Do I Let Him?

schumakr · June 2013

The question is: Do I let my husband take dd to the lake by himself this weekend?

I normally go but my sister is coming up and I would like to see her, but my bil is going to be at the cabin and we never get to see he and his wife either.

I would love the weekend "off", but it makes me nervous to let h take her all weekend. I also think it's a waste of my stash.

So, do I let daddy take baby for the weekend?? Has anyone done this yet?

FWIW if I stay then my sister and I are going to go see Sugar Ray at a local festival. Who knew they were still a thing?!! Hope Mark McGrath is still as good looking as he was back then!

LittleFish1 · June 2013

So, can you and sister also go to the cabin?

If not, you'll have to decide between the stash of BM and Sugar Ray plus sister.

My longest strech away from LO was probably today, from 7am till a bit before 1 pm due to a temporary, two day long change in my work schedule.

kjsmith9 · June 2013

My only concern with letting DH have DD alone for a few days would be the fact that he often doesn't hear her crying at night. Maybe he would subconsciously know I wasn't there, and would hear her if they were by themselves... but it makes me nervous. I definitely don't consider myself to be a crazy mama bear over-protective type, but I don't feel like I'm ready for DD to be away from me at night. We're moving back to the midwest this summer, and MIL keeps talking about how she's going to take DD for a weekend or during a week when she's off of work... and I cringe at the fact that this is probably going to turn into an argument at some point. I know it's her grandma, but there's no way she's sleeping anywhere else for awhile. Yes I would love to have a night off once in awhile, but I wouldn't sleep well - I'd just be laying awake in bed wondering if she was okay!

I guess it wouldn't really "waste" your stash... You'd be pumping a lot when she was away, so it would all be replaced, right?

SingleMom31 · June 2013

Or let DH go, and keep baby with you and your sister?

schumakr · June 2013

kjsmith9:
My only concern with letting DH have DD alone for a few days would be the fact that he often doesn't hear her crying at night. Maybe he would subconsciously know I wasn't there, and would hear her if they were by themselves... but it makes me nervous. I definitely don't consider myself to be a crazy mama bear over-protective type, but I don't feel like I'm ready for DD to be away from me at night. We're moving back to the midwest this summer, and MIL keeps talking about how she's going to take DD for a weekend or during a week when she's off of work... and I cringe at the fact that this is probably going to turn into an argument at some point. I know it's her grandma, but there's no way she's sleeping anywhere else for awhile. Yes I would love to have a night off once in awhile, but I wouldn't sleep well - I'd just be laying awake in bed wondering if she was okay!
I guess it wouldn't really "waste" your stash... You'd be pumping a lot when she was away, so it would all be replaced, right?

My h never wakes by himself when she cries. Never thought of that, but glad to know others feel like I do about the idea of letting dd go away for 2 days.

True, I would be pumping the entire time, so it there really wouldnt be a waste.

rjeller32 · June 2013

I would let him! I let DH take DD1 + 2 for the weekend so I could celebrate one last night with my friend before she left for basics, and as nervous as I was, it was great for all. I got a break to be an adult again, and be with friends, and DH got bonding time with the girls.

If you don't plan on drinking or anything, you can build your stash back up no problem. If you are, well, it happens.

Plus, Sugar Ray? That would just take me back haha. We have Vanilla Ice coming to a local festival here (as well as Pauly D and Carly Rae Jepson), and I was considering going for some Ice Ice Baby throw backs.

nadiag7 · June 2013

I'm defiantly not ready to let anyone take my DS. Longest I've been away from him yet is 4 hours. I figure if I'm going to be stressed/worried/missing him the whole time, then a fun night away quickly turns sour & I would probably turn into a boring Betty. But if not then take the offer! Plus, just think that's what you pump your milk for anyways. As long as you think it's worth it.