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Hard visit today...

jadeseajadesea
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Today we got to visit with "Our Boys" at a Child/Family/Team meeting and the siblings of our little guys were there as well.  One of their sisters is 6 and she broke my heart.  She kept saying she wanted to be with her brothers, and they were so good to her.

 It was hard for me to see her cry and know these 6 very close siblings will have to be split.  I wish I had a bigger home!

 I was also sad to see the oldest of our boys being a "parent" No 11 yr old boy should know how to braid hair the way he did.  The little girl has a speech issue and to see the boys calming her and helping her sound out her words and try and assist her was both heart warming and upsetting. I cried the entire drive home.

 Later I spoke with her SW and was told she was fine by the time they left the driveway.  I was glad to hear it because I'd rather my heart by hurt then there's any day!

 Thanks for always letting me share my feelings. 

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Re: Hard visit today...

  • irismorningirismorning member
    I completely understand what you are going through. Without getting into details, I had a very similar experience. It hurts and honestly, it still haunts me today (years later). I had to just tell myself that aspect was out of my control and I was doing what was best for my children. I had to leave the rest up to God to handle, because I could not.

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

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  • jadeseajadesea

    Well we are lucky in the fact that the people that want to adopt the little girl really want her to be close to the boys and live nearby.

     

    What will happen to the other 3 I'm unsure of. It's sad.

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I'm sorry, Jadesea.  That is sad.

    I see many of the same "parenting" qualities in M.  He used to take care of his mother, as best he could, and he still feels guilty for leaving her and not being there for her now.  He now takes care of J and any other little ones he comes across.  To some extent, it gives him comfort, so we don't completely discourage some of the little things he does, as long as it doesn't become his primary focus and both boys know and believe we are still the main parents/caregivers.

    I'm sorry that you can't keep them together.  That must be heartbreaking.  I pray that they will be able to at least stay in a semi-open relationship and to find one another when they are older, if a closer relationship cannot be maintained throughout their youth.

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