Cyber shower!

GalLaura · June 2013

As I've mentioned before, I moved to Australia this past September. My mom really wanted to throw us a cyber shower. We just had our cyber shower and it was great. We only invited family and my mom's friends which was still a lot of people. We Skyped in at 8 am our time which was 6pm there time. I thanked everyone and showed them the beautiful gifts they gave me. It went pretty well.

I did wake up pretty sad and had a big cry before the shower began. Being 37 weeks pregnant, not sleeping well and homesick can do a lot to your tear ducts. Anyway, overall it looked like a big success. I just wish I was there in person but I'm very grateful for all of it.

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cinderin · June 2013

This sounds like a horrible idea

GalLaura · June 2013

I wasn't actually posting for approval. I am sure of myself and the decisions that are made in my life. I was posting because several months ago there were a few threads about this type of shower and sip and sees for those living cross country or internationally. So for those in similar situations, whose families want to celebrate with them it was wonderful but may make you a bit homesick. Skype is an amazing tool for those living far away!

I understand that many people can't think outside the box and have preconceived notions of what is acceptable. So sarcasm and all its fine by me.

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HBirdie · June 2013

GalLaura:
As I've mentioned before, I moved to Australia this past September. My mom really wanted to throw us a cyber shower. We just had our cyber shower and it was great. We only invited family and my mom's friends which was still a lot of people. We Skyped in at 8 am our time which was 6pm there time. I thanked everyone and showed them the beautiful gifts they gave me. It went pretty well. I did wake up pretty sad and had a big cry before the shower began. Being 37 weeks pregnant, not sleeping well and homesick can do a lot to your tear ducts. Anyway, overall it looked like a big success. I just wish I was there in person but I'm very grateful for all of it.

It must be so hard to be far away from home. I cry sometimes from loneliness knowing full well that my husband will be home from work in six hours and my parents live thirty minutes away! At least you'll have a sweet baby to cuddle with soon.

Cleo421 · June 2013

Sounds awesome! We cyber showered a friend who'd recently moved really far away and it was so fun for us to watch her open everything and as you said, a little bittersweet for her.

PrimRoseMama · June 2013

My parents live across the country. I think a cyber shower [sounds like dirty porn lol] is still tacky. I just send thank you notes to those that send me gifts.

I mean, I'm glad it worked for you [how did you make it work with the time difference?!] but plenty of tacky, horrible things work for people.

Etiquette is never about thinking outside the box LMAO. In fact, etiquette is about thinking in a very specific box store because you care about your guests' comfort.

I'm sure that your guest loved staying up late or waking up early just to watch you hold up your gifts in front of a video monitor. Yeah...

GalLaura · June 2013

Thanks Cleo421,. I'm happy you had fun with your friend too. We had a similar shower for my friend in France too. I felt the same way.. Was so happy to see her face and belly!

GalLaura · June 2013

You assume people were inconvenienced. Never good to assume... And that can be viewed as tacky as well mNone of my guests were up early or late. I was up early to accommodate them.

GalLaura · June 2013

Hi hibirdie, it can be hard to be away from home, especially with a new baby on the way. People want to take part in the joy and of course you want them to as well. I'm sorry you get lonely during the day too!

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GalLaura · June 2013

As I said in my post, to each their own. Have a nice day ladies. I have no interest in arguing with people or being negative.

Burrberrymum · June 2013

I'm surprised at the amount of negative comments I wouldn't personally do an online shower because my family is all around me, but in your situation that actually sounds really lovely and comforting knowing your family wants to take the time to be there for you while you open your gifts... Can you imagine how lonely it would be to sit there alone and open them up by yourself? Good for you for not letting all these "rules" of what's tacky rain on your parade, and I'm sorry it made you homesick.

MrsHeeney · June 2013

Burrberrymum:
I'm surprised at the amount of negative comments I wouldn't personally do an online shower because my family is all around me, but in your situation that actually sounds really lovely and comforting knowing your family wants to take the time to be there for you while you open your gifts... Can you imagine how lonely it would be to sit there alone and open them up by yourself? Good for you for not letting all these "rules" of what's tacky rain on your parade, and I'm sorry it made you homesick.

I have to agree with you Burrberrymum!

Skalbrecht · June 2013

Agree with both you ladies. Not all of us are able to live close to friends and family!

mrsmcdonald · June 2013

Skalbrecht:
Agree with both you ladies. Not all of us are able to live close to friends and family!

I don't live anywhere near my family and I still think it's a tacky idea.

HBirdie · June 2013

mrsmcdonald:
Skalbrecht:
Agree with both you ladies. Not all of us are able to live close to friends and family!
I don't live anywhere near my family and I still think it's a tacky idea.

I am genuinely curious, not being sarcastic at all... why is it tacky? I really do want to know. Most things people post on here that bumpies find tacky (asking for books instead of cards, throwing your own shower, not sending thank you notes, having a shower for your second, baby-que's, and the list goes on...) are things that I agree are tacky or I at least understand WHY people think they're tacky. I really do believe in proper manners and etiquette, This one really does stump me. If people want to see her open the gifts they got, why not skype it? How is it rude at all?

GalLaura · June 2013

somerandomchick:
HBirdie:
mrsmcdonald:
Skalbrecht:
Agree with both you ladies. Not all of us are able to live close to friends and family!
I don't live anywhere near my family and I still think it's a tacky idea.  
I am genuinely curious, not being sarcastic at all... why is it tacky? I really do want to know. Most things people post on here that bumpies find tacky (asking for books instead of cards, throwing your own shower, not sending thank you notes, having a shower for your second, baby-que's, and the list goes on...) are things that I agree are tacky or I at least understand WHY people think they're tacky. I really do believe in proper manners and etiquette,  This one really does stump me. If people want to see her open the gifts they got, why not skype it? How is it rude at all?  

What's rude is that a baby shower is a gift giving party, and removing the party elements just makes it "give me a gift." An invite to an "online shower" is literally just an invitation to please send me a present.

A long distance shower, with or without Skype, is tacky. You can call or Skype your family and friends anytime, you don't need them to send you presents to do that.[/

Its a bit contradictory what you wrote. There was a party for all these people who planned on buying me gifts regardless. My mom was amazed at how many people wanted to know if they could send me something. She thought, ladies of etiquette, that she should provide them with a wonderful meal, a beautiful day on a lake and tons of drinks as thanks for their kindness. The bonus was that I was able to see them all too. For the record, I do Skype with most of the guests all the time too.

Lastly, any of you have a shower and say please don't bring a gift? So as long as it's not on skype I am hearing it is acceptable to ask for gifts.

blondii428 · June 2013

If that is the only option because the she is living far away and if someone else wants to throw it, it's not tacky. People don't have to be inconvenienced if they don't want to, it's that simple. They can choose whether or not to participate. I think that it's sweet that she was able to see and talk to everyone close to her.