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  • kescalerakescalera member
    Sounds like your DH might have to choose between staying home that weekend or dealing with two temper tantrum throwers. I personally have no problem telling my DH "I don't wanna go!" and will even stamp my foot if I think it might help. I am the Queen of Tantrums even at almost-30 years old =) Occasionally I will try the adult-version & sit him down to explain my point but sometimes he just doesn't get that I'm (always) right.
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    I don't mean this in an offensive way but have you ever thought the reason why your DD isn't sleeping well at night is because you have so much going on?  With trips to the zoo, every weekend (not sure if your traveling the 3 hours to her or not each weekend), etc.  I realize it can be tiresome but from the period of 3-6 months old I always felt it was very important to stick with a strict nap/sleep schedule (that my baby choose not me) and just worked everything around that.  Yes its hard (especially since I have other kids) but as a whole life is much easier because you have a much happier baby.  Once their older and have established schedules, its easier to sway off it.  Our family gave us grief because we would opt not to go somewhere because of naps or didn't want to keep our 6 month old baby up past bedtime but really, we never cared- as long as we're together we're not missing out on anything.  So sorry to go off your complaint, but just wanted to add some unrequested thought.  But I would recommend talking with your DH about boundaries with his mother- maybe next time she has your DD and your DD starts getting fussy, your DH should take her out of her hands and say JandA will take care of her, she's best at meeting her needs.
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    If I were in your position and I could afford it I would say that you are planning to start sleep training and do not want to upset the routine and then offer to pay the difference in the ticket price to fly to the airport near you. If you subtract the gas price and the time and hassle you will probably be making out ahead.

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    Yeanbsp;I really wish we could just do that, but I think it would offend his sister.nbsp;She's going through some crazy stuff right now that is hurting her finances that was not at all her doing.nbsp;His sister really loves DD and has only been able to see her twice ever since she was born. She was going to come up in June but ticket prices were too high all around, so it got pushed into July. She is pretty much coming up just to see DD. DH's parents just went down to see her a couple weeks ago, so its not to see them. I think this would all be easier if DD wasn't the first and only grandchild/niece or nephew on that side. I'm glad that she is so loved, but it does complicate things at times...


    We have given money to people at various times and I paid half of my moms ticket when she came down to meet LO. My experience has been that as long as people know you can afford the gift, and they can use the help, it is generally accepted with thanks and does not make the person feel bad.

    Now that you mentioned she is having money issues, I would say to her something along the lines of we are so happy you are coming down just to see LO, we know that airfare prices are crazy right now and it would make us feel better if we could contribute X dollars to your ticket. You can make it sound like taking the money would be doing you a favor, which in actuality it will.

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    Could you pay the difference of SILs ticket to come to you guys? Or is it a crazy big difference? I figure you would be spending money anyway filling up the gas tank 2-4 times anyway for the 3 hour trip.
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