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sfeebs13
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Mixed feelings.
sfeebs13
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I'm glad this board is here. I didn't know it was til the other day but just lurking has helped me.
I'm sure this is a very silly thing to worry about. However, my DF has three children with his XW. We had an unplanned pregnancy join our lives last nov I am due in August. He has two boys and one girl.
When he talks about his children he talks almost strictly about his daughter. She is 10. I am pregnant with a baby girl also and today we found out its possible she may have a clubbed foot. I guess I am just concerned he may not love our little girl as much as the other. He loves me very much and has recently shown a lot more excitement towards baby girls arrival.
I don't know why I think this way. Thanks for letting me vent, I guess
I'm sure this is a very silly thing to worry about. However, my DF has three children with his XW. We had an unplanned pregnancy join our lives last nov I am due in August. He has two boys and one girl.
When he talks about his children he talks almost strictly about his daughter. She is 10. I am pregnant with a baby girl also and today we found out its possible she may have a clubbed foot. I guess I am just concerned he may not love our little girl as much as the other. He loves me very much and has recently shown a lot more excitement towards baby girls arrival.
I don't know why I think this way. Thanks for letting me vent, I guess
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Re: Mixed feelings.
Vent away, it helps to get things out before they consume us.
I'm not a step mom,(my husband is the step parent) and when I was pregnant with Alexis I worried about how I would feel towards her compared to my older kids. Silly things would enter my mind and I wouldn't be able to shake it. When I finally had her in my arms I realized just how much time I wasted worrying about nothing. For men a lot of times they don't get excited till baby is almost here some not even till after they are born. I hope this is the way it is with your fianc?.
If his relationship with BM was volatile and yours is not this will be an entirely different experience for him. Don't worry it into being something stressful, though I understand the temptation. Just enjoy this experience with him.
It does bother me that he is so focused on his DD and not his DSs. That does not bode well for how this will work with another DD - for either DD or for your DH. An understanding around why this is true, if he is aware, etc. might be good.