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Guess it's "Guilt Trip Monday" NBFR - long
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My son's 8th grade promotion is next Thursday (holy crap he's going to be a High School-er!!) and I asked my folks if they wanted to come since it?s early enough in the day and they won?t have to battle traffic going home. Mom and Pops said they wanted to come and it?s all set.
Today my Mom emails me and asks if the kids can go home with them after the ceremony and have them for the weekend. We are going out of town next weekend for Father?s Day, and I told my mom we were planning to leave Thursday when DH gets home from work. She asked if they could have the kids for the week when we get back, and I told her that DS has football camp Mondays thru Thursdays from 2pm-4pm starting June 17 through July 19, but that they could have the kids from Thursday after practice or Friday morning until Sunday night or Monday morning before DS' football starts again. She starts asking if they?re even going to get to see the kids for their birthdays since we "keep the kids so busy". Eff you Mom. When have I ever kept the kids from her? Never. In fact, I've rearranged things in the past so that the kids can spend extra time with my parents, even if it made things really inconvenient for us. I let her know that we are still going to do a family get together for the kids? birthdays, that MIL will be out here the entire month of July and there will be plenty of weekends they can see them.
This is what I get back: "You are going to have to give the dates that might work. I get all the 'days' mixed up ... I'm sure MIL will have lots of fun with the kids. At least when she is here she gets to see them often. Even tho we 'live' local, we don't get to see them like we would love to ... the drive seems so far/long ... " And so that?s my fault? I?m sorry, I have a 6 month old and driving an hour and 20 minutes to see them and then drive another hour and 20 minutes to come home is a bit much for us right now. They?re retired with plenty of spare time, is it wrong for me to expect that they be the ones to do the driving? And it?s my fault that my mom is so flighty that she can?t remember the days Thursday through Monday? Total BS.
I hate that she makes me feel guilty for them not seeing the kids as much as they would like to. I hate that she?s twisting my kids? activities into us "keeping them so busy". She has to remember what is was like when I played volleyball in HS and had practices Monday thru Thursdays from 7am-2pm all frigging Summer until school started. I didn't blame her for "keeping me so busy".
Ugh. End vent.
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Re: Guess it's "Guilt Trip Monday" NBFR - long
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I think our moms are sisters.
If we go to ILs to grill and swim she just has to say something about "the kids probably had a great time, how nice" but her tone says "death to you all".
Me too
Ugh, I'm sorry. MIL is the issue for me - EVERY time we visit she makes SEVERAL remarks about we should move up there. It's 5 hours north from where we are now. She knows we can't, and that we don't want to. I will never trade being close to my parents while the kids are young, I'm really close to my family and DH isn't close to his, and my parents are way better with the kids, are easier to get along with, and we trust them 1000x more to watch the kids. The ILs have still not babysat our kids, and we don't plan for them to anytime soon. Not to mention we can't move up there because of DS's visitation with BD. Oh, and it's FREEZING.
Hmm, that turned into a bit of a vent haha.