When you say no...

DemoDoll · June 2013

If DD is getting into something she shouldn't be I say no a fews times right at eye level and she just keeps doing it and looks back at me and smiles. I know she knows what I'm saying. I always have to resort to saying no very stearnly. When I do this she gets a super sad face and cries. Does this happen to you guys? What works for you? Would you pick her up when she's crying and comfort her? I normally pick her up and hug her and explain that she can't play with :insert object: because it's dangerous, then I take her to a new toy or area to play.

Am I do this wrong? She still goes back to the same dangerous stuff or the damn toilet, she loves it! Will it just take time to remember those are off limits or is she still too young to comprehend no?

CLeigh03 · June 2013

I don't say no sternly at this age. To me, there's no point.

All I do right now is say something like this 'no, we don't bite your brother, we touch him nice like this or give him a high five!' Then I distract him with a new place, toy, etc.

Jnmac83 · June 2013

That sounds pretty much like the scenario at our house too. I will usually pick O up and say "that's not for babies!" And move him over to his area to play. Two seconds later he's back to whatever he shouldn't be playing with, but I know it'll just be constant like that for the next...oh...15 years. ;
ETA: oh yeah I'm not stern either. It's not my strong suit. Lol.

MommyMelRN · June 2013

I think at this age they are just starting to get the concept of no. We do pretty much the same thing, except remove DS right after saying "no" and explaining, and try to distract him with something else, giving him lots of praise with the new "whatever."

SpruceGrouse · June 2013

I think DS is super sensitive or something because if I quietly say no to him (I don't have any expression on my face and I look him in the eye), he gets the saddest face and cries until he notices something else to move on to.

I think what helped him catch on was my blank expression, no smile, no anger, nothing. I held the eye contact and slowly shook my head.

Before he caught on I just had to keep up with the re direction.

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

I sternly say no, thats not safe and he'll usually stop what he's doing but 95 percent of the time he tries again three seconds later and I say no again and he'll stop again for a bit. When he attempts a third time I say no again and move him to a different place. Obviously for something dangerous I say no and move him right away.
I think you're doing just fine Demo.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

He mocks me and says "Neh neh neh!"

DemoDoll · June 2013

Baker_Bride:
He mocks me and says "Neh neh neh!"

Lol baker! I swear she is mocking me when I say no the first few times. This morning she sounded like she was saying her version of yes when I said no, which sounds like "eeh" with raised eye brows.

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

DemoDoll:
Baker_Bride:
He mocks me and says "Neh neh neh!"
Lol baker! I swear she is mocking me when I say no the first few times. This morning she sounded like she was saying her version of yes when I said no, which sounds like "eeh" with raised eye brows.

LOL! Ollie does this to me too. It's so cute.

latnprincess · June 2013

Redirection and repetition is the name of the game at this stage. They'll get it eventually, but they're so curiuos their curiousity gets the better of them.

JayandEmm · June 2013

I just say no and redirect. Sometimes I have to do it 80 times, but eventually he loses interest and finds something else.

piphigirl · June 2013

I say no in a serious voice, and then move her or give her a different item to play with. I will usually explain what we're doing. Such as, "No, Charlotte, you cannot stand in the bathtub. It is too slippery. Sit on your bottom and play with this toy instead." Then, in theory, she is distracted.

piphigirl · June 2013

Oh! And if I am holding her and she grabs my hair or jewelry, I do use a semi-stern voice to say, "No. Mommy's." This usually puts her off after 1-2 grabs. She knows what it means.

Tula214 · June 2013

I shake my head, and say no. He then smiles, stops for one second, and keeps going. I say things like, "that's not for babies," and try to redirect. If he is being rough I tell him, "no, we touch nice."

AmySmolos · June 2013

I do the same thing and ds reacts the same way! I find I have to say it stern or he thinks I'm playing. I explain why and constantly redirect. He doesn't get it and I don't expect him to. Sometimes he will stop mid reach at a cord when I say his name and no then I praise him and make a big deal out if it!

alitria · June 2013

I say no in a stern voice and move him. I can tell he's figuring out what I mean because if I say no, he'll stop and shake his head no. Then he often goes back to what he's doing and I say no and move him away. I've noticed if my DH says no, he's more likely to actually stop.

If he does something like pull my earrings or slap me, I say no. If he does it again, I say "no, don't hurt mommy" and put him down and walk away for a minute. Then I go back and pick him up. After a few days, he has gotten much better about slapping me. For a while it was a fun game, but putting him down and walking away for a minute when he does stuff that hurts or it throwing a tantrum has worked pretty well.

I know they don't understand everyting but I also know receptive language develops long before expressive language so I think he's getting the hang of simple words at this point. If he's old enough for simple signing, I think he's old enough to get what "no" means, even if he doesn't always stop and needs to be redirected.

Andreabks · June 2013

DH and I say no a little sternly if she's getting into something dangerous. if she keeps doing it then we pick her up and re-direct. they're too young to understand the word "no" but they can understand the

mollyxcate · June 2013

Whenever I say 'no' Chloe smiles or giggles, no matter how I say it. She absolutely knows what I mean but does not care. I figure she'll start learning when shes older but right now communication is limited. I just keep saying 'no' and redirecting.

WhitEm14 · June 2013

MommyMelRN:
I think at this age they are just starting to get the concept of no. We do pretty much the same thing, except remove DS right after saying "no" and explaining, and try to distract him with something else, giving him lots of praise with the new "whatever."

This is what we do, too.

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