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Should I throw her a baby shower?!
Ok so I'm 6 weeks pg and my close friend is 5 months. This is her 4th child and I've either done or participated in her 3 childrens baby showers. She has mentioned that she doesnt really need one this time but I wonder if I should throw one anyway? This is my 1st child so I'm sure her and my mother (w/my mother covering the expenses ) will do something for me.
I feel sort of obligated to throw her one but at the same time I feel that maybe shes had enough!
I'm just so torn but I need to decide soon...shes running out of time!
Also known as *BreeBree13* Stupid bump keeps logging me in under my old name!
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Re: Should I throw her a baby shower?!
I don't think it would be necessary for you to throw a huge shower for her if this is her 4th baby. You've already done 3 of them! My goodness...
A 4th baby shower ?!?!? I don't understand why people have a baby shower with the 2nd baby...I can understand if the 2nd baby is a different gender or it's been several years between baby 1 and baby 2 BUT anything else I think is tacky,tacky, tacky.
You should not feel obligated at all; you've thrown 3 baby showers for her? Wow! You have gone above and beyond the call of duty. I wouldn't worry about it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
nope, don't do it.
A baby shower is to welcome a mother to motherhood; to celebrate a woman's transition from no child to mother.
She's already there. She doesn't need another celebration of her transition.
THanks!
I feel much better now about not doing one!
I think you have def. done your part, and that more that 1 or 2 showers is a little extreem. Just let yourself be okay with her having said that she doesn't need a shower, i think she gets it too.
if you really feel guilty then i like the diaper idea, organize it among close family and friends and maybe present them with the diapers after the babys birth.
I agree with lilliebear. But in my family showers (after the first) are truly just celebrations of the addition to the family and not the "welcome to motherhood" that some of the other posters mentioned. We have showers for everyone, but often anything passed the first shower is not necessarily smaller, but has smaller gifts. As mentioned before, outfits and diapers.
If you want to do something you should, but you should not feel obligated. And if she doesn't want anything don't do it. But she might still like to celebrate her new baby even if she doesn't want/need any gifts.