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DD cries for me EVERY time I walk in the room...

kjsmith9kjsmith9 member
in December 2012 Moms

Is 6 months the time for new attachment issues?

I love that she loves me and everything, but if DH is holding her, I literally can't walk into the room or be in her sight without her having a meltdown.  She loves DH to death - when I'm in the next room, I can hear her laugh at him.  When I work a weekend, he takes care of her all day and she's always perfectly fine.  Now all of a sudden she has to be in my arms if we're both in the room.

I think it's making DH feel bad, which makes me feel bad!

I'm assuming this is a phase?  For STMs(+), does this kind of thing go away pretty quickly?  Does it come and go as she gets older?  

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Re: DD cries for me EVERY time I walk in the room...

  • perfectlove09perfectlove09 member

    I'm a first time mom but I can tell you it's a phase. My LO is 5.5 months and this started last week. Exact same thing you said is going on here. DH feels bad and rejected a little but I keep telling him it's just a phase. This is when she is learning that she is not a part of you...have you noticed that you can tickle her now? It's a little confusing for them when you first start doing it because up until this point they have believed they are attached to you. It's weird to think and we can't understand it at our age but it's how they think.

    The tickling is startling at first as well as patting them or rubbing their back. They might look over like "What the hell was that?!" bc you can't tickle yourself lol so it's odd to them.

    It'll get better. just keep giving her lots of loves and it'll pass.

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  • meaglamillionmeaglamillion member
    It is a phase, and you will probably go through it several times and it might trade off with your spouse. I was just reading about milestones today, and the beginning of separation anxiety was right at the top.
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  • mama2manymama2many member
    Phase, and we're in it too. Usually Sundays are the day I get a couple hours "off duty" - but the last two E has cried the ENTIRE time I was gone, no matter what DH did to help him. Normally, he only cries at a nap/bed time - DH feels crappy, and I'm sad for them and a bit irritated about no time to myself until it changes.
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  • kerbear135kerbear135 member
    DD has been doing the same, but she wants DH instead of me. It doesn't bother me, I know it's just a phase and that there will be times she wants me and not him, but DH feels so guilty when she does it.


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