Thinking about a second baby

JessAnnJ · June 2013

Now that I feel like we have settled into a routine we are starting to talk about the timing of baby number two. I know that I've seen at least one post from someone that is already pregnant, but for everyone else if you plan to have more children are you starting to think about when you will start trying for another? For STMs I'm curious how you feel about the spacing of your LOs.

I'm 32 so I think we will probably start trying in December. December feels really soon but I'm not getting any younger and we would like our LOs to be relatively close in age.

kjsmith9 · June 2013

We would ideally like 3 or 4 kids, but won't start trying for #2 until DD is probably around 2.5 years old. After that we may have them about 2 years apart.

nanabanana06 · June 2013

Rosie was 20 months when I got pregnant with Cade. It's been a rough transition, but it's been easy for other things. Rosie is just very strong willed. I like the spacing. We're waiting 5-6 years to have out 3rd and final baby. I want to wait until I'm done with school and the kids are in school to have another baby.

rjeller32 · June 2013

I preferred to enjoy my LO's baby years before I TTC #2. She was 18 months when I got pregnant, and they are 26 months apart exactly. I like it because DD1 is old enough to help me with DD2, and they are still pretty close in age that once DD2 starts getting more mobile, they'll have fun together.

Right now though, DD1 HATES DD2. Probably due to how high demand DD2 is. She never gets alone time with me like she used to. But I have heard they adjust the older the younger one gets.

Just do what works for your family!

nanabanana06 · June 2013

rjeller32:
I preferred to enjoy my LO's baby years before I TTC #2. She was 18 months when I got pregnant, and they are 26 months apart exactly. I like it because DD1 is old enough to help me with DD2, and they are still pretty close in age that once DD2 starts getting more mobile, they'll have fun together.
Right now though, DD1 HATES DD2. Probably due to how high demand DD2 is. She never gets alone time with me like she used to. But I have heard they adjust the older the younger one gets.
Just do what works for your family!

Rosie sometimes doesn't like her little brother either. She refers to him as Mommies Baby. Then throws fits when I can't get up and do things for her because her brother needs me. It's a tough thing to juggle. I think it's why we decided to wait so long to have our last baby.

dlbello23 · June 2013

We are also going to start trying for number two in December as well, I am 33 and not getting any younger either lol. We also want our lo's close in age but are only having one more.

Vana&Renn · June 2013

We're waiting until we start to potty train Rory. We only want one in diapers at a time so whenever that is, is when we will try

vlevitt · June 2013

We're considering starting on September, which is the earliest recommended timefollowing a c-section. I'll be 39 that month and I DEFINITELY am not getting any younger. We started TTC when I was 35 and it took me two years to get pregnant with DS. I'm hoping it takes less time for #2. I figure I have a max of about two years before my biological clock is expired, so we're in a hurry to start ASAP.

JessAnnJ · June 2013

vlevitt:
We're considering starting on September, which is the earliest recommended timefollowing a csection. nbsp;I'll be 39 that month and I DEFINITELY am not getting any younger. nbsp;We started TTC when I was 35 and it took me two years to get pregnant with DS. nbsp;I'm hoping it takes less time for 2. nbsp;I figure I have a max of about two years before my biological clock is expired, so we're in a hurry to start ASAP.

I was lucky the first time around but you really never know how long it will take. I would do the same thing you are doing if I were in your situation.

JessAnnJ · June 2013

Nana_Osaki06:
rjeller32:
I preferred to enjoy my LO's baby years before I TTC #2. She was 18 months when I got pregnant, and they are 26 months apart exactly. I like it because DD1 is old enough to help me with DD2, and they are still pretty close in age that once DD2 starts getting more mobile, they'll have fun together.
 Right now though, DD1 HATES DD2. Probably due to how high demand DD2 is. She never gets alone time with me like she used to. But I have heard they adjust the older the younger one gets.
Just do what works for your family!
Rosie sometimes doesn't like her little brother either. She refers to him as Mommies Baby. Then throws fits when I can't get up and do things for her because her brother needs me. It's a tough thing to juggle. I think it's why we decided to wait so long to have our last baby. 

LOL re the "mommies baby" reference. I'm sure that will be a funny story when they are older.

JessAnnJ · June 2013

dlbello23:
We are also going to start trying for number two in December as well, I am 33 and not getting any younger either lol. We also want our lo's close in age but are only having one more.nbsp;

We could end up with December babies again depending on how long it takes. We are also only having one more.

aander6 · June 2013

We are trying again in December also!! I really want my babies close in age!

Cellis · June 2013

I keep going back and forth on having another. I always wanted two kids because I loved having a brother that I did everything with and wanted the same for my child. Then I think of how hard this newborn stage has been and I'm like "I never want to do that again!" I'm also scared of how hard two children will be. DH wants two children and he would prefer them be as close together as possible. So, if we decide on another, we would probably start trying around December too.

twister22 · June 2013

DS is 4.5 and DD is our December baby. I really love the 4 year age gap between #1 & #2 - DS is the best helper and is absolutely in love with DD. DH definitely wants a 3rd, so I think we'll have a 3rd. There are some things we want to have in order before attempting to have another, and DH thinks getting those things together will take about 2 years. So that would mean another baby in maybe the first half of 2016. Which would make DS 7.5 years older than #3, and I'm not sure how I feel about that. I think that's a huge gap, I have trouble imagining them being close. Of course, I thought 4 years was a big gap and that DS & DD wouldn't be close, but they're so in love (at least so far!) DD & #3 would be a little over 3 years apart, which isn't bad.

Things are so up in the air right now. I think having kids closer in age would be more difficult in many ways, at least in the early years. Although things might get easier as they get older.

A friend of mine had 3 under 3 for a minute, her first is almost 4, her second is 2.5, and her third is 10 months. First & second are 17 months apart, and second & third are 18 months apart. I have no idea how she does it - she's seriously super woman.

Jacqui105 · June 2013

My girls are 22 months apart and I love it. DD1 was 13 months old when I got pregnant. I had just weaned her from nursing the week before I got pregnant so for me the hard part of the spacing is that I have been pregnant or breastfeeding for what, like 3 years now? I'm ready to have my body to myself. But the age gap so far seems perfect for us. I know it will change once DD2 can take her sister's toys and voice her own opinion. But I don't think that would change my view that I like the spacing we have. Right now she adores her baby sister and its the sweetest thing ever.

SingleMom31 · June 2013

We're going to start trying in January. I'll be 32 and SO will be 42... We're at least open to a third too, and we want to be done having kids by 40 and 50, respectively. So better get at it. That said, I'm a bit freaked out by the possibility of having 2 under 2. And going through labor again... I'm not 100 percent healed from last time yet.

SebsMum · June 2013

I'm another 32 year old not getting any younger and trying again in December! Party!!! I'm scared shitless about the idea of another newborn, but I figure having two close in age will be super easy later on in life, plus I don't know how long TTC will take. Don't remind me I said having two close in age will be super easy later when I'm tearing my hair out! Stick out tongue

MrsBigTime · June 2013

We're planning to wait. I don't think DH could handle two little babies! I also want to soak up every little bit of DD being a baby and I really don't want to have to work full-time when we have two. I think we'll start trying again when DD is closer to three.

+Sparky+ · June 2013

I've been ready for a 2nd baby for awhile, just not ready to be pregnant again. Being pregnant sucked bad. But having an infant has been super easy.

We are planning to start trying again before the end of the year. It took us 2 years to get pregnant with DD, and we got a surprise bfp in the cycle before we were going to do an iui. This time we are not waiting that long and plan to pursue an iui after 6 months. Especially since we found out my ob/ gyn does uiu's. Not only is he 3 hours closer but MUCH cheaper. And we are not getting any younger. We will probably both be 34 or 35 when we get another bfp.

kerbear135 · June 2013

We would both like another LO but it'll be awhile before we get things in order. A) We'd need a bigger house and

DH and I keep talking about wanting to switch jobs, so we'd probably want to do that and get established there before talking about having another LO...so it will be awhile....We're only 28 (almost 29) so we have some time to decide.

itsmevkb · June 2013

The two and a half year gaps between our first three was really great. The 16 month gap between our third and fourth has been a bit harder. Right now I don't physically feel up for another pregnancy and I am positive I don't want three under three. Ideally, we would try again when our baby is 18 months. However, there are medical issues which may push us to try again sooner. If our frozen embryo transfer doesn't take though I'm pretty sure we're done as I'm almost 42.

*LrCg* · June 2013

I'm a mother of 3 under the age of 4. The night our first baby was born, we were already planning the birth of our 2nd (yes, we are big planners- we've been very blessed to be able to even plan the season of their births). I EBF my 1st so we weren't getting pregnant as fast as we planned (we wanted them 1 year apart). When DC1 was 8 months old I got pregnant and he was 16 months old when DC2 was born- they are SUPER close and get along extremely well- they just adore one another. I couldn't imagine having them farther apart in age. Now with our 3rd we did a lot of soul searching because we had some complications come up with my pregnancy in our 2nd child but decided to go ahead and try one more time (we originally wanted 4 kids)- our kids were 2 & 3 when she was born. They adore her and I'm surprised how much they include her in everything, I was worried it was going to be too much of an age gap. Now we talk about #4 but although I would LOVE another, I'm not sure we will because of the age gap. I'm still EBF and not yet ovulating so if I would get pregnant, its possible by the time the bay was born, our oldest would be 5-51/2 and I think its just too much of a gap for me. For instance, this summer my son was a bit interested in summer soccer but I wouldn't let him because its evening games and babies go to bed by 6:30 pm and I would never want to miss his games (I EBF so I would have to nurse to sleep). To me, it wouldn't be fair to him to miss the games nor would it be fair to our baby to make them stay up late and be grumpy, etc.

Obviously, I like them close to age, I personally think its easier. People talk about the crying and late nights but honestly, I can count on 1 hand all the sleepless nights we've had with 3 kids combined. We've also never had 2 in diapers. I'm a good multi-tasker and we have always stressed the importance of respecting each of their sleep patterns the first few months that we've always had great nappers/sleeps so if I had older kids to run to/from events/school, it would be clear that the baby would always be the one to suffer and that's not fair to me. I just think with bigger age gaps, its like your constantly starting over.

aelhunt · June 2013

I think DD is a great baby and want to enjoy that. You never know what the 2nd one could be like. I also need to feel that she can do some things herself before I have another one. We will wait until she is 2 to start. I think I would throw up if I found out I was preggo now and not from MS! haha!

feistybear · June 2013

I'm not going to lie, I have been thinking a lot about another baby. We want to wait till the new year to start trying so that the two will be close to 2 years apart. I'm 23 and DH is 24, we'd like to have 2-3 children, so we have time. I just loved my little DD and I'm craving having a new baby again, as selfish as that sounds.

StefandTodd · June 2013

We wanted two, and wanted them 18-24 months apart. They're 15 1/2 months apart, heh.

I can't imagine when I would've ever said, "hey, let's TTC #2!"...My H was just saying the other day how happy he is it worked out the way it did b/c our first was (and is still) a pretty high maintenance baby. But we didn't think we'd get pg easily, and then ...we did! Baby #2 is much easier and more low key. And our complete little family is more perfect than I could've imagined. It feels like it was meant to be for us, but I can definitely understand that it's not for everyone too.

nadiag7 · June 2013

We started trying for another one last month. Seeing as I'm breastfeeding and haven't received my first red gift yet I doubt I will get pregnant until I stop breastfeeding in December. That wouldn't be a bad thing also because I love those winter babies!

ObLaDi · June 2013

I'm not even ready to think about a second baby! We talk about having 2, but for now, I can't imagine sharing my attention with a second child. I just want to enjoy DS for now.

lawjjg522 · June 2013

we want the babies vlose in age, but i dont want to take time away from faye either.. and Iw ant to BF until 12 months, which I know you cna do while pregnant, but ive read that some babys self wean because they dont like the taste any more...

We will probably start trying in October or November, Faye was a little miracle so i am hoping well have a 2nd little miracle.. Otherwise we have 4 frosties and we'll be trying a FET.. I think that if i'm not pregnant by Sept 2014 then we'll go that route.

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