Why am I still nervous to announce?

cwl3530 · June 2013

Hi ladies. I am a FTM at 16w1d and have yet to announce pregnancy on FB. I know to some this may seem silly but I almost feel like "it's not official til it's on Facebook" lol. We had a few scares in early pregnancy at 7 and 9 weeks (with bright red bleeding/cramping) so I guess that's why I'm still worrying. Our last two appts at 10 and 14 weeks just included Doppler of baby's heartbeat which is always reassuring. We have announced pregnancy to all of our close friends and family, but something about having the world know still freaks me out. We are due Nov 18th, so took a cute picture with a 'baby's 1st thanksgiving' bib and will post a caption of "Gobble, Gobble. Our first little turkey is due Nov 18!" While I am super excited about the way we are going to announce, I wish I didn't feel so nervous and worried. Everytime I read something about someone having a late miscarriage, I can't help to worry even more. Please tell me I'm normal or help me for ways to not be so nervous!!!!

Mollysky7312 · June 2013

I think you are past the risk now and that you should kick back and relax : it's ok to post, if you're comfortable doing that. People are going to figure it out really quick anyways...! : you are probably hesitant because of your past experiences, and that's understandable.

CML8413 · June 2013

You're not alone. While I don't plan on announcing on facebook at all, the word has gotten out at my office. I've put off saying anything--it's always, "After the next appointment, I tell." Well, my 16-week appointment is next Monday and I'm pretty sure my entire office is having their suspicions confirmed. (I'm starting to show and a few close coworkers know. Y'know, the whole gossip circle of life.)

I have to remind myself that if something bad happens, it happens. It's absolutely no one's fault and I won't be the first woman to go through it. Hopefully, everything will work out fine.

MrsApplelovesMrApple · June 2013

melisx33:

My thoughts are "anything could happen at anytime". You never know, so it's never really a "safe" time, just a "safer" time when the risk is lower (after first trimester).

Enjoy your pregnancy. I too had bleeding issues with an SCH at the 7 weeks and a septate uterus that may pose problems later, but there's nothing I can do but stay positive and enjoy the support of our loved ones.

This.

Prell2013 · June 2013

I feel the same way I am behind you at 15 weeks but so nervous. My in laws decided to tell the whole family last week which was a huge fight since we asked them not to...
I don't think I am going to do FB announcement until 20 weeks I hear you on everything you are saying!

Temp878586125009588 · June 2013

I feel the same way, I've had multiple losses in the past, but I'm now 10 weeks past my furthest point. We ended up "announcing" on FB at 16w5d I believe. I'm still nervous that something can happen at anytime, and I don't think that will go away. Like a PP said, anything could happen at anytime. No need to hold back anymore, you are into your 2 tri. But, do it when you are ready! But try to relax, though I know it's easier said then done.

desguti023 · June 2013

I'm 18 weeks and feel the same! I still get nervous talking about my pregnancy to those who already know. I'll probably wait till 20 weeks to announce on fb and will still be nervous lol good luck!!

CADE387 · June 2013

I'm 16w2d and am nervous too. We have told a few folks but I have held off on the FB announcement. We have a DS, but also had a loss over the summer at 10w. I was all set to post and have had some brown spotting this morning. It is light enough the doctor isn't concerned (at this point), but I'm still scared to post.

Mailmans Baby Momma · June 2013

We haven't gone official yet either and I'm 15w 2d. We've taken the picture we are gonna use and everything, but are waiting to post until I feel comfortable. Probably wont be until after the AS at this point.

AlisonandMark · June 2013

I totally understand!!

I am at 17 weeks and still have only told some of the immediate family... not all of them (my own mother does not yet know). I'm high risk (type 1 diabetic) and am concerned that if something bad does happen I really don't want to have to untell anyone except for our immediate family.

I'm extremely nervous about posting anything on FB or even letting our close friends and other family members know... I do hope this feeling goes away soon though because sooner or later I'll start to show and won't be able to hide it any longer!!

Perhaps I'll feel differently after our level 2 u/s in 2 weeks *fingers crossed*

Your announcement idea is very cute and I'm sure your FB friends will be very supportive whenever you decide to share your news. Good luck!!

LoveOfMikesLife · June 2013

I had a full term still birth so there is no announcing on FB until the baby is out alive for me. Un telling sucks and there are always people that miss the " my baby died" post and ask how baby is.

i don't mean to sound like a downer but there is no "safe zone" so given that you just have to do what you feel comfortable with.

JaneD112013 · June 2013

I'm nervous as well, I'm 14w4d I don't think we'll be doing any announcements on Facebook until after the anatomy scan. We told our family last week and a couple close friends but that's it.

eleanorserina1 · June 2013

I have not announced on FB. Each to their own but letting 350 plus know my business is just too much for me.

I've told everyone that I feel I want to know now to be honest. My closest friends are not even on Facebook.

When I have LO then I may announce it. Lol

jagrant · June 2013

I completely understand. We didn't tell family and a few close friends until 13 to 14 weeks. This is my third pregnancy after two miscarriages so we wanted to wait. We are not announcing on Facebook until after our anatomy scan at 18 weeks. As an OB nurse working in a hospital with high risk pregnancies I am aware of so much that can go wrong, but if I focus on that I won't fully enjoy my pregnancy. It's been a struggle for me not to worry, but I'm learning to let go. Announce only when you are comfortable.

babymama619 · June 2013

1. You don't need to put it on FB. If all your close people know, then who cares.
2. I put mind up just to get the news out w/o having to deal with actually telling periphery people. It did totally feel like "no turning back now!" Once I hit post. Do if you're not ready then wait.
3. It might even be fun to wait until you're really showing and then just put a pic. of you and DH up doing something mundane.

Either way do it when you're comfortable. Btw, I'm due on the 18th too

brandiek1978 · June 2013

I didn't want to announce to anyone but our parents to begin with because I had a preterm birth at 28 weeks and just the thought of having to tell people I'd lost another baby would have devastated me. But things didn't work out that way, my DF was so excited he told everyone he could as soon as we were sure. I don't blame him, it's his first. Either you will know it when you feel comfortable or someone else will let it slip for you.

RachelLou13RN · June 2013

I feel the same way, still have not made it FB official either! We have told family and some friends. I am due Nov. 17th, this is my first pregnancy. I'm also just worried something will happen, even though I know I'm past the point where I should be. I also have a close froend who just had a miscariage at 9 weeks so that doesnt help. Maybe were just worry warts! I hope we both start feeling less stress soon!

triple_sevens · June 2013

It's normal to be nervous about letting people know, especially if you've had fears about the pregnancy. I've had two losses and have been very anxious when pregnant with both my son and this current baby. Telling people brings the anxiety up, so I back off when it gets to be too much.

You also don't *have* to announce on facebook. A lot of people don't. If you think it would be fun, then just wait until the time feels right and go for it. But if it will worry you, then don't yet. I waited until 26 weeks with my son, and then we just posted a picture that showed my belly. My husband really wanted to reveal something and that was as much an announcement as I could handle. I suspect we'll do something similar this time.

purpleflower · June 2013

We also have not announced it FB yet. I plan on announcing after our A/S. I will be 20wks 4 days. I figured since I waited this long and we are so close to knowing the sex of baby, we will just announce it all together!

I hate when people say not to worry you are safe now...there is no "safe time". It is ok to feel nervous about sharing and wait till you feel ready for the world to know!

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HisBelovedPrincess · June 2013

Yeah, we haven't announced either, though everyone we want to know, already knows. I think for me, it's not the fear of something happening (ok maybe a little bit) it's more the fact that I have gone through a friendship with someone who struggles with infertility, and have spent a lot of time trying to be very sensitive to others who might be happy for me, but hurt because their hearts desire isn't fulfilled yet. So, I keep saying to myself "do I really even need to post something?" but, I've kind of layed low for the last 2 months, as I'm sure petite and between bloat and having no where to go but OUT...but I am showing pretty siginifcantly, so when I start to see people out at about I'm sure it will make it's way to facebook sooner than later.

cwl3530 · June 2013

You all are so right!! Thanks for the support. I passed a church sign this morning on my way home from work that said "you can worry or you can trust God" and boy is this true. Worrying isn't going to get me anywhere.

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