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50/50 Custody

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Its been a really long time since I have been on but I needed to go some where. I have a 50/50 custody with Connor's (my son) father which was some thing that was agreed apon with out any kinda fight because his father is a great father and he deserves it. We have had it now for about 6 months and Connor is doing fantastic with it. It was such a smooth transition for him...me on the other hand...not so much.

After the first month of having just a lota too much vodka on the nights I didn't have Connor I cut back quite a bit. I do have a tendency to go to the bottle though the first night after my 5 night stretch(once every 2 weeks).

 Tonight I did not...its really hard. I miss him so much and I just want to hold him. I can barely sleep when he's not in the house. Waking up is miserable...with out his smiling face and bright blue eyes..."Morning Mommy. We had a good day yesterday!" and then he tells me all about it. Then he always asks if we can have a good day today. 

 I know this is best for him and I am not looking for advice or judgement. This is just really hard and there is not a lot of people I know who understand. Most moms just look at me horrified that I would even allow 50/50 to happen (but most moms my age in my town have crack head fathers for their babies). I just needed a safe place to speak my peace. Thank you.


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  • tracy41tracy41 member
    I know how hard 50/50 can be, although my became 70/30 no matter what it says on paper. Thankfully due to our work schedules we have to share custody a lot closer than most and I never go more than 3 days without my son. What does get me through those days is FaceTime. It is part of our informal agreement that whoever doesn't have him gets to speak to him via FaceTime every morning and every evening. Sometimes he's too busy playing to talk but I spend a few minutes watching him play and it makes a big difference. Would your son's father agree to something similar?
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  • newmompeanutnewmompeanut member
    I'm in the same boat as you are.  My XH and I have 50/50 custody.  My DD is almost 4 months and we started the overnights at dad's house around 4 weeks.  It's terrible and I truly hate it.  I cry every time that she's gone overnight.  I completely understand.
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