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Absolutely terrified.

bKarlibKarli
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I really dont even know what to say or where to start, but I figured this would be a good place. I am 21, almost 22, and I just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant with my first child. I know who the father is. I just do not want to tell him. Long story short, he isnt commited to me.. and I dont think its in my best interest to keep him in my life.
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Re: Absolutely terrified.

  • CoIvieCoIvie member
    I think every guy has the right to know that he has a child, just because I don't think it's fair to him or the kid. Him knowing doesn't mean he has to be in the kids life but .. I think he still has the right to know .. He might not want to be with you, but he might want take care of a baby. Just my opinion.

    I'm the same age as you and BD is 22. I told him we have a kid on the way and haven't received a response yet.. But I just figure at least I told him.
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  • tracy41tracy41 member
    Unless he is a physical danger to you or LO I think he has a right to know you're pregnant with his kid. And your kid has a right to know who his or her father is. It's unfortunate that he's not a great guy but that's the breaks. Trust me, most of us on here have had kids with some not so great guys accidentally and on purpose. And like PP said, he may not be interested and not even respond. And if you're young and end up needing government support to get on your feet you're not going to have a choice. You're only 5 weeks, you don't have to have all the answers right now. Give yourself some time to get over the shock before you worry about it.
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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member

    Echoing what PPs have said, if he's not a danger to you or your LO, he has a right to know. That said, you're only 5 weeks. Give it some time, and give *yourself* some time to build up the courage and support around you for when you do decide to break the news.

    Sorry you're in that situation, though. It seriously sucks. I was "absolutely terrified" when I got my BFP, too. I feel you there. 

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  • inthelostinthelost member
    I agree with the others: provided he's not a physical threat to you or your LO he has a right to know. I did NOT want to tell my daughter's BD, but I eventually had to. I had to fully mentally prepare for what his response would be..and you should do that too. It's important to prepare yourself before you tell him though, for how he may respond all possible ways. and don't worry, at 5 weeks I was petrified. When I found out I was pregnant, I cried and cried on my bathroom floor (no sense in lying) but..it will be OK. and we're here to help.
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  • babymama619babymama619 member
    I totally agree with PPs. Unless you think you'd be in danger he does have a right to know and the child has that right too. But again, your pregnancy is early, so give yourself some time to adjust to the idea. Also, PLEASE don't make any major des visions right now like, I never blah blah blah or I won't let him blah blah blah. Seriously, take our advice and just let a little time pass before you do anything.
    Even though it's scary, congrats!

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