He Told the EVIL (almost) Ex-wife That We're Expecting!

Catzenfox · June 2013

I did the dummy! I began a relationship with a man whose wife left him 24 months prior (for another woman, then another man, etc..) prior to seeing the ink on the FINAL divorce decree. Before moving back to our home state, he filed for divorce, which I HAD seen. Since they have two children together, she has held the divorce process lingering for over a year now.

Since HE HAD THE NERVE TO TELL THE EX THAT WE ARE EXPECTING, EVEN AFTER ASKING HIM NOT TO, she is trying to create all types of reasons why we should not share in custody of their children, hence delaying the divorce. She even told the courts that I picked up and shook her 165lb and 120lb children! She had no idea that I am a child advocate, with FBI background clearances...and give my life to protect children alllllll day! With our wedding now post phoned and a new baby on the way, what am I to do with this mess!

We love one another, he is very supportive and active in my pregnancy, although I dont want him giving her blow-by-blow details of my body or our shared life! With a very difficult pregnancy, I dont need anymore of her hate and adversity. She is no longer his best friend and I cant seem to get it through his head. Help!

SimpleJane · June 2013

Okay, that was a lot of CAPS and !!!!!!!, but what I'm hearing is you are mad at your future H/BF because his STBXW is being a crazy B and he is still being buddy buddy with her and sharing news of your personal life and pregnancy with her? He's still acting as though they are 'best friends' and telling her things about you that you've asked him to keep quiet?

You've got a FH/BD problem. My advice is not to marry a man who isn't yet putting your needs and feelings above his STBXWs.

Pamelacake · June 2013

SimpleJane:
Okay, that was a lot of CAPS and !!!!!!!, but what I'm hearing is you are mad at your future H/BF because his STBXW is being a crazy B and he is still being buddy buddy with her and sharing news of your personal life and pregnancy with her? He's still acting as though they are 'best friends' and telling her things about you that you've asked him to keep quiet? You've got a FH/BD problem. My advice is not to marry a man who isn't yet putting your needs and feelings above his STBXWs.

I agree! and why would he do that knowing she could make it harder... he didn't leave her, she left him.. maybe he's not over that =( Do you think he told her to be like haha gotcha back now we can be friends again?

Catzenfox · June 2013

You have an awesome point...and you are painfully right. That is the largest reason why I post phoned the marriage. I AM having second thoughts because I dont want to be the second wheel. They had gotten back together and the second time, he left.

She is several hundred years his senior and really diminished his self worth. She moved him to a state where he had no friends or family and alienated him from his mother, father, sisters, etc. I feel as though, Im building him up from nothing. I did not realize that she had such control over him.

To his credit, he has vastly improved. We still have a long way to go.

Pamelacake · June 2013

I hope he gets out from under her spell for your and your child's sake but if you can't handle this then you may be in over your head with dealing with her as BM when things are settled between them. It sound like x will try to make everything difficult in any way she can! GL

xmaryrickx · June 2013

Overdramatic much? I think you are not looking at the big picture here. They have kids together. He should have told her so she is aware before the kids tell her. She would find out eventually. How does this make them BFFs? They will always need to communicate, they have kids. If you can't accept this you do need to move on.

Littlejen22 · June 2013

If he is acting like she is still his BFF you have major problems. I also find it weird that anyone with FBI clearance would announce that on a website so either this MUD or part of it is fake or you are not very smart and giving away too much info online.

Littlejen22 · June 2013

Catzenfox:
You have an awesome point...and you are painfully right. That is the largest reason why I post phoned the marriage. I AM having second thoughts because I dont want to be the second wheel. They had gotten back together and the second time, he left.nbsp;She is several hundred years his senior and really diminished nbsp;his self worth. She moved him to a state where he had no friends or family and alienated him from his mother, father, sisters, etc. I feel as though, Im building him up from nothing. I did not realize that she had such control over him.nbsp;To his credit, he has vastly improved. We still have a long way to go. nbsp;

You did not postpone the marriage because of this issue. You postponed the marriage because he IS ALREADY MARRIED. She does not have control over him. He chooses to turn to her with intimate details you have asked him to keep to himself.

fellesferie · June 2013

What I'm getting from this is that he lied to you about the status of his marriage?

MrsHetzel · June 2013

Littlejen22:
Catzenfox:
You have an awesome point...and you are painfully right. That is the largest reason why I post phoned the marriage. I AM having second thoughts because I dont want to be the second wheel. They had gotten back together and the second time, he left.nbsp;She is several hundred years his senior and really diminished nbsp;his self worth. She moved him to a state where he had no friends or family and alienated him from his mother, father, sisters, etc. I feel as though, Im building him up from nothing. I did not realize that she had such control over him.nbsp;To his credit, he has vastly improved. We still have a long way to go. nbsp;

You did not postpone the marriage because of this issue. You postponed the marriage because he IS ALREADY MARRIED. She does not have control over him. He chooses to turn to her with intimate details you have asked him to keep to himself.

He is already married. I literally just laughed out loud and had to explain this post to my husband. I think this is MUD.

Catzenfox · June 2013

xmaryrickx:
Overdramatic much? I think you are not looking at the big picture here. They have kids together. He should have told her so she is aware before the kids tell her. She would find out eventually. How does this make them BFFs? They will always need to communicate, they have kids. If you can't accept this you do need to move on.

There is so much more to this than I would ever be able to write in one life time, maryrick. My point in asking him not to share that information with her is that it is way too early in the pregnancy to share it...and the kids would not know prior to her-they are in another state. I believe communication is vital and inevitable between them, although communication about our private life is in no way necessary. All the same, thanks for your opinion.

Catzenfox · June 2013

Littlejen22:
If he is acting like she is still his BFF you have major problems. I also find it weird that anyone with FBI clearance would announce that on a website so either this MUD or part of it is fake or you are not very smart and giving away too much info online.

Having FBI background clearance to advocate for children is hardly too much information. I do not work for the FBI...and it something I am quite proud of. As a person who works very hard to keep children safe from A-holeian, abusive parents, why would I keep that under wraps. This is a website for parents to support and give honest opinions where requested. While I appreciate YOUR personal honesty, I can understand that your are probably young, inexperienced, and mean...all of the components of an EVIL Ex-wife in the making. Sad.

BTW, the reason I post phoned our wedding in not because he is already married. A divorce can be had in our state within 30 days or less...and our wedding date is scheduled for next year. As I stated, the reason I post phoned our wedding is so that we can reevaluate our situation together.

I hope you learn to be less cynical and more supportive. All the same, thanks for your candid thoughts littlejen22.

Catzenfox · June 2013

fellesferie:
What I'm getting from this is that he lied to you about the status of his marriage?

He did not lie that he was in a divorce, he was just not forthcoming about the details of the length of time it COULD take should she make it a difficult. My lesson in this: Make sure the papers are FINAL before beginning an intimate relationship. Thanks for your reply fellesferie.

Catzenfox · June 2013

tifanico:
Catzenfox:
You have an awesome point...and you are painfully right. That is the largest reason why I post phoned the marriage. I AM having second thoughts because I dont want to be the second wheel. They had gotten back together and the second time, he left.
She is several hundred years his senior and really diminished his self worth. She moved him to a state where he had no friends or family and alienated him from his mother, father, sisters, etc. I feel as though, Im building him up from nothing. I did not realize that she had such control over him.
To his credit, he has vastly improved. We still have a long way to go.
It seems like she has super powers, she made him do all that without his consent?

No, he is just a bit dumb...as was I for believing that would magically change with promises and distance.

Catzenfox · June 2013

MrsHetzel:
Littlejen22:
Catzenfox:
You have an awesome point...and you are painfully right. That is the largest reason why I post phoned the marriage. I AM having second thoughts because I dont want to be the second wheel. They had gotten back together and the second time, he left.nbsp;She is several hundred years his senior and really diminished nbsp;his self worth. She moved him to a state where he had no friends or family and alienated him from his mother, father, sisters, etc. I feel as though, Im building him up from nothing. I did not realize that she had such control over him.nbsp;To his credit, he has vastly improved. We still have a long way to go. nbsp;
You did not postpone the marriage because of this issue. You postponed the marriage because he IS ALREADY MARRIED. She does not have control over him. He chooses to turn to her with intimate details you have asked him to keep to himself.
He is already married. I literally just laughed out loud and had to explain this post to my husband. I think this is MUD.

I now am laughing too MrsHetzel. With two years apart, an impending divorce, and separate living arrangements, I did not stop to believe that loving someone in that situation was so taboo. Alas, I was wrong. Once again, thinking that this forum was one of mature women with true advice and wisdom, here I am, wrong again. All the same, enjoy laughing at my truth and pain. Perhaps I should open a comedy skit and charge admission. Thank you all the same for your opinion.

Littlejen22 · June 2013

Catzenfox:
Littlejen22:
If he is acting like she is still his BFF you have major problems. I also find it weird that anyone with FBI clearance would announce that on a website so either this MUD or part of it is fake or you are not very smart and giving away too much info online.

Having FBI background clearance to advocate for children is hardly too much information. I do not work for the FBI...and it something I am quite proud of. As a person who works very hard to keep children safe from A-holeian, abusive parents, why would I keep that under wraps. This is a website for parents to support and give honest opinions where requested. While I appreciate YOUR personal honesty, I can understand that your are probably young, inexperienced, and mean...all of the components of an EVIL Ex-wife in the making. Sad.
BTW, the reason I post phoned our wedding in not because he is already married. A divorce can be had in our state within 30 days or less...and our wedding date is scheduled for next year. As I stated, the reason I post phoned our wedding is so that we can reevaluate our situation together.
I hope you learn to be less cynical and more supportive. All the same, thanks for your candid thoughts littlejen22.

Hahaha, I wish I was young and inexperienced. I am definitely not young, raised my now adult SD for 6 plus years and have been married just shy of 9 years and it my only marriage. Actually if you saw how embarrassingly long I was on here by looking under my name you would see that I was none of those things.

I still do not know anyone that likes to run around telling total strangers their security clearance. Also, people that have security clearance are usually very concerned about false accusations because it can jeopardize their clearance and is not something to be laughed at.

If a divorce can be had within 30 days in your state, why is he not divorced? You have been with him for long enough to get pregnant so I am assuming this is more than 30 days, right?

ETA: I realize that the answer to why he is not divorced is likely because she is dragging it out but you stated the 30 days as your reason that the lack of divorce has no bearing on when you get married. If the date is already set at a year and a half away then you do not need to postpone it to either resolve issues or call it off, you need to just figure out what you are willing to deal with or actually decide not to proceed and that is not sarcasm.

Also, you made a comment about thinking time and distance would make things better (me paraphrasing), did he move away from his ex and their child before you or because of you? What is he visitation like and do you know the child?

Catzenfox · June 2013

Ahhhhh...sincerely, pardon me littlejen22. It was your comments that led me to believe you were so young and inexperienced. I had not did my research on ya. I, like you, am using a pen name, so why not tell the world about simple little old clearance. The FBI is not that scary. No way in harms reach for me. Besides, I know the law so well...I can thank my civil education for that one. I did take time to read your last message board post and can see why you may have answered in such a crass way to my experience. My best to your situation.

A little story for you, I was married for over 17 years in my first marriage. I could give marriage advice in my sleep. At the end, it was so quick and painless to divorce a man that moved across the ocean that it made my head spin. I also have an wonderful productive adult daughter.

My current partner had began the divorce process prior to leaving the state and prior to our relationship. Parenting classes were a must, along with written consent to terminate the marriage by both parties and so on. I flew to his former state with the sole intent to meet his children and their mother, to give her my assurance that her children could visit anytime and would be well cared for. I spent a week there visiting with her, her new beau, the children and my partner. all was stellar. He then left the state with the understanding that his divorce would be final within a month or two. He moved back to our state to comfort his mother after the death of his father and to start over after his wife's affairs became a public humiliation for him. In the Divorce decree, they were each to pay for a child's RT tix and they would visit every other holiday/school break.

Fast forward their kids trip to our home, plenty of home cooked meals, fun outings, karate kicks, encouragements, art projects, and sad tears goodbye later...and insert a woman jealous about the kids going on and on about their "awesome" journey here. That's when the Xhit really hit the fan. She convinced her impressionable children that it was me who caused dad to leave, not her adultery and drug missteps.If I were a kid, I'd want to believe mom too...so I dont blame them any. Add insult to injury, Jen...he succeeded in beating birth control and getting me pregnant. Can you say "The XXX was pissed!"

I have stayed out of their dreaded D as long as I could...until all the drama that came after him letting the baby out of the bag. I looked up the minute entries to their court proceedings (public knowledge) and found all the dirty things he was not privy to via her controlled mailings to him. Again, thanks civil education. He could not believe it all. That's when he started to see her for what she really has proven herself to be...EVIL. I have redeeming things to say about everyone, usually. However, I could not find one that made any sense to repeat.

Now that he is a permanent resident of our state, AND the ex's current state has stricken the entire divorce motion, he can now file in our state for a divorce. Of course, he will seek custody of his children, shared or sole, and I will support him. I am just not sure that our getting married so soon after all of this Xhit storm is such a grand idea. I called it off because we all need to "proceed with caution" on this one. You are correct about one thing for sure... (I) "need to just figure out what (I am) willing to deal with or actually decide not to proceed".

You are always welcome to comment as you like, just try and remember that somehow, we are all in somewhat of the same struggle with blended families. This isn't exactly therapy, though it is a forum of support. look to hear your honest opinions respectfully, always, and often.

MrsBPO · June 2013

postPONED. per Merriam-Webster.com : to put off to a later time

Post PHONED, per Urban Dictionary: A meeting or event that you're planning to attend but which is cancelled at the last minute by cellphone.

Broseph: "Hey, aren't you supposed to be meeting Jane for coffee now?"
Me: "Yeah, I was supposed to but she postphoned."

SimpleJane · June 2013

MrsBPO:
postPONED.nbsp; per MerriamWebster.comnbsp;:nbsp; to put off to a later timenbsp;Post PHONED, per Urban Dictionary:nbsp; A meeting or event that you're planning to attend but which is cancelled at the last minute by cellphone.Broseph: "Hey, aren't you supposed to be meeting Jane for coffee now?" Me: "Yeah, I was supposed to but she postphoned."nbsp;;

THANK you! That was driving me flucking crazy!

Hopeforthebest · June 2013

SimpleJane:
MrsBPO:
postPONED.nbsp; per MerriamWebster.comnbsp;:nbsp; to put off to a later timenbsp;Post PHONED, per Urban Dictionary:nbsp; A meeting or event that you're planning to attend but which is cancelled at the last minute by cellphone.Broseph: "Hey, aren't you supposed to be meeting Jane for coffee now?" Me: "Yeah, I was supposed to but she postphoned."nbsp;;
THANK you! That was driving me flucking crazy!

OMG not to be a grammer Nazi but when someone is espousing their FBI clearance and civil education I was having seizures about postPHoning things. THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!

fellesferie · June 2013

I will say that divorces don't always go as you think they will. Mine certainly didn't. My attorney said that my divorce should be final about six weeks from the day we first filed. She didn't anticipate that XH would drag it out for years to avoid paying CS.

So, look, you cannot do anything about the fact that she knows about your pregnancy. You can't control how she responds.

But I think you're doing the right thing by postponing your wedding. You feel right now that he has been, as you say, less than forthcoming about some things. I think you should consider the fact that there may be some more details about his history he has been less than forthcoming about. There might be more going on with this woman--his wife--that contributes to her acting this way.

Because if XH were to tell the tale of our divorce, I can easily imagine certain things he would leave out. Like he probably does not advertise to his friends and his girlfriend that he intentionally destroyed my credit. He probably does not volunteer that he had an affair.

The fact that he went against your wishes about this pregnancy is a problem, but I think it is more of a symptom of an underlying issue.

MrsHetzel · June 2013

Catzenfox:
I could give marriage advice in my sleep. ;

Maybe if you could give divorce advice in your sleep, you wouldn't be in this predicament.

SunshineMuffin · June 2013

piffle42:
Hopeforthebest:
SimpleJane:
MrsBPO:
postPONED. per MerriamWebster.com: to put off to a later time Post PHONED, per Urban Dictionary: A meeting or event that you're planning to attend but which is cancelled at the last minute by cellphone.
Broseph: "Hey, aren't you supposed to be meeting Jane for coffee now?" Me: "Yeah, I was supposed to but she postphoned."

THANK you! That was driving me flucking crazy!
OMG not to be a grammer Nazi but when someone is espousing their FBI clearance and civil education I was having seizures about postPHoning things. THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!

OMG yes!

And I'm thinking maybe a background check through the FBI rather than any clearances. I had to have an FBI background check to serve on the PTA at DS school. Way different than any type of clearance.

1. The postponed thing was driving me absolutely batty. 2. As stated above, a background check ordered by an employer is completely different from security clearance. My position required a federal background check. I don't have that confused with security clearance 3. I don't believe one word of what OP has posted. I'll be sure to put on my rainboots when I read further posts so as not to get mud on my feet.

Catzenfox · June 2013

Thank you grammAr Nazis. I appreciate you both...even the grammer Nazi. It's good to know that you are human and make mistakes too!

Catzenfox · June 2013

MrsBPO:
postPONED. per Merriam-Webster.com : to put off to a later time

Post PHONED, per Urban Dictionary: A meeting or event that you're planning to attend but which is cancelled at the last minute by cellphone.
Broseph: "Hey, aren't you supposed to be meeting Jane for coffee now?"
Me: "Yeah, I was supposed to but she postphoned."

Thanks MrsBPO... suppose I am indeed an Urbanite and Iiiii did cancel via cellphone. I could never be offended by good research and direct quotes! Haaahaaa! One always needs a good chuckle at oneself. Although you missed the opportunity to discuss the "big picture" as so many of the "bored, not board" members have, I appreciate your welcome humor! Have a great one!

Catzenfox · June 2013

I am learning so much more about the critical, "mean girl" nature of the Blended Families forum. It makes me both sad to see what our children have to look forward to. I no longer wonder why some of these kids rebel and act out in such harsh ways. I am witnessing it first hand...and I thank you sincerely for that.

Living in an anti-witch bubble, I have missed much of the opportunity for such a culture shock of some of you members. When a woman puts herself out there in few paragraphs, it opens her up for attack by wolves. The silver lining is that it also opens her up to true wisdom and protection of the sheep flock. So while I see a lot of bullying wolves, I am also embracing the sheep...full of brutal honesty, mother's wisdom, compassionate words, humor, sarcasm, wit, and good advice...even those who are wearing the wolf's cloak.

Always respectful and receptive, I am taking it all in...the good, the bad, and the ugly of it all. I want to thank the "other EVIL ex" for your pulse of oxygen...GREAT WORDS! Thanks for letting me see it through your perspective. It helps a bunch! GL to you in your blended family situation as well.

karirlaw · June 2013

Catzenfox:
Littlejen22:
If he is acting like she is still his BFF you have major problems. I also find it weird that anyone with FBI clearance would announce that on a website so either this MUD or part of it is fake or you are not very smart and giving away too much info online.
Having FBI background clearance to advocate for children is hardly too much information. I do not work for the FBI...and it something I am quite proud of. As a person who works very hard to keep children safe from A-holeian, abusive parents, why would I keep that under wraps. This is a website for parents to support and give honest opinions where requested. While I appreciate YOUR personal honesty, I can understand that your are probably young, inexperienced, and mean...all of the components of an EVIL Ex-wife in the making. Sad.
BTW, the reason I post phoned our wedding in not because he is already married. A divorce can be had in our state within 30 days or less...and our wedding date is scheduled for next year. As I stated, the reason I post phoned our wedding is so that we can reevaluate our situation together.
I hope you learn to be less cynical and more supportive. All the same, thanks for your candid thoughts littlejen22.

I swear, if i read "post phoned" one more time...................

dmndsr4eva · June 2013

xmaryrickx:
Overdramatic much? I think you are not looking at the big picture here. They have kids together. He should have told her so she is aware before the kids tell her. She would find out eventually. How does this make them BFFs? They will always need to communicate, they have kids. If you can't accept this you do need to move on.

This. You need to make sure that your DH has a lawyer who will ensure those papers get filed ASAP. He needs that divorce like yesterday. You need to grow up and realize that his ex will always be in his life because of the two kids. They derserve two parents who can co parent and get along for their sake. There is no reason why he cannot communicate with her for the sake of their kids. Don't make this situation worse for the kids by being that WOMAN. My ex is not allowed to speak to me at all. I have not spoken to him via email or text or phone or in person in months and we have a three year old. I believe the main reason he doesn't communicate with me is because he GF is insecure and jealous and will not allow him to communicate with me. It is going to be a long 17 years if this is the way it is going to be. Don't make the same mistake.

dmndsr4eva · June 2013

fellesferie:
But I think you're doing the right thing by postponing your wedding. You feel right now that he has been, as you say, less than forthcoming about some things. I think you should consider the fact that there may be some more details about his history he has been less than forthcoming about. There might be more going on with this woman--his wife--that contributes to her acting this way.
Because if XH were to tell the tale of our divorce, I can easily imagine certain things he would leave out. Like he probably does not advertise to his friends and his girlfriend that he intentionally destroyed my credit. He probably does not volunteer that he had an affair.

This. Of course he is going to say she is the Evil one who ruined everything. Duh. That is the way it goes in break ups or divorce. You need to realize that there are two sides to a story and your SO is not blameless. There are most likely things he did during the relationship that he is not sharing with you.

mom2one · June 2013

Her husband is expecting a baby with someone else? I'd say she has the right to know!

CFjo2010 · June 2013

Littlejen22:
I realize that the answer to why he is not divorced is likely because she is dragging it out but you stated the 30 days as your reason that the lack of divorce has no bearing on when you get married. If the date is already set at a year and a half away then you do not need to postpone it to either resolve issues or call it off, you need to just figure out what you are willing to deal with or actually decide not to proceed and that is not sarcasm.

In most States you can get a divorce finalized and still be hashing out custody and visitation and finances. It's called a bifurcation. States do this so that parties can't drag out contentious divorce proceedings.

Sounds to me like OP's boyfriend/partner/fiance/whatever-the-heck-he-is isn't in too much of a rush to get the divorce finalized (and therefore be able to marry OP). And that to me is a reason to raise an eyebrow.

CFjo2010 · June 2013

MrsHetzel:
Catzenfox:
I could give marriage advice in my sleep. ;
Maybe if you could give divorce advice in your sleep, you wouldn't be in this predicament.

Red Bull just got spit all over my keyboard.

MrsHetzel for the win.

Hopeforthebest · June 2013

Catzenfox:
Thank you grammAr Nazis. I appreciate you both...even the grammer Nazi. It's good to know that you are human and make mistakes too!

Ha Ha touche'

Regarding your assertions that "the previous state has stricken the divorce motion and he can now file in your state". WHAT?

The children and the home he shared as a married man are where she is correct? He has moved out of state. Correct?

Does he already have a lawyer? I ask because DH had MAJOR jurisdictional issues with his divorce that SERIOUSLY impacted the amount of time it took for him to not only have contact with his children again but for the divorce to be complete.

You certainly have a mess on your hands.He has complicated it with adding the information (not that she shouldn't know but it is about timing) of your pregnancy. If there is any emotion left in their marriage, that is fuel he added to a tinder box and good luck getting a 30 day divorce in that case.

MrsHetzel · June 2013

jobalchak:
MrsHetzel:
Catzenfox:
I could give marriage advice in my sleep. ;

Maybe if you could give divorce advice in your sleep, you wouldn't be in this predicament.
Red Bull just got spit all over my keyboard.
MrsHetzel for the win. 

I'm so jealous!!!! I used to live by my red bull!! I gave it up a few months before I got pregnant bc the caffeine was contributing to my already sky high anxiety. Ahh I miss the smell of it!

CFjo2010 · June 2013

MrsHetzel:
jobalchak:
MrsHetzel:
Catzenfox:
I could give marriage advice in my sleep. ;
Maybe if you could give divorce advice in your sleep, you wouldn't be in this predicament.
Red Bull just got spit all over my keyboard.
MrsHetzel for the win.
I'm so jealous!!!! I used to live by my red bull!! I gave it up a few months before I got pregnant bc the caffeine was contributing to my already sky high anxiety. Ahh I miss the smell of it!

I only just started drinking it again (in moderation) because at this point in the school year with 4 kids, I'm literally being held together with duct tape, bubble gum, caffeine and Crossfit...

MrsHetzel · June 2013

jobalchak:
MrsHetzel:
jobalchak:
MrsHetzel:
Catzenfox:
I could give marriage advice in my sleep. ;

Maybe if you could give divorce advice in your sleep, you wouldn't be in this predicament.
Red Bull just got spit all over my keyboard.
MrsHetzel for the win. 

I'm so jealous!!!! I used to live by my red bull!! I gave it up a few months before I got pregnant bc the caffeine was contributing to my already sky high anxiety. Ahh I miss the smell of it!
I only just started drinking it again (in moderation) because at this point in the school year with 4 kids, I'm literally being held together with duct tape, bubble gum, caffeine and Crossfit... 

I hope you have Justin Bieber duct tape. It's a big hit with my SD.

Alohalove · June 2013

You sure you want to marry this guy? You think it's bad now, what is it going to be like after you have your baby and he's still turning to his "best friend"?

You asked him not to tell her that you are pregnant and he did. He chose his soon-to-be-ex-wife over you. He chose her, NOT you.

I would be canceling the wedding about now.

dmndsr4eva · June 2013

mom2one:
Her husband is expecting a baby with someone else? I'd say she has the right to know!

LOL.

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