Conceiving

SleepingBeauty79 · June 2013

Hello ladies,

Please tell me how long it look you to conceive if you conceived naturally. Thank you :-)

shelley1002 · June 2013

At 34, I conceived naturally after 5 months. DS is not 21 months.

At 36, I conceived naturally after 3 months, had a miscarriage a week after getting a BFP, then conceived again naturally 2-3 months later. That baby boy is due in October (just after I turn 37).

I did not temp or chart. We decided to just let nature take its course and let it happen when it happened.

ELF4321 · June 2013

We started when I was 35. After a year, I got pg but miscarried. It took another year after that to get pg with my daughter.

ETA: And that was in spite of temping/charting my cycles the whole time, but I have infertility issues, so you really have no idea how long it will take until you try.

mwd · June 2013

First was conceived after 3 months trying at 38. #2 was conceived after 6 months of trying, BFP shortly after 41st bday. Good luck!

calfitgirl · June 2013

Well first off I had been on birth control my entire adult life. Nobody told me you should stop the pill months before you try to conceive. I wish I would have known. My dr had told me to stop that plus other medications I was on and my body went into total shock. I gained 15 lbs in a month in spite of my diet and exercise hormones went nuts I think I conceived and miscarried right away but that's what my body says. I was told to go back on bc for 2 months to regulate then off. The first month off I got pregnant. I just turned 35 two weeks ago and I'm 9 weeks pregnant. They say those odds are really slim soi feel so lucky. I did chart and I took ovulation kits to test. I'm such a planner and too old to let nature run a course on me. I don't feel I have that luxury. This is my first pregnancy but I was told it can take a good year so not to stress. Oh yeah and I prayed al

NewMrs07 · June 2013

Took us a full year of charting, using OPKs, etc. I was 38 so DH and me got tested for fertility issues after 6 months TTC. No issues except slightly low progesterone, which I corrected by using natural progesterone cream after O. I got pregnant naturally after a year TTC and 2 months after the HSG test, which can help by "flushing out" your tubes. Had a full term healthy pregnancy and delivered our son when I was 39. We haven't used birth control since then but here I am, almost 43 and no luck for #2. I should probably go straight to IVF but I can't work up the courage! I guess I'm foolishly hoping for another miracle. Good luck

NicoleWI · June 2013

We have been very lucky. 2 months at 33, 2 months at 35, 1 month at 37. I know this is not the norm but adding my info to say it can happen quickly.

MT-Head · June 2013

We were very luck, too. Two months at 35 (conceived a few days before my 36th birthday) and one month at 38. I used ovulation test strips to make sure we were having sex on the right day, but nothing more than that.

Ilumine · June 2013

I married at 35. I went off the pill before we got married so we could TTTC before DH had to deploy (6 months) and then maybe attempt during his RnR. We went at it like bunnies, but I did not chart.

Given that I had accidentally become pregnant while on the pill (I could only take the lowest dosage so I was anal retentive about taking my pill at the same time every day, I never used the sugar pill due to other medical issues and I was not on an antibiotic), I was surprised that nothing happened then.

So when DH came back from deployment, I charted. AND I went in for a checkup. I ended up with a hysterosalpangrogram (ouchie). Both fallopian tubes were blocked from an infection. The procedure actually cleared me out.

The procedure was the first week of March and I got pregnant the first week of April.

Ilumine · June 2013

I turned 37 at the end of April.

Sunidaze · June 2013

My daughter will be 2 next week. I conceived naturally - went off birth control February of that year, pregnant in September. I was another that just let nature take it's course. That is how we approached the whole thing...I was getting up there in age, as was DH...figured may as well not get the BCPs refilled that month and whatever happened, happened. I was 38 when I had her.

newenglander71 · June 2013

A month shy of 41, I conceived during my first cycle.

anchiba · June 2013

We were trying for a year with no success, so our GP ordered a semen analysis for my husband. I had multiple health issues (diabetes, hypothyroidism) and only one ovary. Husband's SA came back terrible, with 0% morphology or totally abnormal sperm. The SA was done at our hospital's fertility clinic and the doctor there told us, "in cases like yours we usually recommend donor sperm" ... but we might have a slight chance if we did IVF. There was no way either of us would even consider a sperm donor, and we had no money for fertility treatments so we decided to try acupuncture, and the acu doctor (who specialized in fertility issues) also told us that it would be unethical for him not to recommend IVF for us because in his experience that was probably the only chance we'd have for a child.

We were devastated and I realized that we may have to give up the dream of having a child of our own. I think it hit my husband a lot harder than me, because I'd been hearing "You'll probably never get pregnant" from different doctors ever since my ovary was removed back in the '80s. I always thought I'd adopt a child if I couldn't have one, so that's what I wanted to do. But my husband wasn't really into that.

So basically I gave up on being a mother. I was 38 at the time and my husband was 50, and we'd been trying for almost two years. The fertility clinic must have been really excited to see our case, because they were calling me at work every single day to schedule an appointment. That really sucked. I wanted to scream into the phone, "Don't you think we'd be there yesterday if we could afford it?!!!"

Weirdly enough, it was my obgyn who was really optimistic and told me to not stress out so much. Usually I hated hearing the "just relax" talk, but she was very encouraging and sweet about it, and that made me feel better. But I told her I knew we'd never have kids.

So when my period got over two weeks late in 2010 I thought I was getting another cyst in my one remaining ovary and that would end up getting removed too. I was going to get an appointment to have that looked into when something told me to just take a pregnancy test. I got some Dollar Store ones because I knew it would be negative.

I almost fainted when the two lines came up! Everyone, including the acupuncture doctor, was shocked ... except my obgyn, who was thrilled lol! I had to be very careful because of my health conditions, but I was monitored throughout my pregnancy. Soooo ... to make a long story short, we tried almost two years, were told we'd never conceive naturally, and here we are: our son just turned two!

itsmevkb · June 2013

Here are my stats:

First pregnancy - age 34 and it was our third month trying, I was charting

Second pregnancy - age 36 via IVF after 18 failed cycles including a bunch on clomid and 2 failed IUIs

Third pregnancy - age 37, we weren't really trying to get pregnant and actually assumed I wouldn't given our trouble trying to conceive our second child. I miscarried early in my second trimester.

Fourth pregnancy - age 38 after only two months of trying but I was using clomid. I miscarried this pregnancy as well.

Fifth pregnancy - age 39 after four months and two IUIs

Sixth pregnancy - age 40, not only were we not trying we were using protection.

stever · June 2013

34/35(it was my birthday week) - 1 cycle.

38 - 2 cycles.

eta - they were both conceived naturally but I temped, charted and used OPK's.

kristennd · June 2013

4 months at age 38.

GroverClover · June 2013

About 2 months. I stopped birth control pills mid-November and found out I was pregnant mid-February (about 7 1/2 weeks along). After stopping BC's, it took me 6-7 weeks to have a period. I was waiting for my next period and just felt funny, so I took a pregnancy test. It was positive and I was SHOCKED!! I thought it would take us longer....we were very very fortunate! I was 35 at the time and am 37 now.

tashadee75 · June 2013

We were NOT trying but I conceived after about a year of not being on the pill. I was off and on the pill since I was about 16 mainly for period regulation. We had no plans to have kids. For some reason when I hit 35 I felt like it was just "time" to get off the pill. I don't know what my logic was other than I didn't want to have to take them until menopause. So I felt like since my periods were irregular and I was 35 my chances of pregnancy was pretty slim. But I conceived a year later at 36 after implementing a diet and exercise regimen where I lost 43 pounds.

Apparently the regular exercise as well as the weight loss regulated my period and so ovulation was regulated as well and I now have a little one whose 3 months old. :-)

ELF4321 · June 2013

Just a reminder that you only asked this question to women who DID get to have children. There is a large number of women over 35 who are still struggling to have a child, or who have given up trying after years without success. As I said previously, others' experiences have no bearing on your own likelihood of success.

CrazyMary77 · June 2013

At 34 I conceived naturally after about 8 months, but I think it took us that long because DH was under a lot of stress at work. As soon as we went on a long vacation, we conceived.

stever · June 2013

ELF4321:
Just a reminder that you only asked this question to women who DID get to have children. There is a large number of women over 35 who are still struggling to have a child, or who have given up trying after years without success. As I said previously, others' experiences have no bearing on your own likelihood of success.

Yup.

jlw2505 · June 2013

#1 took 7 cycles naturally, used digital fertility monitor and temping after the 1st 5 months. I was 34 (delivered at 35). #2 was the 1st try and 36 (37 when delivered). My girls are 21 months apart.

Reilly626 · June 2013

I had a blocked tube that didn't unblock so we did ivf bc I was 37 and didn't want to waste time. I was blessed with boy girl twins!

vlevitt · June 2013

We started TTC the month we got married. I was 35.

It took just under two years to conceive naturally.

I temped, charted, used a clear blue monitor and had a number of tests done to determine the reason I was not getting pregnant. Every test, including a laproscopy and various blood tests came back as normal, as did DH's results. Finally I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility and it was recommended that due to my age we pursue IVF. I found out I was pregnant about two weeks before we were set to start IVF. DS was born six months ago, when I was 38.

Id like to have another, but based in my history, I don't have any illusions about the possibility of conceiving again. My advice to the op is to start TTC as soon as possible, as you have no idea how long it will take you to conceive (if at all).

Junebug060609 · June 2013

1st BFP was 2 months trying at 34 (m/c)

2nd BFP was three months later after a month TTA (docs orders) and then 2 months TTC. Resulted in DS. I was 34 for this one as well.

3rd BFP was 4 cycles of NTNP (second month with decent timing) once AF returned after BFing. Ended in a m/c. I was 35 when I got pg and 36 for the m/c.

We're currently trying for BFP #4...so far it's 7 cycles total, 6 TTC (had to skip the first, docs orders again). I'm apparently a poster child for fertility dropping off after age 35. We have an apt with an RE later this month Sad

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