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Ashncal2012
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Gender Reveal Party
Ashncal2012
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I have a question regarding gender reveal parties. My SIL is pregnant with number 2, and she recently told us they are going to have a gender reveal party to announce the sex of the baby. Their DD1 is having a birthday party a month before the gender reveal and when we suggested doing it at the same time (the month shes having the party is inconvenient for most of us because of birthdays already taking up every weekend) she replied, "we want to keep it separate that way DD1 gets her own day and people will bring gift cards for the new baby since we're not having a shower". Now, I'm in the camp that gender reveals are AW and totally not my style at all, but I was going to go until she started talking about gifts being expected. Am I wrong? Thoughts?
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Re: Gender Reveal Party
I wouldn't bring a gift to a gender reveal party. Although, I also would not go to a gender a reveal party either.
It's pretty rude and presumptuous of her to expect gifts.
Yup. I'm all for gender reveals, as long as it's more along the lines of "Hey, we were having dinner/ getting together anyway and by the way we're having a ...! Here's a cupcake!"
Having one explicitly to get gifts? Super tacky.
BFP 3/29/2014 2u2 Let's do this!
I can see not wanting to have DD1's birthday be "overshadowed" by the new baby. Kids can be sensitive and sibling rivalry is real.
I personally wouldn't have a gender reveal party. I definitely think it is AW. I also don't think they are gift giving parties.
If your weekends are all full and you can't make it (or don't feel like it) don't attend. :-)
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
I get the part about not wanting to overshadow the other kid. I don't like the idea of combo parties no matter what or for whom they are.
As for the gender reveal party, if you are too busy, don't go. If you aren't happy for them or interested in finding out the gender with them, don't go.
Otherwise, just go and don't worry about taking a gift as they are not supposed to be gift giving events.
Maybe give your SIL the benefit of the doubt and think maybe she meant that some people might bring gift cards or token gifts since they aren't having a shower and some people just like to bring gifts or might want to give them something even if it's not expected. Some people just like shopping for baby stuff or don't like showing up to a party empty handed.