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amy11401
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Multiple family members wanting to throw shower...what to do?
amy11401
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in Baby Showers
A couple of months ago I husband asked if I wanted to know anything about my shower...such as the date, planning etc and he starting talking about the possible guest list. I said I was fine to be surprised. We did briefly talk about the possible guest list. He never did tell me who was planning the shower but I assume it is his sister. Anyway I did mention that whoever was planning should probably contact my mom so that my side did not plan a shower too. Well today my mom called and said that she and my aunt wanted to throw me a shower and to give her some dates. I mentioned that DH had already mentioned that a family member had already planned on throwing a shower but again she reitterated that they wanted to throw one. I asked DH if he had mentioned to them about contacting my mom and he said that they probably had not began to formally plan it yet. So now I don't know what to do. I really just want to stay out of the whole situation. Just an FYI I am due September 25.
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Re: Multiple family members wanting to throw shower...what to do?
maybe each family is planning a shower for their side of the family?
you don't really have enough info to be worried yet.
You ask your mom and DH ask his family who they are inviting, that would give you more information.
Each guest should only be invited to one shower with the exception of the grandmas-to-be.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
From what my mom and DH says they were both planning on having it for both of the families/friends. Plus DH's family is really small.
If both are still wanting to give a shower,since DH's side is small, could friends be invited to that one, given by his side, and your mom have one for your side of the family? Two smaller showers might be nicer than one big one anyways.
You all are making this much more complicated than it needs to be.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Ditto ECB. You and your DH each need to call your moms and let them know that the other side of the family is thinking of planning a shower. You should each give your mom the other mom's contact info so that they can work this out.
Then relax and let them handle it. They will either decide to keep things separate and you'll have 2 showers, or they will decide to collaborate and have one big shower with everyone. Presumably they're adults who can handle this decision.