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Decided we're one and done, and relieved...

ilovehousesilovehouses member
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I have always thought I'd be one and done.  My Dh would like multiple children.  We had our son 9 months ago, and I promised to keep an open mind about it.  I did.  For a while I was leaning with having another.  This was when LO was a newborn and easy.  In the last couple of months though I've been leaning towards being done again.  So, my DH and I spoke about it and he's on board with just having one.

So, I'm having a yardsale and am getting rid of the baby stuff.  Whew.  I just feel good to have a decision.  I love my LO, and so far I think I'm an awesome mom.  I just don't feel that I would be so awesome with the stress of two.  I'm also in the camp that feels kids just fight with each other and it's not always this great sibling togtherness that many people tell you about.

I've also decided to not tell MIL/FIL.  MIL in particular is really pushy about having multiple and it's not really her decision. 

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Re: Decided we're one and done, and relieved...

  • ferris0906ferris0906 member

    Welcome to the board.

    It sounds like you are making this decision for all the right reasons.  I am also right there with you on the MIL thing.  

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    There is no reason why you need to tellanyone about your reproductive choices. 

    But- be ready.  If she's pushy, she will start the comments about "so.... when can we expect another?", etc.  Be ready.  I'd recommend smiling and just saying "we'll see!".  No need to engage past that.

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  • ahssabinoahssabino member
    My MIL and mom both think there should  be more then one. I got my mom on board after I explained  our life. ( he is a firefighter and I am a social worker) once she had time to think about it she got it. MIL not so much and I a don't think she will ever really stop , like with so many other things, and I just remind myself that this is our life and we make the best choices for our family and at the end of the day that is all that matters
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