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PaddlefisherPaddlefisher member
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So, I know once hubby & I announce, my awesome aunt & sister-like cousin will want to throw a shower. They're great people.  Only problem is: I am on a really specific diet - basically low carbs for the health of the baby.  Aunt & cousin are really into carbs and of course all baby showers have punch and cake, right??  I don't want to dictate the menu, but I do need to eat regularly and have no intention of eating cake or eating juice/punch. For dessert, I could have berries.  Plain.  Mose people want cake when they go to a shower, and no doubt cousin & aunt will want.  Do not want to show up and refuse to eat their cake, but I have to protect my little one.  Suggestions on how to handle?? 

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  • BeckyTheEngineerBeckyTheEngineer
    It sounds like you are getting ahead of yourself a little bit. This isn't something to stress about, now or later. IF your family offers to throw a shower and IF they have food you cannot have, it is not at all rude to not eat it. No one will really even notice.
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  • PaddlefisherPaddlefisher member
    Ok!  Thanks!
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  • Aurora317Aurora317

    imageBeckyTheEngineer:
    It sounds like you are getting ahead of yourself a little bit. This isn't something to stress about, now or later. IF your family offers to throw a shower and IF they have food you cannot have, it is not at all rude to not eat it. No one will really even notice.

    All of this. When I go to a party where I know there will be foods I can't have, I make sure to eat before I go, and then take a small cocktail plate and put tiny portions of the food on it. I can walk around with the plate, and since the portions are small it looks like maybe I've eaten a bite already, even though I haven't. If my DH is there he'll swap plates with me at some point, and if he's not I'll just quietly toss the plate whenever I get the chance. I'm sure we can offer more help if and when the issue actually arises, for now don't worry about it. Pregnant women typically have food they crave or can't stomach during pregnancy, so *if* they offer to hold a shower they might ask if there's anything you'd specifically like served. Ask for a big bowl of berries, tell them you can't get enough of them at the moment, or whatever food you want to have there when the time comes.

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  • PaddlefisherPaddlefisher member
    imageAurora317:

    imageBeckyTheEngineer:
    It sounds like you are getting ahead of yourself a little bit. This isn't something to stress about, now or later. IF your family offers to throw a shower and IF they have food you cannot have, it is not at all rude to not eat it. No one will really even notice.

    All of this. When I go to a party where I know there will be foods I can't have, I make sure to eat before I go, and then take a small cocktail plate and put tiny portions of the food on it. I can walk around with the plate, and since the portions are small it looks like maybe I've eaten a bite already, even though I haven't. If my DH is there he'll swap plates with me at some point, and if he's not I'll just quietly toss the plate whenever I get the chance. I'm sure we can offer more help if and when the issue actually arises, for now don't worry about it. Pregnant women typically have food they crave or can't stomach during pregnancy, so *if* they offer to hold a shower they might ask if there's anything you'd specifically like served. Ask for a big bowl of berries, tell them you can't get enough of them at the moment, or whatever food you want to have there when the time comes.

    Great ideas, especially with the small-portion plates!!  Thank you.  As you say "If" they offer... it is important to me not offend them by avoiding their food.  [We're of German heritage, and in the past my grandmother took it personally if someone didn't ask for seconds of her cooking.] 

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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member

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    I threw a shower for my SIL last month, for which I made cupcakes.  Honestly, I have no idea if she ate one.  I just wasn't paying attention.  If you don't want cake don't have any.  Although unless you are diabetic or have an allergy that could make you sick from it, I wouldn't worry about "protecting your little one" from a slice of cake. 

    This. I mean, if this is a real diet you need to follow for safety like an allergy, I get it. But choosing not to eat carbs for the "health of your baby" doesn't mean people need to make certain foods for you. Just eat before and skip the cake. 

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    Furthermore, while I think your dietary concerns should be taken into consideration, they shouldn't be primary concern in planning the menu.  The comfort and enjoyment of the guests should be.  Chances are the people that offer to host your shower know you well enough to know your concerns.  

    Since you haven't announced yet, I'm thinking you are pretty early on and probably getting way ahead of yourself. But I agree with this - the food is more for your guests than for you. I don't think anyone is really going to notice what you eat. Eat before hand or offer to bring some dishes to contribute.

    Honestly, unless you have some food allergy or medical issue, I'm kind of laughing at the thought you have to protect your LO from a piece of cake. I'm all for being health conscious and all, but come on.

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  • PaddlefisherPaddlefisher member

    Thanks to all for the good ideas!

    I agree that "protecting a little one" from a slice of cake sounds absurd.  As my doctor described it to me,  carbs cause "killer cells" (anti nuclear antibodies?) to be more active, and "killer cells" are why I lost my two previous pregnancies. I have made almost through week 13 by sticking to the diet and we plan to tell family next week. 

    Thanks again for the advice & ideas :-)

     



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  • RachieTKRachieTK member
    The hostesses will plan god that the guests will want to eat. You should tell them ahead about your restrictions so they can have special foods for you. Take a piece of cake anyway of its handed it you, and put it down when you can. You're restrictions shouldn't dictate them menu for others.
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  • Lanajax319Lanajax319
    I agree. Don't worry too much. I have a pretty restricted diet too. I'm gluten free intolerance and I have only eaten a few kinds of meat for many many years. When I an parties, I typically choose a menu that my guests will enjoy and have the variations set aside for me. My guests didn't shouldn't be subjected to gluten free cake or anything gross like that on my behalf. : Let your family choose a menu, but then call ahead wherever or plan aheadand make special aarrangements for yourself.
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