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muffyvonmuff · June 2013

The weather is so nice today. I would in a pre pregnancy life be out having a Sunday Funday with all my friends bar hopping and being merry. Honestly I hate hanging out with everyone now that I cant drink, it bums me out. Then I have my birthday "celebration" to think of. I mean the Bruins making it into the Stanley Cup just sealed my fate for working on my actual birthday, Saturday, but I don't have the slightest idea what else to do. I really love doing fabulous things for my birthday and this year it just seems like no matter what I plan its going to be lame and I'm going to be round and sober. ::sigh::

elllaf · June 2013

It's sad that you feel you can't have fun without alcohol.

Sdeux · June 2013

elllaf:
It's sad that you feel you can't have fun without alcohol.

Agreed! I've been having bartenders make fun mocktails/virgin drinks. That way your still included but actually better off. Cheaper and no hangover. Have fun with it!

muffyvonmuff · June 2013

Its sad I had a great social life? Im a bartender with tons of bartender friends and don't feel like not participating in the Sunday Funday events. But your condescending tone over someone disappointed they cant celebrate their birthday, in the way they wish could, hasn't gone unnoticed. Hey, Im not used to spending my summers not in the center of the action. I am usually the one throwing parties and gathering everyone to go out, now I don't know what to do with myself. Suggestions would certainly be a more worthwhile response.

elllaf · June 2013

So now drinking is the only way to be social?
None of your friends will do anything Else with you unless there are bars involved?
Now's the time to try other things because your :social: life will never be the same again.
If there is such a great night life in your area I'm positive there are other things to do that will be lots of fun!
You have to try them to know...

Jenniferromero · June 2013

Agree

shelley1002 · June 2013

elllaf:
So now drinking is the only way to be social?
None of your friends will do anything Else with you unless there are bars involved?
Now's the time to try other things because your :social: life will never be the same again.
If there is such a great night life in your area I'm positive there are other things to do that will be lots of fun!
You have to try them to know...

This.

OP it may not have been your intention but it sounds like you and your friends don't know how to do much outside of bars and drinking. That is how it came out. And just because you are pregnant does not mean you can't go to bars and hang out. If you can't handle being around alcohol while pregnant sounds like there may be more going on here. Drunk people I can understand not wanting to be around but you make it sound like its the alcohol.

Happyroxi1 · June 2013

I don't want to offend with this comment. I enjoyed the occasional pre pregnancy drink, but I don't miss it now that I'm pregnant again. After I had our son, our lifestyle changed and evolved and I wouldn't change it for the world. I think that it will get easier once you hold your baby, you won't want to do the same things and you won't miss it. Your baby will be your most important priority. My birthday isn't even that big of a deal to me anymore, doin fun things with my son is the greatest enjoyment I could ever imagine. Good luck!

TudorRose11 · June 2013

I think a few people took this too dramatically. I also work in restaurants so I get what you're trying to say. My friends and I have a great time going to dinner, bowling and other activities... but we also like to drink beer and play corn hole in the back yard.

I get what you're trying to say OP - this is my first summer not being right in the thick of those sort of activities. It doesn't mean I am an alcoholic or can't have fun without alcohol, it means I am human and miss a cold Blue Moon while playing corn hole.

Amjoy25 · June 2013

I feel ya too. Hanging on Sunday Funday requires friends and drinking...drinking makes it more fun! It is kind of sad I can't have fun without drinking, but it is what it is; especially, when others are drinking and you aren't, it really blows. Drunk or tipsy people are just annoying.

muffyvonmuff · June 2013

Eh we all must have lead very different lives 6 months ago. Im a bartender, I work in a very busy bar 40 hours a week till 3/4am most nights probably when most of you are already in bed. I also have my friends all over the city in the same industry so when you hang out with people some without kids mostly in their mid to late 20's that is what we did (especially when you basically drink or eat for free everywhere). I certainly wouldn't make them change their lives because I'm pregnant. I was hoping for some other suggestions on what you guys do for fun now or maybe always did for fun since from the responses no one hangs out at a bar. Thanks for the assistance but I'll figure out some fun birthday plans on my own.

norbert5 · June 2013

Happy early birthday! Sorry it isn't going to be what you want it to be.

I went to an amazing bar last night and was kind of bummed when I realized I had to really push to get a good mocktail from the bartender.

Maybe try to get some inspiration from groupon or living social on what to do for your birthday.

Amjoy25 · June 2013

has615:
Eh we all must have lead very different lives 6 months ago. Im a bartender, I work in a very busy bar 40 hours a week till 3/4am most nights probably when most of you are already in bed. I also have my friends all over the city in the same industry so when you hang out with people some without kids mostly in their mid to late 20's that is what we did (especially when you basically drink or eat for free everywhere). I certainly wouldn't make them change their lives because I'm pregnant. I was hoping for some other suggestions on what you guys do for fun now or maybe always did for fun since from the responses no one hangs out at a bar. Thanks for the assistance but I'll figure out some fun birthday plans on my own.

Sorry. I was just upset because people were calling you an alcoholic in a round about way, and that's not cool.

Do you like baseball? Go see a game!

BTW don't let anyone with good etiquette know you are planning your own birthday. You'll be considered gift grabby Wink

muffyvonmuff · June 2013

Amjoy25:
has615:
Eh we all must have lead very different lives 6 months ago. Im a bartender, I work in a very busy bar 40 hours a week till 3/4am most nights probably when most of you are already in bed. I also have my friends all over the city in the same industry so when you hang out with people some without kids mostly in their mid to late 20's that is what we did (especially when you basically drink or eat for free everywhere). I certainly wouldn't make them change their lives because I'm pregnant. I was hoping for some other suggestions on what you guys do for fun now or maybe always did for fun since from the responses no one hangs out at a bar. Thanks for the assistance but I'll figure out some fun birthday plans on my own.
Sorry. I was just upset because people were calling you an alcoholic in a round about way, and that's not cool.
Do you like baseball? Go see a game!
BTW don't let anyone with good etiquette know you are planning your own birthday. You'll be considered gift grabby

Finally a great suggestion! I'll check out the the Red Sox minor league sched is like on Sunday THANK YOU. Everyone I know picks where they want to go/do for their birthday and tells the group, very normal for anyone I know. So 20-30 people all go out for a party, gifts are never involved just good company. As for the alcoholic comments they we're just silly since I serve drinks all night, it would be kinda weird to assume I cant be around booze when It's what I get paid to do.

muffyvonmuff · June 2013

TudorRose11:
I think a few people took this too dramatically. I also work in restaurants so I get what you're trying to say. My friends and I have a great time going to dinner, bowling and other activities... but we also like to drink beer and play corn hole in the back yard.
I get what you're trying to say OP - this is my first summer not being right in the thick of those sort of activities. It doesn't mean I am an alcoholic or can't have fun without alcohol, it means I am human and miss a cold Blue Moon while playing corn hole.

And DITTO on the cold blue moon while playing corn hole!

TudorRose11 · June 2013

has615:
TudorRose11:
I think a few people took this too dramatically. I also work in restaurants so I get what you're trying to say. My friends and I have a great time going to dinner, bowling and other activities... but we also like to drink beer and play corn hole in the back yard.
I get what you're trying to say OP - this is my first summer not being right in the thick of those sort of activities. It doesn't mean I am an alcoholic or can't have fun without alcohol, it means I am human and miss a cold Blue Moon while playing corn hole.
And DITTO on the cold blue moon while playing corn hole!

Beer

Here's to looking forward to a tall cold one this fall!

elllaf · June 2013

has615:
Honestly I hate hanging out with everyone now that I cant drink, it bums me out.

I'm so sorry! I don't take this as you wanted suggestions!? You should have said so!

Here's one...
Quit complaining and make the best of it! It's your birthday! The last one before your beautiful child comes into the world and none of this will even matter to you anymore.
Priorities.

muffyvonmuff · June 2013

elllaf:
has615:
Honestly I hate hanging out with everyone now that I cant drink, it bums me out.
I'm so sorry! I don't take this as you wanted suggestions!? You should have said so! Here's one... Quit complaining and make the best of it! It's your birthday! The last one before your beautiful child comes into the world and none of this will even matter to you anymore. Priorities.

TudorRose11 · June 2013

has615:
elllaf:
has615:
Honestly I hate hanging out with everyone now that I cant drink, it bums me out.

I'm so sorry! I don't take this as you wanted suggestions!? You should have said so!

Here's one...
Quit complaining and make the best of it! It's your birthday! The last one before your beautiful child comes into the world and none of this will even matter to you anymore.
Priorities.
 
 
 

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MrsAxilla · June 2013

OMG! Just because you have a kid doesn't mean you become a different person! Your life will change and you won't notice or care that you never go out with your friends anymore? That's some BS right there, and a recipe for unhappiness. Yes, your life and priorities change, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the same things you used to.

OP, do something totally different for your birthday! A fancy dinner and maybe a show or play.

kellyk17 · June 2013

I live in Brooklyn where bar or drinking culture is the norm, including for kids birthday parties. This does not mean people are getting wasted all the time, it's just where we socialize. Try to keep positive and get creative with some mock tails! I love asking bartenders to make something fun for me. It's okay to mourn your old life a little, I think it helps get you ready for the big changes ahead. I still go out dancing, and plan to until my OB said it's not okay. I just go water to drink with my friends and leave a little earlier. Fun is still out there!

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