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Separation Anxiety

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Anyone else's LOs show signs of separation anxiety?  Especially at night? My Los wake up EVERY night.  Go in, give them a pacifier, but they will make sure someone is still in the room. My DD will take the pacifier, close her eyes, turn her head to the side, then a few seconds later, look up to see if I am there.  If not, she starts hysterically crying! This happens with DS too, but not as bad. Nights have been SLEEPLESS and it's killing DH and I.
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Re: Separation Anxiety

  • opaque1997opaque1997 member
    Somewhat the same (different but similiar) - she's demanding to be physically touching me.. (in our bed preferabbly) - and crying for people she doesn't know
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  • eebaehreebaehr member
    DD is seven months and separation anxiety suuucks.  She freaks when anyone but DH or I hold her and checks to make sure I am still there if I move three feet away:(  It makes me sad because she cries for all her grandparents now.  We also have some more wake-ups at night but that could be her two spanking new teeth...I hope someday someone else can hold her without her losing it!
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  • amsel333amsel333 member

    Mine is a bit different. He is fine at night, and with anyone. But the moment i come home from work he demands, DEMANDS to be in my lap for the rest of the night. Im currently sitting not even 1 ft away and he will not calm down until i sit down with him in my lap for him to play. I don't know what to do at this point. He is 9 months now and this is a fairly new thing, he has always been jumpy when i get home but now it lasts all night and i cant get away even to go to the bathroom without him freaking out on me.

    All i can say is good luck and I hope it passes for all of us 

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    Im going to be harsh here.

    You guys need to handle this ASAP. Let them CIO, get used to "strange" people. Do you think you are at your best when you arent getting any sleep? Think about the behaviors that this could influence when they get older, all the way into adulthood.

    My cousin and his wife held their baby 24/7. This kid is almost 2 and I haven't even been able to hold him because he freaks out if he is not being held by one of them. I remember her, 8 months pregnant with a 10 month old on her hip looking absolutely exhausted. I always wondered how she would be able to hold 2 babies under 2. Let's just say it's been quite the transition.

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    imagemeowsm:

    Im going to be harsh here.

    You guys need to handle this ASAP. Let them CIO, get used to "strange" people. Do you think you are at your best when you arent getting any sleep? Think about the behaviors that this could influence when they get older, all the way into adulthood.

    My cousin and his wife held their baby 24/7. This kid is almost 2 and I haven't even been able to hold him because he freaks out if he is not being held by one of them. I remember her, 8 months pregnant with a 10 month old on her hip looking absolutely exhausted. I always wondered how she would be able to hold 2 babies under 2. Let's just say it's been quite the transition.

     

    This is terrible advice.  Separation anxiety is normal and most babies experience it at some point.   I would never let my daughter cry and just deal with it.  Babies need to know that they are loved and safe.  My daughter's pediatrician told me that I should comfort her and establish some kind of goodbye routine when leaving and stick to our nighttime routine to make it easier on her.  

     Our issue is when I shower she cries the entire time.  I still haven't figured out a way to keep her calm at that time.  

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    imageBeachBabe22:
    imagemeowsm:

    Im going to be harsh here.

    You guys need to handle this ASAP. Let them CIO, get used to "strange" people. Do you think you are at your best when you arent getting any sleep? Think about the behaviors that this could influence when they get older, all the way into adulthood.

    My cousin and his wife held their baby 24/7. This kid is almost 2 and I haven't even been able to hold him because he freaks out if he is not being held by one of them. I remember her, 8 months pregnant with a 10 month old on her hip looking absolutely exhausted. I always wondered how she would be able to hold 2 babies under 2. Let's just say it's been quite the transition.

     

    This is terrible advice.  Separation anxiety is normal and most babies experience it at some point.   I would never let my daughter cry and just deal with it.  Babies need to know that they are loved and safe.  My daughter's pediatrician told me that I should comfort her and establish some kind of goodbye routine when leaving and stick to our nighttime routine to make it easier on her.  

     Our issue is when I shower she cries the entire time.  I still haven't figured out a way to keep her calm at that time.  

     

    As with all things - I think there is a balance.. it sounds like pp poster is ticked that she can't hold her nephew.. which frankly sounds like a totally different issue.  I too have the baby that wants me to hold her (physically on my lap) all night - it drives me crazy because unless I'm out of sight / sound not even DH is good enough right now.  But I know as with all things - this too will pass.  That said - sometimes I tell her - Mommy is busy makign dinner - you are ok and Daddy is playing with you - and let her fuss / cry for a while.  Some nights I don't have the heart for it and through her in the sling and let her be with me while I cook / clean / etc.  At night I also do a combo - honestly sometimes depending on how tired I am.  Yes - consistency is critical for a lot of kids - I have a flexible kid so far and I let her lead me with some "I need to survive" thrown in there..  

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