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Intro and WWYD Re: Daycare Incident

thelizbizthelizbiz member
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Mobile: Intro and wwyd re: daycare incident

Hi! I'm a major longtime lurker here, been around since I got my bfp last april. My DS was born January 14 after 26 hours of labor ugh but he is awesome. This board is awesome too and I learn much from you all! Looking forward to becoming more involved!

So my issue: DS is at a home Daycare. He is the youngest of the kids there, the others being 3 girls aged 18 to 24 months. He's been there since he was 7 weeks and we haven't really had any issues. Today I had him in a long sleeved shirt and when I brought him home and changed him, I noticed he had a dark purple bruise on his forearm that looks like a bite mark. I've emailed the Daycare lady and sent her a picture and asked if she knew anything about it but I haven't heard back yet.

Wwyd? I realize accidents happen, but he's so much younger than the other kids, and I guess I was hoping she'd keep a better eye out when they all interact. How many times do I "let it go" before I determine it's a real problem? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Thanks for any input!
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  • dkmc4everdkmc4ever member
    Regardless of what caused it, I'd be concerned that she didn't think to mention it to you when you picked DS up tonight.  Disclaimer: I am a SAHM, so I have zero experience in this situation, but that would be raising all types of red flags for me.
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  • AshleyDehavenAshleyDehaven member
    Honestly? I would start looking for a new daycare.. I know that sounds extreme, but like you said, your LO is SO much younger then the other kiddos there, and toddlers don't know to play gentle, obviously. If the person watching them all can't keep the bigger kids from hurting the smaller ones then that just wouldn't be a situation i would remain a part of. But that's just me. 
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  • mbredinmbredin member
    My lo got a purple bruise from sucking her arm. She literally gave herself a hickey. Could it be that? Though Its weird they didn't tell you plus with it being in home that is more nerveracking.
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  • portentosaportentosa member

    imagembredin:
    My lo got a purple bruise from sucking her arm. She literally gave herself a hickey. Could it be that? Though Its weird they didn't tell you plus with it being in home that is more nerveracking.

    My guy has given himself a hickey too. I always pull his arm out of his mouth now and give him his WubNub instead. 

    But if it was the older kids I would definitely pull DS out. One of two things happened... they knew about the incident and didn't mention it or they weren't supervising the kids well enough to see the incident happen. Either scenario would be a deal breaker for me the first time. 

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  • jobiannjobiann member

    My in home d/c has some strict rules about DS being around the three other kiddos she has....ages 14, 16 & 17 months. She never leaves him within reach of them unassisted. She always puts him in a PNP where they cannot get to him if she takes her eyes off of him. They love him but think he is a baby doll.

    She does let them interact with him while she is closely supervising. Touching his belly, feet, arms....no touching his face or hands. Singing/talking to him. Now that he is in a walker more often she says she has to play more interference but so far no negative incidents.

    I hope they didn't know about the bite...if they did and didn't disclose I'd be looking for a new d/c.

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  • thelizbizthelizbiz member
    Thanks for all of the responses! Im a FTM so I didnt know if I just needed to accept that things like this may happen every so often at daycare. Glad to see you were all thinking along the same lines.

    My DC lady called me last night in response to my email and sounded genuinely upset, concerned, and apologetic for the mark. She said he didn't even cry yesterday at all so she has no idea when or how it happened. She apologized profusely and promised to keep the girls away from him at all times from now on.

    I feel a little better, but I plan on keeping my eyes out for other DC options.
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  • peterepetere member
    From experience working in a day care with infants sometimes it just happens even when you have full supervision. Infants as young as 6 months of age can bite others so they age isn't too concerning. Don't get me wrong I think she should have said something if she knew but like she said if he didn't cry and she turned around to help one of the other kids for a second someone could have bitten him or dropped a toy or even looked like they were just going him a kiss. Especially with the older kids age they are in the showing affection stage. At this point I wouldn't be too concerned but if it continues to happen I would start to worry. I am glad she emailed you back right away!
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  • IncogNeatoIncogNeato member
    I'd wait and see if it happens again. I mean, honestly, when you have more than one kid around.... stuff happens. I have a toddler and a baby and sometimes DD manages to pinch or poke or bump into her sister. It happens. No one can keep eyes on multiple kids every single second of the day. That's why second, third, and fourth kids are so tough- they have to be!
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