My Child is Doing Horribly with Moving

rjeller32 · May 2013

I had posted earlier about my concerns for how well my LO will take moving. Well, it has blown up in our face.

She won't sleep. She is constantly crying to go "home". She has stopped eating, and has regressed in her PTing. I don't really know what to do. It's our third night in our new house, and she refuses to even sleep in her room, because it's "not hers". I feel so bad, and really just want to make her feel like this new place is/will be her home.

I tried getting her excited by picking out paint and wall decals. I let her help me unpack her stuff. She was totally forewarned about our moving for quite some time before it actually went down. I just don't know what I am doing wrong, or what I need to do to help her work through this. But it's just not getting easier. I know time will help, but I am at my wits end with the constant crying and fits.

logoz80 · May 2013

Is there anything from the old house that you can use to make her feel at home?

lilles · May 2013

We just went through this. It took my DDs about three weeks of tantrums at the new place plus the youngest (3) started wetting the bed again. Just try to make it as normal as you can for her and try to keep the same routine you had if possible.

rjeller32 · May 2013

Crash Into Me:
How close are you to having her room finished? We moved a few months ago and had DD's room completely done before we moved in. I felt that if her room was complete and all of her stuff was around, she'd have a much easier transition. Do you still have a lot of stuff in boxes? I'd put some serious effort into emptying those boxes once the LOs are in bed. If she sees all of the normal stuff she might feel more comfortable. Or, maybe you could have her "help" you unpack.

Her room was completely ready for her when she got back from her weekend with her gma, except for a few boxes I left for her to help me with, and we're done with those now. We spent the day before her trip up there picking out colors, and talking about how she wanted it set up, and she is still upset. Last night, she tried dragging her mattress out of the front door, and said "I'm going home now!" haha.

I just feet like nothing is helping.

rjeller32 · May 2013

lilles:
We just went through this. It took my DDs about three weeks of tantrums at the new place plus the youngest (3) started wetting the bed again. Just try to make it as normal as you can for her and try to keep the same routine you had if possible.

Great, thanks for the advice. I suppose 3 weeks isn't so bad. We are trying to keep the same routines and day to day activities, so we'll see how she does with it. Hopefully she starts to settle in more.

Jen&Len · June 2013

DS stopped by the new house a bunch of times before we moved (we had to do some renovations, so we didn't move in right away) and loved the house. He begged us to let him eat his lunch in the basement playroom while the guys were working on the upstairs. He bragged to everyone about his new room. We thought for sure the adjustment would be a piece of cake.

Nope. We had about a month's worth of meltdowns and tantrums...and then that was it. He has been totally fine since. We live very close to our old house, so we have to drive by it sometimes. DS will point at it and say it's out old house, but he leaves it at that. Hang in there!

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