SD's and Mother's Day

Pamelacake · May 2013

In our state, Mother's Day weekend is supposed to be spent with BM. She didn't pick themup on Friday so I texted her las night to see if she wanted to spend the day with them, and if so let us know what time she would be here to pick them up so I could have them ready. I have heard nothing back from her.

I saw a similar post about this but it wasn't exactly the same and didn' twant to hijack.

Should I have SD's, 5 & 6yo text her or something? Or just leave it alone? I opened the door for her ot see them, I know I can't force her. I love having them here with me but I know that is their mom. I just wish she cared more.

DH didn't allow her to take them on saturday due to reasons ellaborated in another post. Very serious reasons.

MommyEllenSue · May 2013

I would let it be. Sounds like you opened the door for her but it's up to her to walk through it. Make them available if she does call but other than that I would just not worry about her and have a good day.

ambrvan · May 2013

Umm.... hell no? Are you crazy? You posted about CPS and police and an unknown pill, possibly a narcotic being give the to the children, to make them go to sleep. If you want to encourage visitation without being in outright violation of anything, do what I said in the first thread. Open the door for her to visit under your DH's supervision. This includes Mother's Day. Being inconsistent on when you think it is dangerous to allow the BM to have them alone obly speaks ill against your DH. It makes it look like you are playing games and using the kids as pawns instead of really being concerned with their safety and trying to do what is right for them. You have to stick to your guns. You think the BM may have DRUGGED HER CHILDREN! If that was not MUD, then why is this even a question?

Pamelacake · June 2013

ambrvan:
Umm.... hell no? Are you crazy? You posted about CPS and police and an unknown pill, possibly a narcotic being give the to the children, to make them go to sleep. If you want to encourage visitation without being in outright violation of anything, do what I said in the first thread. Open the door for her to visit under your DH's supervision. This includes Mother's Day. Being inconsistent on when you think it is dangerous to allow the BM to have them alone obly speaks ill against your DH. It makes it look like you are playing games and using the kids as pawns instead of really being concerned with their safety and trying to do what is right for them. You have to stick to your guns. You think the BM may have DRUGGED HER CHILDREN! If that was not MUD, then why is this even a question?

She said she had plans to take them to a park.. it wasn't mud. BM started calling after 3 on sunday saying she just got the msg which I know was a lie bc she had her phone out late that Saturday night at the bar showing my SIL pics on it. We simply told her that we assumed she would get back with us sooner and that it was too late in the day. We didn't want to send them at all.. that's why we waited until about 10pm to send the text Saturday evening, knew she would see it but not try to respond as she would be at the bar. But at the same time didn't want to seem like we were trying to alienate her b/c DH still had not heard anything from CPS.

I didn't realize there was another response on here or I would have replied sooner.

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