i'm 28 weeks pregnant and found out some devastating news... i'm not the only one he has pregnant.. :-( now i am heart broken and lost.. i never wanted to bring my baby into a broken home only because i grew up in one. Now i feel ( i know this sounds so bad and it hurts to say this) like i don't even want the baby but i know its only cause i am mad at him and i know things will change when i see the baby.. but i just feel so bad and now i don't know what to do.. now that depression is kicking in.
Sorry about your bad news. But keep in mind it isn't your or your child's fault he is a douche. It is your fault, however, if you stay with him. He is obviously not trustworthy. You deserve better.
there is no way i can stay with him.. i don't want to see him, hear from him or want him apart of my babys life.. but i know that is not fair to the baby.
My sons dad said this to me to piss me off when I told him I was pregnant. He thought it would be funny. I stopped talking to him and figured that he knew what was going on, I had made an effort to work something out with him and that if he wanted to be involved he had my number. I know my son will be better off without him, but I'm letting his dad have that choice. Maybe that's what you ought to do too. Stop talking to him, let him be and if he wants anything to do with his child then he will make the effort.
I know it's hard, I know it sucks but right now you have your beautiful baby to think about. Focus all of your time and energy into yourself and your baby and I promise your mind will become more at ease with everything. I always think about the women who have no choice to be single moms because their husbands/boyfriends passed away and figure that if they can do this alone so can I. It really will be ok.
Feel free to pm some time if you ever want to talk!
Oh wow, yeah i was very straight up with him and told him how things were going to be and he still can't leave me alone. He acts like nothings happened. Still tries to call me babe and i tell him no i have a name, use it. He gets mad but I have to keep reminding him that this is how HE made things. I should look at it like that.. if my mom could do it.. then i can do it too.. i just wanted my baby to have something i never had and that was a full time dad in my life.
I'm going through the same thing.. It's very hurtful and my BD acts like it shouldn't be a problem. Both women we both love him both want to be with him and its just hard to deal with. I dot want my son to not have his father but te situation sucks.
Re: alone and pregnant...
I know it's hard, I know it sucks but right now you have your beautiful baby to think about. Focus all of your time and energy into yourself and your baby and I promise your mind will become more at ease with everything. I always think about the women who have no choice to be single moms because their husbands/boyfriends passed away and figure that if they can do this alone so can I. It really will be ok.
Feel free to pm some time if you ever want to talk!