- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
July 2012 Moms
elizdg
member
Effed up situation
elizdg
member
So I think I've posted a little about this before, but I need to get it off my chest because knowing about it is driving me crazy.
My cousin got married last May. I was a bridesmaid, and he was a groomsman in my wedding. We've always been fairly close, as growing up he was pretty much the brother I never had.
Well fast forward to now, his wife is pregnant and is due in September. Just some background, my cousin has never really wanted kids. He is still very much a party animal and can't let that lifestyle go. I'm pretty sure he did not truly want to get married, but he felt pressured into it by his now wife.
Here's where it gets crazy: my mom is friends with a bartender here in town. My cousin is having an affair with the bartender, and he and the bartender have both opened up to my mom about it. As in, he stays at her house several nights out of the week, buys her a 100 dollar Victoria's Secret gift card for her birthday, says he loves her, etc.
He and the wife sleep in separate bedrooms when he is home, spend no time together, and fight like crazy when they are with each other. He refuses to do anything to prepare for the baby. However, on facebook, the wife constantly posts things like, "oh, hubby felt the baby move today, it was so sweet," or "going out to dinner with my wonderful man," or "hubby just put together all of baby's furniture. He's going to make such a great daddy."
Can someone really be in that much denial? I know he is definitely in the wrong, but what in the world is she thinking? I just feel like it's so sad, and it's driving me crazy seeing her post all that stuff about how perfect everything is! I'm guessing she thinks everything will be perfect once the baby is born, but I'm pretty sure things are just going to get uglier with that added stress.
Ugh, sorry I wrote a book, but it's late and I can't vent to anyone irl. I need to mind my own business, but I just can't get over the drama for some reason!
My cousin got married last May. I was a bridesmaid, and he was a groomsman in my wedding. We've always been fairly close, as growing up he was pretty much the brother I never had.
Well fast forward to now, his wife is pregnant and is due in September. Just some background, my cousin has never really wanted kids. He is still very much a party animal and can't let that lifestyle go. I'm pretty sure he did not truly want to get married, but he felt pressured into it by his now wife.
Here's where it gets crazy: my mom is friends with a bartender here in town. My cousin is having an affair with the bartender, and he and the bartender have both opened up to my mom about it. As in, he stays at her house several nights out of the week, buys her a 100 dollar Victoria's Secret gift card for her birthday, says he loves her, etc.
He and the wife sleep in separate bedrooms when he is home, spend no time together, and fight like crazy when they are with each other. He refuses to do anything to prepare for the baby. However, on facebook, the wife constantly posts things like, "oh, hubby felt the baby move today, it was so sweet," or "going out to dinner with my wonderful man," or "hubby just put together all of baby's furniture. He's going to make such a great daddy."
Can someone really be in that much denial? I know he is definitely in the wrong, but what in the world is she thinking? I just feel like it's so sad, and it's driving me crazy seeing her post all that stuff about how perfect everything is! I'm guessing she thinks everything will be perfect once the baby is born, but I'm pretty sure things are just going to get uglier with that added stress.
Ugh, sorry I wrote a book, but it's late and I can't vent to anyone irl. I need to mind my own business, but I just can't get over the drama for some reason!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Effed up situation
I think she thinks everything will be better once she has the baby. It's going to hit her really hard when she is left alone with this baby and he's off screwing some lady. I feel really bad for her .
Why don't you talk to him now about divorce rather than after the baby he is obviously not happy!
Oh I know he's an idiot, that's why I said he's definitely in the wrong. I think everyone knows that that's pretty obvious. I'm just having a hard time wrapping my mind around the denial aspect of it. I'd like to think that if I were in that situation I would have his stuff out on the street ready to go, but I guess you never really know how you'll react once you're in that situation.
My mom has had better luck talking to him than I have. He just kind of brushes it off, though. He agrees that what he's doing is wrong, but he's dragging his feet and just won't go ahead and leave. You can tell he is not thinking at all about the consequences, all he is worried about is having fun in the moment. I should also mention that his wife pretty much pays most of their bills on her own, because he blows what little money he makes on 4 wheelers, drinks, etc. So I'm sure that may be a contributing factor as to why he is a little reluctant to cut all ties.
In your situation I would definetley say something, the only thing is this girl sounds like she's holding onto hope. She might just need to get completely fed up before she wakes up and takes action. I feel bad for her.
Aww thank you so much! That definitely just made my day!
I don't know guys, it sounds like something out of a Lifetime movie for sure. I'm going to try to keep talking to him about it, maybe I can wear him down. It's all just really sad and I feel like once it's all said and done, the wife is going to go off the deep end. I just keep thinking of that poor baby :[ I hope they can all get it together soon!