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less than 4 months later
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My divorce was finalized sonetimes in January/February. Since that time I've been working very hard to get DS in a place where he feels safe and not in constant chaos and he is finally feeling stable and happy and like he is really enjoying life. However it seems ex is unhappy and wants to invite chaos back into DS life. He wants to change our parenting agreement...less than 4 months after the divorce was finalized.
DS was diagnosed with opositional defiance disorder with ADD qualities and his teachers had a hard time keeping him under control. He would hit and kick other students and continually throw fits. We have dealt with his opositional defiance disorder and DS is doing much better however we cannot begin testing for ADD until we have been out of a divorce and without conflict for several months. This just prolongs the testing even longer.
On another note. Exs girlfriend freaked out and has been escalating her behavior at pickups. It started with flipping me off as I drove away then last pickup she jumped out of her car tried running in front of my car flipping me off with both hands and yelling at me to fck off fck off fck off. Why woukd she make such a public scene I have no idea. I have the feeling that she is just bat shii crazy and I guess she didnt get her way at DS kindergarden graduation. Who knows.
Anyway sorry for the rant. At the court date should I focas on DS improvement or what?
DS was diagnosed with opositional defiance disorder with ADD qualities and his teachers had a hard time keeping him under control. He would hit and kick other students and continually throw fits. We have dealt with his opositional defiance disorder and DS is doing much better however we cannot begin testing for ADD until we have been out of a divorce and without conflict for several months. This just prolongs the testing even longer.
On another note. Exs girlfriend freaked out and has been escalating her behavior at pickups. It started with flipping me off as I drove away then last pickup she jumped out of her car tried running in front of my car flipping me off with both hands and yelling at me to fck off fck off fck off. Why woukd she make such a public scene I have no idea. I have the feeling that she is just bat shii crazy and I guess she didnt get her way at DS kindergarden graduation. Who knows.
Anyway sorry for the rant. At the court date should I focas on DS improvement or what?
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About the g/f, I say this as someone who is the gf, that behavior is sooo far away from ok and I would not be ok with her doing any PU/DO from now on. Is there anything on your CO about who can do PU/DO. From now on I would document anything that happens so that of you do go back to court you can put something in about who can/can not do exchanges. For now, do you do exchanges at your houses of a neutral location? With her behavior I would suggest saying you would like to do exchanges at the police station for now.
Like I said I am still me to the whole blended family situation so if I am wrong etc please feel free to correct me :
the first part: I have a family of cousins and a sister that has being all over the autism and ADHD scale. It is very hard some days to figure out what works and what makes each child in our family happy and safe feeling. I am really sorry that your EXH would not see the big picture; your child needs a set timeline and the security of it. ARGH, this makes me so annoyed and angry for you. My sister is going off to college and my mother waited till she was 16 to find her help, and she didn't do much to be honest. My sister struggles with day to day things with out having a list, or knowing what is going on. Its also very 'random' at what upsets her. New people are ok, new foods not ok, new places sometimes ok as long as she knows what's going to happen. ETC. My point being...your EXH needs his head out of his bum and needs to grow up for his son. You knew that I just wanted to rally behind you.
Ok next, WTH!!!! call the cops, don't let this person near your child. any sane human would never act in such a way.
GL!
*internet punch the GF in da face*
I hate it when people act like this in front of children. Things are already chaotic enough for them. DH recently told BM that her b/f was no longer allowed to drive her to pickup because B/F threatened to "bash daddy in the skull" referring to my DH. DH did tell her that B/F could bring BM (she cannot legally drive) b/c DH doesn't want to be mean. She probably won't come to get them anyways.
I would make sure this is brought up in court as well as how the child is doing because this will be a setback for him. Not good for the child at all! And that is a major thing.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
This. That woman sounds BSC. I missed the kindergarten graduation post - what happened there?
Also, DS was diagnosed in March with ADHD, and we now attend a behavior modification class for just the parents. Two sessions ago the doctor was talking about ODD and ADD/ADHD, and she was saying how ODD is mostly environmentally based, while ADD & ADHD are brain based. Basically, ODD is something that can be completely overcome. Are there any groups you and XH can attend to learn methods to dealing with DS and overcoming the ODD?