different times.  You shouldn't have to sit there for 2 days with no visitors. 
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    imageSilentSymphony:
    imagemabenner1:

    If my husband didn't want someone at the hospital for the birth of our child, I'd respect that fact fully. He's just as much of a parent as you are, and gets to make those decisions too.

    The only reason why I ask is because he's saying they all can't come due to his own personal problems with them. Its not like they are a hazard to me or the baby...they just want to show their support :/ 

    Well, why are you having them as godparents if he doesn't get along with them anymore? Also, why doesn't he want his mother? I would invite who you want, especially since he's leaving. 

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  • SilentSymphonySilentSymphony member
    DD#1 godparents would never fight with him. there was some big blow out that I was un aware of a few months back (SO I guess cut off all of his friends and family) and hes still all butt hurt. The godparents dont want him to try and start a conflict not the other way around. And SO just has a huge grudge held against his mom for some childhood issues. idk...... >.<
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