Judgement Day / UOs

michaelaskedlauren · June 2013

Bring 'em ladies! And if youre feeling extra fiesty, throw in some flame-worthy confessions as well.

michaelaskedlauren · June 2013

I judge our friends who think their nanny is the cat's meow and think we should use her when they move in a few months. Ummm, the fact that your nanny takes your DD to the park once a week and to a class once a week isnt all that impressive to me, especially since our nanny takes DS to activities every single day pre-planned or not. Im glad you are happy with your nanny, but ours rules.

I also judge DS for being a major crankapotamus this week. I know that a growth spurt can be tough, kiddo, but stop being such a sad face! (I obviously dont really judge my son, but it was kinda fun to type out).

CrawltheWarriorKing · June 2013

I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.

Indifferent

AZ123 · June 2013

I judge my SAHM friend. Every time I see her she makes some comment or says something about how she's glad she's a SAHM or how she never ever wants to go back to work. When she talks, in my head I'm yelling "Know your audience!" and then I think to myself, "Be confident in your decision. You don't need to justify it to me everytime you see me."

litzo27 · June 2013

I seriously judge our business school dean and other heads who let the diva architect on our new building take full reign and dictate all the shots. We just visited the almost constructed building and a floor of 60 people has 2 unisex bathroom stalls? For real???? And the classrooms are all tombs which don't have windows (even though they are along the outside wall) and our administrative staff has to sit out in the open without even cubicles and .... oh there's tons more there.

honeybee111 · June 2013

I'm judging my brother and SIL for not disciplining their kid. OK, he's almost 3. I think that's old enough to have a redirection or consequence for shoving my DD. Or a correction for saying things like, "No like you!" as we're walking in for a visit. I don't think it's funny like they do, and I'm losing sympathy for SIL when she tells me she gives him whatever he wants because she "can't stand seeing him cry". OK, good luck with that and let me know how he's doing when he's a teenager. I'm tired of being the referee when we get together, and it makes me not want to hang out with them as much.

littlestjerry · June 2013

I already wrote this on another board, but I saw a man with Cookie Monster pajama pants on at Target the other day. I judged this a lot. I have trouble controlling my facial expressions, so I'm sure it was written all over my face.

FemShep · June 2013

I saw two little boys playing in a park the other day, probably 3 and 5. Both were sucking away on pacis. I judged the crap out of their parents.

FemShep · June 2013

litzo27:
I seriously judge our business school dean and other heads who let the diva architect on our new building take full reign and dictate all the shots. We just visited the almost constructed building and a floor of 60 people has 2 unisex bathroom stalls? For real???? And the classrooms are all tombs which don't have windows (even though they are along the outside wall) and our administrative staff has to sit out in the open without even cubicles and .... oh there's tons more there.

Columbia?

LoCarb · June 2013

I judge the mom at a b-day party who commented she never wants to send her child to any type of daycare or schooling (even elementary yrs) b/c he could get sick. He was born a preemie-I get the concern but even the pedi suggests he can attend DC at 1 yo. She looking for a new pedi and preached about homeschooling.

michaelaskedlauren · June 2013

I judge myself for realizing JUST NOW that my 5 year anniversary is tomorrow. Ooops.

*sparky* · June 2013

I judge the mom @ the park after school who refuses to believe her DS ever does anything mean or wrong, or says a bad word, or lies, even though countless kids have complained to her about him. She just says "oh he doesn't say words like that", "he never lies", etc. Meanwhile her face is too deep in her phone every day for her to have any idea what her kid is doing.

financialdiva · June 2013

JNL$LSM:
PrivacyWanted:
I judge friends who are still insisting their 3.5 yo ride in the stroller at all times. Poor guy is looking cramped and gets scolded if he whines to get out and walk. At a certain point you need to let the kid walk. DD has ridden in the stroller maybe 2x since she turned 2. So we go a little slower , but at least she's active

I saw this yesterday it look like the kid's knees were touching his chest. He look so uncomfortable UGH crazy.

Clearly neither of you have a runner! :] DS1 still likes to ride in the stroller, but sometimes he likes to walk, so we let him but when he starts misbehaving and trying to wiggle his hand free to and trying to run away, he goes back in the stroller. We try, omg do we try! to control it, but it doesn't always work and I would rather him unhappy and strapped in and SAFE then running off faster than I can run after him.

Anyway I judge myself for for being 4.5 months PP and in maternity pants today. Ugh. I hate it!

CrawltheWarriorKing · June 2013

FemShep:
I saw two little boys playing in a park the other day, probably 3 and 5. Both were sucking away on pacis. I judged the crap out of their parents.

That's ridiculous!

jlaOK · June 2013

I judge the parents who illegally park next to the covered awning at daycare when it is raining. We are all putting kids in and out of car seats and none of us want to get wet. You are no more entitled to a shorter walk in the rain than the rest of us.

litzo27 · June 2013

FemShep:
litzo27:
I seriously judge our business school dean and other heads who let the diva architect on our new building take full reign and dictate all the shots. We just visited the almost constructed building and a floor of 60 people has 2 unisex bathroom stalls? For real???? And the classrooms are all tombs which don't have windows (even though they are along the outside wall) and our administrative staff has to sit out in the open without even cubicles and .... oh there's tons more there.
Columbia?

No, but I hear they are having all kinds of fun with their projected expansion as well.

(unrelated but I realize my location still says NYC where i went to school and I can't change that... annoying).

MammaBear81 · June 2013

financialdiva:
JNL$LSM:
PrivacyWanted:
I judge friends who are still insisting their 3.5 yo ride in the stroller at all times. Poor guy is looking cramped and gets scolded if he whines to get out and walk. At a certain point you need to let the kid walk. DD has ridden in the stroller maybe 2x since she turned 2. So we go a little slower , but at least she's active
I saw this yesterday it look like the kid's knees were touching his chest. He look so uncomfortable UGH crazy.
Clearly neither of you have a runner! :] DS1 still likes to ride in the stroller, but sometimes he likes to walk, so we let him but when he starts misbehaving and trying to wiggle his hand free to and trying to run away, he goes back in the stroller. We try, omg do we try! to control it, but it doesn't always work and I would rather him unhappy and strapped in and SAFE then running off faster than I can run after him. Anyway I judge myself for for being 4.5 months PP and in maternity pants today. Ugh. I hate it!

I think there is a difference between having your child in the stroller all the time, and having it as a consequence for misbehaving (e.g. running away). At 3 1/2 they need to learn how to walk with you. I'm not saying every child will be perfect 100% of the time, but to not even give them the chance is unhealthy IMO.

BeckyTheEngineer · June 2013

I judge parents who use a neighborhood backyard party as an excuse to turn their toddlers loose and not supervise them at all while having a bunch of beers. Your kids are not well behaved, are trying to push my kids and take their toys, are climbing on rickety yard debris, and are putting all kinds of gross stuff in their mouths. I am not interested in parenting your kids for you.

aglenn · June 2013

michaelaskedlauren:
I judge myself for realizing JUST NOW that my 5 year anniversary is tomorrow. Ooops.

Today is my 9 year anniversary and DH and I BOTH forgot about it entirely until he was talking to his mom last weekend and she asked us what we were doing for our anniversary....and we looked at each other like, "oops."

Netty_3 · June 2013

PrivacyWanted:
MammaBear81:
financialdiva:
JNL$LSM:
PrivacyWanted:
I judge friends who are still insisting their 3.5 yo ride in the stroller at all times. Poor guy is looking cramped and gets scolded if he whines to get out and walk. At a certain point you need to let the kid walk. DD has ridden in the stroller maybe 2x since she turned 2. So we go a little slower , but at least she's active
I saw this yesterday it look like the kid's knees were touching his chest. He look so uncomfortable UGH crazy.
Clearly neither of you have a runner! :] DS1 still likes to ride in the stroller, but sometimes he likes to walk, so we let him but when he starts misbehaving and trying to wiggle his hand free to and trying to run away, he goes back in the stroller. We try, omg do we try! to control it, but it doesn't always work and I would rather him unhappy and strapped in and SAFE then running off faster than I can run after him. Anyway I judge myself for for being 4.5 months PP and in maternity pants today. Ugh. I hate it!
I think there is a difference between having your child in the stroller all the time, and having it as a consequence for misbehaving (e.g. running away). At 3 1/2 they need to learn how to walk with you. I'm not saying every child will be perfect 100% of the time, but to not even give them the chance is unhealthy IMO.
Yes exactly. If you use the stroller as a consequence of running that's different. Though at a certain age even that should go away...like if I saw you when your ds1 was like 8 still sitting in the stroller, my eyebrows would definitely be raised

I have seen this! Okay, maybe not 8...but probably 5 or 6.

I judge the parents at DC that let their kids run out to the parking lot.

financialdiva · June 2013

PrivacyWanted:
MammaBear81:
financialdiva:
JNL$LSM:
PrivacyWanted:
I judge friends who are still insisting their 3.5 yo ride in the stroller at all times. Poor guy is looking cramped and gets scolded if he whines to get out and walk. At a certain point you need to let the kid walk. DD has ridden in the stroller maybe 2x since she turned 2. So we go a little slower , but at least she's active

I saw this yesterday it look like the kid's knees were touching his chest. He look so uncomfortable UGH crazy.

Clearly neither of you have a runner! :] DS1 still likes to ride in the stroller, but sometimes he likes to walk, so we let him but when he starts misbehaving and trying to wiggle his hand free to and trying to run away, he goes back in the stroller. We try, omg do we try! to control it, but it doesn't always work and I would rather him unhappy and strapped in and SAFE then running off faster than I can run after him.

Anyway I judge myself for for being 4.5 months PP and in maternity pants today. Ugh. I hate it!
I think there is a difference between having your child in the stroller all the time, and having it as a consequence for misbehaving (e.g. running away).  At 3 1/2 they need to learn how to walk with you.  I'm not saying every child will be perfect 100% of the time, but to not even give them the chance is unhealthy IMO.

Yes exactly. If you use the stroller as a consequence of running that's different. Though at a certain age even that should go away...like if I saw you when your ds1 was like 8 still sitting in the stroller, my eyebrows would definitely be raised

Well hopefully he'll listen better when he is 8 but I am not making any promises ;]

swoop24 · June 2013

I judge the people that go to the gym and drive around and around the parking lot looking for a closer spot when there are literally dozens just a little further away. Seriously? You are at a gym - walk a little more.

gingerfamily · June 2013

christel811:
I judge the couple at drop off that allow their 4 year old daughter to come in the infant room and play with infant toys while they drop off their 2 year old.

So the 4 year old goes into a room where neither kid is? That's weird. Plus, why is the 4 year old touching the baby toys?

IBackBevo · June 2013

CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.

I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...

amidavey06 · June 2013

I judge my brother and SIL who use my mom as daycare for free and then complain all the time about it. Plus they don't have back-up care. So if my mom wants to take off a couple of days they are scrambling around trying to find someone.

jf198400 · June 2013

christel811:
gingerfamily:

christel811:
I judge the couple at drop off that allow their 4 year old daughter to come in the infant room and play with infant toys while they drop off their 2 year old.

So the 4 year old goes into a room where neither kid is? That's weird. Plus, why is the 4 year old touching the baby toys?

The 2 year old gets dropped in the infant room and goes to the 2 year old room at 8am.

I don't understand what the problem is then? When DS was in the baby room, DD came in with me (she was 2yrs) and there were other siblings that came in there too. Unless they are running around, putting the babies at risk of being trampled, I don't see an issue.

unm00red · June 2013

There are a couple of moms at my son's school that drive like bats out of hell in the school parking lot every morning. I get that you have a job to get to but slow the f--- down before you kill some poor child or parent.

It's bad enough that I've started deliberately showing up a good 10-15 minutes after school opens in the morning to avoid some of the worst offenders.

(I've asked the school administration to say something in the monthly newsletter more than once but, so far, nothing's been published. Grrr.)

unm00red · June 2013

IBackBevo:
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...

Actually, Dr. Wakefield is out of jail and living in Austin, Texas based on the last story I read. (not at all good news from my perspective)

IBackBevo · June 2013

unm00red:
IBackBevo:
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...
Actually, Dr. Wakefield is out of jail and living in Austin, Texas based on the last story I read. (not at all good news from my perspective)

Well, I guess I'm glad I don't live in Austin anymore. Actually, no I'm not. I would still like to live in Austin even if I had to share the city with him and Lance.

FemShep · June 2013

unm00red:
There are a couple of moms at my son's school that drive like bats out of hell in the school parking lot every morning. I get that you have a job to get to but slow the f--- down before you kill some poor child or parent.
It's bad enough that I've started deliberately showing up a good 10-15 minutes after school opens in the morning to avoid some of the worst offenders.
(I've asked the school administration to say something in the monthly newsletter more than once but, so far, nothing's been published. Grrr.)

Around 7 years ago, a 4yo was killed at one of the sister daycare facilities to DD's DC in PA. A parent pulled out in the DC parking lot, struck the child, and killed her. I can't imagine how tragic this was for everyone involved-and parents drove WAY more carefully after it happened. It's just a shame that it took something so terrible to make people realize that there are far worse things than being 5 minutes later to work.

unm00red · June 2013

jlaOK:
I judge the parents who illegally park next to the covered awning at daycare when it is raining. We are all putting kids in and out of car seats and none of us want to get wet. You are no more entitled to a shorter walk in the rain than the rest of us.

Yes

laurakaz13 · June 2013

IBackBevo:
CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...

I judge parents who use an alternate vaccine schedule b/c there is no scientific proof whatsoever that it does anything other than delay your child being protected against deadly, preventable diseases.

I think people don't vaccinate are complete and utter morons and should not be allowed to have children.

RoxyLynn · June 2013

I just found out a friend of mine uses a leash - and calls it that - on her 2.5 year-old. I am aghast and super-judgy.

MammaBear81 · June 2013

kbruington:
I think it's extremely lame to take pictures of yourself almost every single day and post them on Facebook. You just look pathetic, not pretty.

I can't stand this as well. I've "hidden" a few friends from my timeline because of this. I love you dear, but I don't need to see a picture of you EVERYDAY right after your work out.

Jenny952 · June 2013

laurakaz13:
IBackBevo:
CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...
I judge parents who use an alternate vaccine schedule b/c there is no scientific proof whatsoever that it does anything other than delay your child being protected against deadly, preventable diseases.
I think people don't vaccinate are complete and utter morons and should not be allowed to have children.

I did an alternative vax schedule for my DD. She had a pretty major surgery 2 weeks before her 1-year checkup (actually we had to reschedule her check up b/c surgery was an emergency), and I didn't feel comfortable doing all of her vax right after such a major surgery. Her pedi was 100% on board. Since Hep A and Measles weren't going around, we felt comfortable waiting on those. She'll be caught up by 2.5 instead of 2. That does not make me a bad parent or a compete and utter moron, as you described.

I am judgmental of parents who give their kids lots of processed and fast food. Those gerber puffs are fine to keep your kid quiet in church but aren't a wholesome source of nutrition. I also judge my brothers and SIL's who let their kids have nutrigrain bars and rice krispie treats and cheese-its on a regular basis. How about an apple?

laurakaz13 · June 2013

Jenny952:
laurakaz13:
IBackBevo:
CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...
I judge parents who use an alternate vaccine schedule b/c there is no scientific proof whatsoever that it does anything other than delay your child being protected against deadly, preventable diseases.
I think people don't vaccinate are complete and utter morons and should not be allowed to have children.
I did an alternative vax schedule for my DD. She had a pretty major surgery 2 weeks before her 1-year checkup (actually we had to reschedule her check up b/c surgery was an emergency), and I didn't feel comfortable doing all of her vax right after such a major surgery. Her pedi was 100% on board. Since Hep A and Measles weren't going around, we felt comfortable waiting on those. She'll be caught up by 2.5 instead of 2. That does not make me a bad parent or a compete and utter moron, as you described.
I am judgmental of parents who give their kids lots of processed and fast food. Those gerber puffs are fine to keep your kid quiet in church but aren't a wholesome source of nutrition. I also judge my brothers and SIL's who let their kids have nutrigrain bars and rice krispie treats and cheese-its on a regular basis. How about an apple?

You situation sounds a bit different, but you still had no need to be afraid to vaccinate your kid on time. "Not feeling comfortable" is not a scientific reason. Thankfully, you did end up vaccinating.

I judge myself for letting DD eat her dinner in front of the TV last night. I was so tired from a hellish day at work, DH is gone for work and she refused to get in her seat and just eat. Ugh.

itsmevkb · June 2013

LibraryChica:
RoxyLynn:
I just found out a friend of mine uses a leash and calls it that on her 2.5 yearold.nbsp; I am aghast and superjudgy.
I honestly don't get this. DD has a leash when she's with my mom because she is a runner and my mother has osteperosis in her back and can't always snatch her up like I can. I call it a leash because that is what it is. She likes it fine and is happy to be walking rather than in a cart. I don't understand why it is acceptable to shove toddlers in a stroller kicking and screaming because they bolt, but a leash is judge worthy?

I'm guessing it's because people use leashes for dogs.

Is it odd that I judge the opposite? I give the side eye to people who are pushing their dogs around in strollers!

Dukos · June 2013

My DD is 5th percentile for weight. And after getting violently ill after one of her dr visits where she got 4 vaccines at one time, I put her on an alternative schedule. Those dosages are based on the weight of the average 1 yr old (or whatever the age). At 1 yr, my DD weighed 17lbs. That is WAY less than average. Now she gets no more than 2 vaccines at one time and I just come into the office more. It works out much better. There's nothing irresponsible about not wanting your kid to get violently sick from too high dosages. Just pointing out, there are very valid reasons for the alternate schedule.

cecilyandgautam · June 2013

laurakaz13:
IBackBevo:
CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...
I judge parents who use an alternate vaccine schedule b/c there is no scientific proof whatsoever that it does anything other than delay your child being protected against deadly, preventable diseases.
I think people don't vaccinate are complete and utter morons and should not be allowed to have children.

I wasn't really interested in an alternative schedule, but my Dr proactively has suggested a few that weren't time sensitive, so let's do 2-3 today and hold off on the other two til the next visit. I'm totally pro-vaccine but I think your opposition to spacing vaccines out is a bit arbitrary. We have a schedule up on our fridge of the recommended timing for all the major vaccines from the CDC and most vaccines are recommended during a *range* of months, not just one single month at which it must be administered. Your specific Ped's office may have its own schedule, but the CDC schedule has quite a bit of flexibility built into it. So when to administer them within that range may depend based on what's going around in your area, how the disease is transmitted (intimate contact versus proximity), whether your kid has a rash/fever that day, etc.

And people who don't vaccine shouldn't have children? I know this is the judgment board, so you're supposed to get a free pass for stuff like this, but what about all the people without access to healthcare throughout the world?

laurakaz13 · June 2013

cecilyandgautam:
laurakaz13:
IBackBevo:
CrawltheWarriorKing:
I'm judging my cousin...He has a 1 month old which I haven't been able to visit yet, weekends are tough to get away since I don't want to take my kids over since he hasn't had his shots yet. Well, he said it's ok to bring them cause the baby won't be getting his shots until he's 2 years old.
I judge people who don't vaccinate their kids without a medical reason, too. Alternate schedule = fine. Not at all = not cool. You aren't just putting your kid at risk, you are putting my kid at risk, too. I wonder if they even realize the guy who originally came out with the "study" that vaccines caused Autism is now in jail for fraud for falsifying his results...
I judge parents who use an alternate vaccine schedule b/c there is no scientific proof whatsoever that it does anything other than delay your child being protected against deadly, preventable diseases.
I think people don't vaccinate are complete and utter morons and should not be allowed to have children.
I wasn't really interested in an alternative schedule, but my Dr proactively has suggested a few that weren't time sensitive, so let's do 2-3 today and hold off on the other two til the next visit. I'm totally pro-vaccine but I think your opposition to spacing vaccines out is a bit arbitrary. We have a schedule up on our fridge of the recommended timing for all the major vaccines from the CDC and most vaccines are recommended during a *range* of months, not just one single month at which it must be administered. Your specific Ped's office may have its own schedule, but the CDC schedule has quite a bit of flexibility built into it. So when to administer them within that range may depend based on what's going around in your area, how the disease is transmitted (intimate contact versus proximity), whether your kid has a rash/fever that day, etc.
And people who don't vaccine shouldn't have children? I know this is the judgment board, so you're supposed to get a free pass for stuff like this, but what about all the people without access to healthcare throughout the world?

I work as a medical officer in the military and have gone on medical missions all over the world. There is a huge difference between people who don't have access to healthcare, and those who have modern medicine at their fingertips and refuse to protect their children over irrational fears.

I can guarantee that any of the patients we've seen in the slums of Afghanistan, South and Central America and Southeast Asia would do anything to have access to lifesaving vaccines we have readily available in the United States. How can you even compare the two?

Mjmksb04 · June 2013

Eh, the stroller judging is a little eyeroll worthy. My DS is 4.5 and rarely rides in the stroller, but when we went to Chicago last month, it was a necessity, same goes for when we are on long day trips that require a lot of walking. He is also tall for his age, so it seems a little annoying that I should be worrying about others judging me for it. Hmm

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